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🌈 Pride Month 2024 Forum Discussion Masterpost
by tommy
Last post
 1 day ago
...See more  Happy Pride everyone! I hope you are enjoying the month so far and are taking advantage of the different opportunities available to you across 7 Cups to celebrate. Please click here [https://www.7cups.com/forum/lgbtq/General_2455/PrideMonthCelebrationLetsComeTogether_330299/] for a thread outlining how we are celebrating Pride for 2024! We wanted to compile together all of the different forum posts, discussions and icebreakers/games into one place so you do not miss out on anything.  This is an inclusive celebration and many (if not all) of the discussions/threads are suited to everyone, not just those who identify as part of the LGBTQ+ community. Please let me know if you have posted a thread which you'd like adding to this list and thank you to everyone for making this celebration so wonderful!  🏳️‍🌈 Say hi and introduce yourself here [https://www.7cups.com/forum/lgbtq/General_2455/LGBTQAwarenessPrideMonthSayHiandIntroduceYourself_330296/] 🏳️‍🌈 Share your coming out story and offer support [https://www.7cups.com/forum/lgbtq/General_2455/ShareYourComingOutStoryOfferSupport_330608/] 🏳️‍🌈 Pride playlist: share your favourite songs [https://www.7cups.com/forum/lgbtq/General_2455/PridePlaylistShareYourFavoriteSongs_330457/] 🏳️‍🌈 How does your country celebrate pride? [https://www.7cups.com/forum/countries/General_2439/PrideMonthAroundtheWorldHowdoesyourcountrycelebrate_330635/] 🏳️‍🌈 What tip would you give to maintain a healthy relationship? [https://www.google.com/url?q=https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/RelationshipSpace_2168/Whattipwouldyougivetomaintainahealthyrelationship_330918/&sa=D&source=editors&ust=1718455179340454&usg=AOvVaw1moi-ymobKd-2mWbPwrWFE] 🏳️‍🌈 [https://www.google.com/url?q=https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/RelationshipSpace_2168/Whattipwouldyougivetomaintainahealthyrelationship_330918/&sa=D&source=editors&ust=1718455179340454&usg=AOvVaw1moi-ymobKd-2mWbPwrWFE] What is your favorite book with LGBTQ+ representation? [https://www.7cups.com/forum/reading/Books_2603/ShareyourfavouritebookwithLGBTQrepresentation_330925/] 🏳️‍🌈 [https://www.google.com/url?q=https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/RelationshipSpace_2168/Whattipwouldyougivetomaintainahealthyrelationship_330918/&sa=D&source=editors&ust=1718455179340454&usg=AOvVaw1moi-ymobKd-2mWbPwrWFE] Pride Parade! EmotionsListener 7 Cups pfps generator [https://www.7cups.com/forum/lgbtq/General_2455/PrideMonth7CupsPfpLGBTQPrideParade_331195] 🏳️‍🌈 [https://www.google.com/url?q=https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/RelationshipSpace_2168/Whattipwouldyougivetomaintainahealthyrelationship_330918/&sa=D&source=editors&ust=1718455179340454&usg=AOvVaw1moi-ymobKd-2mWbPwrWFE] Supporting a Loved One Who Identifies as Belonging to the LGBTQIA+ Community [https://www.7cups.com/forum/lgbtq/General_2455/SupportingaLovedOneWhoIdentifiesasBelongingtotheLGBTQIACommunity_331625/] 🏳️‍🌈 [https://www.google.com/url?q=https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/RelationshipSpace_2168/Whattipwouldyougivetomaintainahealthyrelationship_330918/&sa=D&source=editors&ust=1718455179340454&usg=AOvVaw1moi-ymobKd-2mWbPwrWFE] AMA with a 7 Cups Therapist [https://www.7cups.com/forum/therapy/AMAwiththe7CupsTherapists_1133/CLOSEDtonewQuestionsAMAPrideMonthrelatedtoLBGTQIA7CupsOnlineTherapy_331001/] This masterlist will be updated each time a new thread is posted. Last update: 1 July 2024
Weekly Prompt #3: What helped you understand and accept your sexuality/gender identity
by ASilentObserver
Last post
 3 days ago
...See more Hi everyone, I hope you are all well. Last time we discussed, What one piece of advice would you give to your younger self? [https://www.7cups.com/forum/LGBTQMOGIISupport_58/DiscussionsandResources_2305/WeeklyPrompt2Whatoneadvicewouldyougivetoyouryoungerself_302416/] In today's prompt, I want us to take a minute of reflection and share what was the journey of coming out looked like for you. The prompt: What helped you understand and accept your sexuality/gender identity? What was that journey like for you? Share your thoughts with us. Join us in the LGBTQ Support Chat today! [https://www.7cups.com/chat/?c=mmRpeXyVlOJO42uXVVyYhttps://www.7cups.com/connect/groupChatrooms.php] [https://www.7cups.com/chat/?c=mmRpeXyVlOJO42uXVVyY] ------------------------- [http://twitter.com/share?url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.7cups.com%2Fforum%2FLGBTQMOGIISupport_58%2FDiscussionsandResources_2305%2FWeeklyPrompt2Whatoneadvicewouldyougivetoyouryoungerself_302416%2F&text=Weekly+Prompt+%232%3A+W+%407cups] [/sharer/sharer.php?u=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.7cups.com%2Fforum%2FLGBTQMOGIISupport_58%2FDiscussionsandResources_2305%2FWeeklyPrompt2Whatoneadvicewouldyougivetoyouryoungerself_302416%2F]
🌈 Share Your Coming Out Story & Offer Support! 🌈
by CheeryMango
Last post
 October 15th
...See more Hey everyone! Pride Month is a time to celebrate our identities, honor our journeys, and support one another. One of the most personal and powerful experiences for many in the LGBTQ+ community is the act of coming out. Whether you’ve already come out, are considering it, or are just here to support others, this is a safe space for you to share your story and offer encouragement. How to Participate: * Share Your Story: If you’re comfortable, share your coming out story with us. How did you come out? What was the experience like for you? How did it impact your life? * Offer Support: For those who have already come out, please offer advice, support, and encouragement to others who might be considering taking this step. * Ask for Advice: If you’re thinking about coming out and have questions or need support, don’t hesitate to ask here. We’re all here to help each other. ------------------------- Note: Please be respectful and supportive of everyone’s experiences. We are here to create a safe and welcoming environment for all.
TL;DR A guy in my Spanish class may or may not be flirting with me
by Enby15
Last post
 August 28th, 2023
...See more Hey Y'all. I (AFAB NB 16) have a crush on a guy (15) in my Spanish Class. We have had three days of school, and I am already crushing hard. He is charismatic, kind, adorable, and his sense of humor is amazing. On the first day of school, I was standing outside the classroom waiting for a friend. He was also standing outside the classroom, and he looks at me and says (in Spanish,) "How are you?" and I say (in Spanish) "I'm okay, how are you?" and we start talking. Afterschool, we walk home in the same direction, and we talked some more. Second day of school, we get our assigned seats, and he sits directly behind me. And I mean the back of my desk is pushed against the front of his. We sit in the back corner of the classroom. When he went to take his seat, he bumped himself and when I asked if he was okay, he said "Now I am." He makes little jokes with me throughout class. He also calls me short in Spanish a lot. I'm not actually that short. I'm a solid 5ft 5in. I'm pretty average. Besides he's maybe 5 inches taller than me. I should note that he calls me the feminine version of short, not the masculine one. I call him crazy (in Spanish), to which he always replies (in Spanish), smiling, "yes. Very." He mentioned that he learned Spanish from studying frogs in Spanish. I Love frogs. I have a frog beanie I made in my backpack. I showed him and his reaction was adorable. We did a class wide review quiz in class on that second day, where each student would get one question. One of the questions was "How do you say Miss in Spanish?" and he goes "rrrRrrr Senorita." (Idk how to spell it but he rolled his tongue before.) and it made me laugh so he kept doing it. On the third day of class, he called me the feminine version of short again and I corrected him to the masculine version. He asked if it would be the feminine one because I'm female. I wrote the word "nonbinary" on a piece of paper and showed him it. He nodded like he understood. I honestly couldn't decipher his reaction. I don't think he is mad, and I think he's okay with it, but I don't know. I'm nervous this will change his opinion of me. Our teacher was going over ways that we could get bonus points. One of them is to bring in an authentic Spanish dish for the class to share. She explains that cooking for the whole class and translating the recipe can be a daunting task, so we are allowed to work with a partner if we would like. He immediately turned to me and asked if I wanted to make churros with him. We also did one of those get to know you scavenger hunts where you have to find someone who has a dog and find someone left-handed and someone who likes math and write their names down in boxes. When the teacher told us to start, he immediately turned to me and asked me a lot of questions about me. He kept asking me questions even though I had filled out multiple boxes on his paper and he should probably talk to other people so that he gets full credit for the assignment. After I signed 3/15 of his boxes I went to go talk to other people. Even then. after maybe 15 minutes, he found me and asked me another question. When he asked me this question, he got super close to me I would say he was maybe 5 inches away from me. This gave me butterflies. I ended up signing another of his boxes. Because of the way our schedules work for school, our Spanish class has 20 more minutes than any other class, so the teacher gives us free time. He spent this free time showing me silly memes on his phone. I am incredibly neurotic and so I can't tell if he is just being friendly or trying to flirt with me. It also doesn't help that I get anxious about having crushes because I am nonbinary and it's hard to find someone who is attracted to nonbinary people. Do y'all think that he likes me? How do I navigate this? How do I flirt?
Internalized Homophobia
by proactiveBunny8502
Last post
 March 24th, 2023
...See more I am bisexual and non-binary. Growing up my family has always talked down on the lgbtq community. They are either very religious and strong republican views on genders and what not or just find the community as gross. This has made me very uncomfortable with myself. I feel a pressure to agree with them and hide my identity. It has gotten to the point where I don’t even talk to people within the community and I feel so ashamed of myself. I haven’t really come out to anyone explicitly, except my dad. And he has made rude comments to me before and been vocal about trans education for young people is wrong. I’m beginning to hate myself. Now when I talk to people who are disrespectful I just nod and smile and say I understand. I really want to be vocal because I know what it’s like to feel alone. I just don’t have any confidence in myself and now I’m growing my hair back out and trying to dress in a more conformist light. I’ve also been struggling with religion. I do believe in God, but I feel that I will never fit in within a church.
I’ve never dated a girl before
by MetaphysicalGrace
Last post
 March 10th, 2023
...See more So pretty much all of my life I have pushed aside the fact I like girls, being as I am one. I didn’t shame myself or anything, I just grew up in a religious house where that wasn’t a thing. And I’ve just turned 20, so I’m on this whole self exploration and finally exploring being with a girl and if that really is something I’m interested it. Here’s the only problem, I am COMPLETELY clueless! And I have a lot of questions but no one to really ask, so I’m going to spill them on here haha. So first one, how is dating a girl different from a guy? Like when it comes to flirting and how fast or slow you take things? I’ve been seeing this girl for a small bit now and we get along amazing, better than I have with any man. But we dont flirt all the time like I’m used to with males and like we didn’t kiss or anything on the first few dates. Is this okay? I know she’s told her mom about me and she’s told me she’s interested, so how do I move further with her (nothing huge just like holding her hand lol) without being too forward or pushy?
HELP
by MetaphysicalGrace
Last post
 June 8th, 2022
...See more i am a woman who’s only dated men but I’m bisexual, how is flirting with women different from flirting with men?
What should I do? I’m confused
by carefulGlobe6642
Last post
 June 8th, 2022
...See more So, I’ve hidden the fact that I’m bi, or well that i do have feelings for girls. But anyways Today’s drama lol is about how I feel numb, but at the same time Idkkk what I feel. I’m having girl and boy problems I’m having problems choosing between a girl and a guy. The thing is i left the guy to focus on myself. But Long story short we are to toxic for each other. It’s sad because I really love him but He did things that made me lose trust and over time I just mentally and physically checked out from our relationship. so even though I love him, I don’t think it’s appropriate to be in the relationship if we both are hurting each other. So then time passes like a week or so and This girl that I started to develop feelings for , which I had liked her but two years ago, she comes back. She kissed me, and for a sec I thought things were going to change and I was happy with her. But because of everything she thinks it’s too much and well she pulled away. And I respect her decision but Another problem is that I haven’t came out, mostly because I tried and my family’s response wasn’t as how I planned. Im scared because I don’t want to lose her but at the same time I’m not ready to be in a relationship. I’m trying to juggle so many things at once that I don’t know where to start healing. I’m open to any advice, even how to deal with my mental health please and thank you!
Bisexual
by dancinggirl2
Last post
 June 7th, 2022
...See more Hi, I'm Ava and I know that I'm bisexual. The problem is my parents are very religious and we always go to church and they always say it's always boys and girls together and that's it. I feel broken and alone because I can't ever tell them who I truly am and I don't mean to feel like this, sorry.
Is my sexuality valid??
by ZJK
Last post
 February 2nd, 2022
...See more I am Omnisexual (much like Pansexuals, Omnisexuals like people of all genders, however we are not genderblind and a persons gender does play a part in our attraction to a person) and many people keep telling me that 'I just made that up and that I am actually Pan/Bi, even people within the LGBTQIA+ community. I have started to doubt I am valid
Hi, bisexual problems
by Oceanthinking8455
Last post
 November 27th, 2021
...See more Hi everyone, i'm a bisexual woman, and i'm starting to think that maybe i don't understand heterosexual women, is that possible? Like literally its so difficult for me to communicate with them, like family member etc ... it feels so distant ... i tought it was just different personalities, but i'm starting to think simply that heterosexuals interact with each other in a diffferent way, and maybe im not understanding it. Like i mean subconscious things that are different becouse of the sexual orientation ... so the communication doesnt work ... it feels like we are talking two different languages and living differently the world ... and I'm not capable of living like them becouse im bi ... i tought sexual orientation didn't matter in the perosnality ... but i'm starting to think that the differences run deeper and manifest more than i tought...
Bisexual male and have only been with my wife
by redblee
Last post
 November 22nd, 2021
...See more I am 37 years old. My wife and have have been together since we were 19 and she is my only sexual partner. I have always been very comfortable in my own skin sexually. I have never thought male on male intimacy was bad in any way like so many other men do in my life. In fact, I would often say if a man was attractive, often times as humor. At times I could tell that made my wife uncomfortable with those kinds of statements . my wife and I have had ups and downs in our relationship and I have always been more sexually exploratory. when I finally let my guard down enough to understand myself and my desires I told her that I was bisexual. obviously a bit of a shock and she did ask how I could know given I have only been with her. She was also concerned if I was actually gay but quickly realized how much I enjoy pleasuring her. I simply told her that I like males and the male body much like she does as well as females. When you know you know. we have talked a whole lot in the last month and we are learning how to go about this change. I can’t say we will get everything right but we do love each other it just so happens that I enjoy looking at men too. So far she seems more than ok with my attractions and she has been very supportive.
Closet troubles
by UnicornKeeper107
Last post
 November 17th, 2021
...See more I identify as bi and I've never dated before but I've been interested in trying. The problem is I notices I have been looking more at women then men. I worry because I'm in the closet and my parents are not exactly allies of the LGBTQ+ community that I have no idea what they would say if I mentioned I had a girlfriend and the worry makes to too scared to try
My wife wants an open relationship
by Franzi11
Last post
 November 7th, 2021
...See more Lesbian couple here. My wife told me a week ago that she was no longer sexually attracted to me. She wanted to open the relationship. She said that she wanted to explore and find her confidence that she feels she had lost. I told her ok. As much as it would hurt me. She had sex the next night. And two days later she asked me for a break. Is this normal? Do I wait for her? Do continue to give her the break she asked for? We haven’t had a real conversation since she asked for the break. And now she spends every night with this new woman. Any advice would be appreciated.
I’m not bi, maybe pan demisexual but..
by
Last post
 November 6th, 2021
...See more I’m pro lgbtq cause I just don’t care much about what people think. So in my head, it’s not much of a difference if you turned out gay, bi, lesbian, or are a straight couple in a gay or lesbian relationship. I like how Kristen from Twilight, just one day showed up engaged with her female partner. That’s exactly how it should be. You don’t need to differentiate between love, if you fall for a woman or a man, and it’s mutual, go for it. It doesn’t matter if you identify as straight or gay before that. As a demisexual , it’s possible that oneday I might find attractive traits in females over males and that’s okay. So far however, all of my crushes have just happened to be men. If someone comes and introduces their same sex partner to me, it makes no difference to me compared to if they showed up with their heterosexual boyfriend or girlfriend or husband or wife. However if a heterosexual couple was discussing their kinks in public, I would have a problem, it’s just a comfort thing. I expect the same for everyone. We don’t need to sexualize everything.

LGBTQ+/MOGII Support

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Welcome to LGBTQ+/MOGII Support! We are so pleased that you have found our little rainbow here in the 7 cups forums. Our community is here to support you as an LGBTQ+/MOGII person, family member, friend and/or ally. Whether you are curious and questioning, or out and proud, and all the stages in between, this is a place where you can find support in being who you are and coping with the challenges that come with it. We strive to keep this a safe space for all. Here you can discuss anything and everything related to the LGBTQ+/MOGII community and being LGBTQ+/MOGII.


What are the different forum topics for LGBTQ+/MOGII Support?

Asexual Umbrella Support: Got a question or want to share more about asexuality? Explore more here!

Checking in and breaking the ice: A place for you to introduce yourself, take part in our community check-ins and get to know other community members by participating in fun games!

Community & Culture: Want to know more about the LGBTQ+/MOGII community and cultural contributions? This is the place to learn more!

Discussions and Resources: Want to participate in meaningful discussions and access additional resources? Join in here!

Gay Support: Got a question or want to share more about being gay? Uncover more here!

Gender Identity Support: Questioning your gender identity? Want to share your experiences? Discuss it here!

Intersex Support: Got a question or want to share more about being intersex? Learn more here!

LGBTQ+ General Support:  Struggling with other issues as an LGBTQ+/MOGII person? Working to cope with issues impacting the wider LGBTQ+/MOGII community? Find more support here! 

Lesbian Support: Got a question or want to share more about being a lesbian? Share your experiences here!

Multisexual Umbrella Support: Got a question or want to share more about multisexuality? Discuss more here!

Questioning & Coming Out: Are you questioning? Thinking about coming out? Maybe you already have? Share your struggles and stories here!


How can I heIp?

You can help us by simply responding to threads and sharing your story (if you're comfortable to). Alternatively, you may wish to join us as a Forum Leader. Check out this thread for more information. Even just participating in events, check-ins and group chats can be a great way to help build and support the community!


Helpful Threads

Taglist: Do you want to stay up to date with our community? Then join our taglist to be notified every time a new discussion or update is posted!


LGBTQ+/MOGII Suppoort Q&A

Are there any sub-community specific guidelines that we need to adhere to? All sub-community specific guidelines can be found below and should be followed in addition to the general forum guidelines.


Help… I still have a question!

You can ask your questions in this thread and someone will respond to you as soon as possible.
Community Guidelines

1) Be kind & open minded at all times!

2) Do not impose any beliefs onto another in any harmful way!

3) Please don't express judgments or attack anyone within the community!

4) Please respect each other's gender, pronouns, sexual orientation, identities in general!

 

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Community Resources

1. Abuse, Violence, Discrimination & Safety

(Abuse guides and resources, violence prevention and staying safe, normativity, discrimination, privilege)

2. Allies, Families & Friends

(Resources for allies, caregivers, families, organisations, communities, schools...)

3. Asexual & Aromantic Spectrum

(Resources, guides and websites, finding your identity, gray-asexuality and demisexuality)

4. Coming Out

(Resources for you before, while and after coming out)

5. Emergency & Crisis Resources

(Helplines, hotlines, emergency numbers, crisis information)

6. Gender Expression

(Understanding gender expression, feminising, masculising & binding, names and pronouns)

7. Gender Identity

(Understanding and finding gender and gender identity, gender terminology and glossaries)

8. Health, Dysphoria & Transitioning

(Gender Dysphoria help, transitioning resources, LGBTQ+ health information)

9. Religion

(LGBTQ+ supportive religious resources by denomination)

10. Sex Diversity & Intersex

(Understanding sex diversity and intersex, resoruces)

11. Sexual & Romantic Orientations

(Understanding attraction and orientation, finding and accepting your identity, gay, lesbian, bi, pan resources)

12. Workplace & Education

(Being LGBTQ+, coming out at and seeking work, university or school)

13. Trans Resources

(Resourses for the Trans community)


Full LGBTQIA+ Resource Spreadsheet