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🌈 Share Your Coming Out Story & Offer Support! 🌈
by CheeryMango
Last post
 December 4th
...See more Hey everyone! Pride Month is a time to celebrate our identities, honor our journeys, and support one another. One of the most personal and powerful experiences for many in the LGBTQ+ community is the act of coming out. Whether you’ve already come out, are considering it, or are just here to support others, this is a safe space for you to share your story and offer encouragement. How to Participate: * Share Your Story: If you’re comfortable, share your coming out story with us. How did you come out? What was the experience like for you? How did it impact your life? * Offer Support: For those who have already come out, please offer advice, support, and encouragement to others who might be considering taking this step. * Ask for Advice: If you’re thinking about coming out and have questions or need support, don’t hesitate to ask here. We’re all here to help each other. ------------------------- Note: Please be respectful and supportive of everyone’s experiences. We are here to create a safe and welcoming environment for all.
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Weekly Prompt #3: What helped you understand and accept your sexuality/gender identity
by ASilentObserver
Last post
 November 8th
...See more Hi everyone, I hope you are all well. Last time we discussed, What one piece of advice would you give to your younger self? [https://www.7cups.com/forum/LGBTQMOGIISupport_58/DiscussionsandResources_2305/WeeklyPrompt2Whatoneadvicewouldyougivetoyouryoungerself_302416/] In today's prompt, I want us to take a minute of reflection and share what was the journey of coming out looked like for you. The prompt: What helped you understand and accept your sexuality/gender identity? What was that journey like for you? Share your thoughts with us. Join us in the LGBTQ Support Chat today! [https://www.7cups.com/chat/?c=mmRpeXyVlOJO42uXVVyYhttps://www.7cups.com/connect/groupChatrooms.php] [https://www.7cups.com/chat/?c=mmRpeXyVlOJO42uXVVyY] ------------------------- [http://twitter.com/share?url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.7cups.com%2Fforum%2FLGBTQMOGIISupport_58%2FDiscussionsandResources_2305%2FWeeklyPrompt2Whatoneadvicewouldyougivetoyouryoungerself_302416%2F&text=Weekly+Prompt+%232%3A+W+%407cups] [/sharer/sharer.php?u=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.7cups.com%2Fforum%2FLGBTQMOGIISupport_58%2FDiscussionsandResources_2305%2FWeeklyPrompt2Whatoneadvicewouldyougivetoyouryoungerself_302416%2F]
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🌈 Pride Month 2024 Forum Discussion Masterpost
by tommy
Last post
 November 4th
...See more  Happy Pride everyone! I hope you are enjoying the month so far and are taking advantage of the different opportunities available to you across 7 Cups to celebrate. Please click here [https://www.7cups.com/forum/lgbtq/General_2455/PrideMonthCelebrationLetsComeTogether_330299/] for a thread outlining how we are celebrating Pride for 2024! We wanted to compile together all of the different forum posts, discussions and icebreakers/games into one place so you do not miss out on anything.  This is an inclusive celebration and many (if not all) of the discussions/threads are suited to everyone, not just those who identify as part of the LGBTQ+ community. Please let me know if you have posted a thread which you'd like adding to this list and thank you to everyone for making this celebration so wonderful!  🏳️‍🌈 Say hi and introduce yourself here [https://www.7cups.com/forum/lgbtq/General_2455/LGBTQAwarenessPrideMonthSayHiandIntroduceYourself_330296/] 🏳️‍🌈 Share your coming out story and offer support [https://www.7cups.com/forum/lgbtq/General_2455/ShareYourComingOutStoryOfferSupport_330608/] 🏳️‍🌈 Pride playlist: share your favourite songs [https://www.7cups.com/forum/lgbtq/General_2455/PridePlaylistShareYourFavoriteSongs_330457/] 🏳️‍🌈 How does your country celebrate pride? [https://www.7cups.com/forum/countries/General_2439/PrideMonthAroundtheWorldHowdoesyourcountrycelebrate_330635/] 🏳️‍🌈 What tip would you give to maintain a healthy relationship? [https://www.google.com/url?q=https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/RelationshipSpace_2168/Whattipwouldyougivetomaintainahealthyrelationship_330918/&sa=D&source=editors&ust=1718455179340454&usg=AOvVaw1moi-ymobKd-2mWbPwrWFE] 🏳️‍🌈 [https://www.google.com/url?q=https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/RelationshipSpace_2168/Whattipwouldyougivetomaintainahealthyrelationship_330918/&sa=D&source=editors&ust=1718455179340454&usg=AOvVaw1moi-ymobKd-2mWbPwrWFE] What is your favorite book with LGBTQ+ representation? [https://www.7cups.com/forum/reading/Books_2603/ShareyourfavouritebookwithLGBTQrepresentation_330925/] 🏳️‍🌈 [https://www.google.com/url?q=https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/RelationshipSpace_2168/Whattipwouldyougivetomaintainahealthyrelationship_330918/&sa=D&source=editors&ust=1718455179340454&usg=AOvVaw1moi-ymobKd-2mWbPwrWFE] Pride Parade! EmotionsListener 7 Cups pfps generator [https://www.7cups.com/forum/lgbtq/General_2455/PrideMonth7CupsPfpLGBTQPrideParade_331195] 🏳️‍🌈 [https://www.google.com/url?q=https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/RelationshipSpace_2168/Whattipwouldyougivetomaintainahealthyrelationship_330918/&sa=D&source=editors&ust=1718455179340454&usg=AOvVaw1moi-ymobKd-2mWbPwrWFE] Supporting a Loved One Who Identifies as Belonging to the LGBTQIA+ Community [https://www.7cups.com/forum/lgbtq/General_2455/SupportingaLovedOneWhoIdentifiesasBelongingtotheLGBTQIACommunity_331625/] 🏳️‍🌈 [https://www.google.com/url?q=https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/RelationshipSpace_2168/Whattipwouldyougivetomaintainahealthyrelationship_330918/&sa=D&source=editors&ust=1718455179340454&usg=AOvVaw1moi-ymobKd-2mWbPwrWFE] AMA with a 7 Cups Therapist [https://www.7cups.com/forum/therapy/AMAwiththe7CupsTherapists_1133/CLOSEDtonewQuestionsAMAPrideMonthrelatedtoLBGTQIA7CupsOnlineTherapy_331001/] This masterlist will be updated each time a new thread is posted. Last update: 1 July 2024
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lesbian
by dockalova175
Last post
 December 12th
...See more Hi, im lesbian in closet you can say. Only my one friend know im lesbian i think when i will come out i will be judged in my country is everyone homophobic even my friends.The toxicity in my life is hard im guestioning if im even worth anyone support i feel like im burden who doesnt deserve love and happiness
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help is my friend flirting or are we just besties
by warmheartedEast8702
Last post
 December 4th
...See more I have the age old wlw dilemma of "crushing on my bestie, maybe we're just really good friends" so i thought i'd ask strangers on the internet their opinion. this has been going on for about a year. i want to tell her but i'm scared. i just want to lay out some stuff here and get your opinions on it. we fake flirt but i don't know if she's just joking around or not. we were talking about her spending the night at my house and doing a jokey bit about her being flustered about it; "ok bustie i mean bestie" and "for dinner can you make melon i mean cucumber i mean um." we kiss each other's hands sometimes, and we joke about getting married; we "joke" about how we'd propose to each other, what rings we'd get each other, joking that the lady at the ring store at the mall thought we were shopping for engagement rings, etc. i compliment how she looks and she rubs my back and tells me i'm cute. she draws cartoony pictures of us holding hands with a heart. we sent flirty gifs and she says "we're practically dating" and "are we dating now 👩‍❤️‍💋‍👩" and "maybe we could go to a fancy restaurant then we'd actually be dating, just kidding!" i don't know man, sometimes it seems like there's definitely a vibe there but then all of it could just be us being besties. i want clarity but i'm scared, and if i'm being honest i really like her, and i've resorted to asking strangers on the internet about it.
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At what age you figured that you are a lesbian?
by sinfulforest
Last post
 December 3rd
...See more Please share your stories.
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struggling at how to talk to this girl
by museofviolets
Last post
 November 5th
...See more so im talking to this beautiful girl right now, shes funny and sweet and just gets me and shes so gorgeous too - shes got naturally curly brown hair (she straightens it sometimes) and beautiful blue eyes and i really dont want to mess this up. ive tried to speak to girls before but its never really went anywhere because i dont always know what to say - im being myself, which she seems to really like and im complimenting her alot but i dont want to come off too full on yk? what other things should we be talking about to lead the conversation to more? 
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My secret
by cthorne3150
Last post
 October 24th
...See more Something happened in my teenage years that I still don't know how to talk or think about even to this day. I had feelings for a girl in my class, and we becams friends - sort of. She seemed kind and empathetic. At some point, she started touching me - in front of other classmates. She would squish my face, because it felt "nice and soft"; she would hug me from the back and have her arms dangling from my shoulders, her hands touching my body; she would hold hands with me in public (she initiated the gesture and I went with it). I'm pretty sure she did this all unintentionally, but she would use expressions that were affectionate but suggestive in a way (mainly based on anime culture). It felt beyond platonic friendship, but of course looking back I know that she probably didn't mean anything. The thing is she did all this without asking me if it was okay to touch me. She just assumed it was okay, because every girl was straight by default. But as I started to look back, I couldn't help but think about how off it felt, how it was never supposed to happen. I feel like I had no power to say no because "this is just what friends do" and "she was just being nice." And we were just a bunch of 14- and 15-year-olds who were clueless about such things as consent. So it happened. And I had weird feelings about those intimate moments when she touched me: I did have feelings for her and wanted romantic things to happen, but I was never okay with those gestures right off the bad, without me giving consent, especially in front of other people. They were too much and I felt uncomfortable experiencing them. To to this day I'm still confused. Last night I bawled my eyes out just thinking about it, because I really I wish I had a different friend, someone who respected me and asked it was okay to touch me like that. At the same time, even after finding out that she was straight, I couldn't help have lingering feelings for her. And the sad thing is I still take such "forward gestures" romantically, and I still fantasize about being touched like that by girls. I still become automatically attracted to girls with a more forceful way of doing things, and who are so strong that they lead me even to the point of treating me as an object. Of course it's all fantasy and I am very big on consent in real life. I just think it's really sad. It's funny how your early experiences can shape how you approach relationships later on.  I just wish it had never happened. I wish that my first experience with love was with someone who was different. But still, to this day, I blame myself for what had happened, and feel like I'm a bad person for telling her how I felt years after. When I told her, she completely shut down and said that we couldn't be friends any more. I was heartbroken. But she ended up saying that I was selfish and greedy for wanting to remaining friends after she rejected me. The thing is I never said anything like "we must be friends"; in fact, I was apologizing in every single sentence and begging her to see the value in our friendship. I would do no such thing now, but her words really stuck with me and left me feeling like a narcissist for years to come. I don't want to look like I'm blaming her for everything, but I guess I'm just really sad it. In the back of my mind I'm still waiting for an apology, which I know I'll never get.
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Where all my lesies at :3
by JasperTheGreat
Last post
 October 18th
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Being a lesbian in a muslim family
by studioghiblifan15
Last post
 July 21st
...See more Hi! A little bit about me; I'm a first-generation American from a Muslim Albanian family, and I'm a lesbian. I didn't grow up extremely religious whatsoever. It's really my mom who's even slightly religious, but even so, I knew my family would never accept me for who I am because of the social norms and cultural beliefs they grew up on. I'm writing about this because I'm hoping to find someone I can relate to. All my friends are straight or gay, with very accepting parents. I don't know a single person I could talk to that's feeling the way I am or would be willing to be open about it. I came out to my mom when I was 16, and she threatened to tell my dad. I hate that even after all of that, I still love her and my family, even if they won't love me for who I am. I'm 18 now, and I'm still financially dependent on them, especially since I am not in school or work. I feel so alone. I wish there were a reality in which being myself didn't feel like the absolute worst thing I could be. I am so exhausted and depressed that I don't know what to do with myself most days because it already feels like my future has been taken from me. I want to be me without this impending guilt and fear that by doing so, I would either ruin my life and relationship with my family or have to live my whole life in secret. I don't know what to do, and I don't know how to make my life better. I feel so defeated.
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Help Finding Other Lesbians? :,(
by MikalaC234
Last post
 July 17th
...See more Hi! I’m 18 and openly gay. However, now that I’m an adult and not at an arts school anymore (where there were plenty of LGBT+ peeps), I don’t know where to find other people like me. I wish I had more LGBT people to talk to, especially lesbians. I’m looking for a relationship, and I am having so much trouble finding lesbians (bisexuals, etc) in person. I don’t know which dating sites are safe and LGBT-affirming. Any suggestions? I’m also okay with online friends who are around my age, anyone want to be friends?
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Realizing I'm (36f) gay and in a long term relationship/marriage with a man
by Stepeoples
Last post
 June 26th
...See more I've known I am (at least) bi my whole life. However, I've recently realized that I am a lesbian. I've been with my husband for most of my adult life and I'm finally admitting I'm not sexually attracted to him. I love him and we have built a wonderful life together but it's because I've repressed my sexuality and desire. Now I'm processing and trying to figure out how to move forward in my life.
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am i still a lesbian
by kikiliza
Last post
 April 14th
...See more can i still be considered a lesbian if my s/o is enby? i feel like if i say i’m bi+ people will assume i like men.
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My lesbian diary
by unassumingPeach6421
Last post
 March 13th
...See more Hello everyone, I'm starting a diary I'm shy and introverted. I am nervous around women and unsure of how to meet new people. I am poor trying to support myself through architecture school as a 22 almost 23 year old. i can't afford dates (unless I take out loans lol). My parents are homophobic, terrible people for guidance, and mostly unsupportive of all my choices. I have autism and ADHD and socializing is harder. If I was used to it and could afford going out every day it wouldn't be so hard. I feel that I cannot afford a social life. As I speak I guess I am more tempted than ever to take out loans. I've never had a gf I've only dated. I've never had sex, it was hard for me to understand my body with autism with alexythima but I feel finally ready and I understand my own body. I tried to have sex with a man and my body shut down and I couldn't speak. We didn't have sex thank god. I can't tell if it was me not understanding my alexythima or my lack of attraction to men. Dating men felt so fake it was fun but too easy and I just never cared. Then men would hit on me and I would be angry or hurt (I wish they knew I was a lesbian). Idk does anyone else think that being gay is expensive? That's all for now. There is not much I could afford and it makes me nervous when I try to hang out with people that anxiety hangs around me. I'm not very happy and don't have a lot of energy and I feel very introverted more than I have before. I just really hope that once I do the ground work of what I am doing for college and earning money, I hope I can start to relax and enjoy myself. I would love to start dating and to have enough money to date. Any advice is welcome thank you all!
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Loneliness
by bestKite8488
Last post
 March 3rd
...See more Hi. I am new here.  My name is Louis.  I came out two years ago and have not found any happiness at all as a gay person.  I am seriously considering going back in the closet.  I can't stand the rejection I have experienced and actually feel calmer and therefore happier when I stop "chasing after" women.  Can anyone else relate to this?

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Welcome to LGBTQ+/MOGII Support! We are so pleased that you have found our little rainbow here in the 7 cups forums. Our community is here to support you as an LGBTQ+/MOGII person, family member, friend and/or ally. Whether you are curious and questioning, or out and proud, and all the stages in between, this is a place where you can find support in being who you are and coping with the challenges that come with it. We strive to keep this a safe space for all. Here you can discuss anything and everything related to the LGBTQ+/MOGII community and being LGBTQ+/MOGII.


What are the different forum topics for LGBTQ+/MOGII Support?

Asexual Umbrella Support: Got a question or want to share more about asexuality? Explore more here!

Checking in and breaking the ice: A place for you to introduce yourself, take part in our community check-ins and get to know other community members by participating in fun games!

Community & Culture: Want to know more about the LGBTQ+/MOGII community and cultural contributions? This is the place to learn more!

Discussions and Resources: Want to participate in meaningful discussions and access additional resources? Join in here!

Gay Support: Got a question or want to share more about being gay? Uncover more here!

Gender Identity Support: Questioning your gender identity? Want to share your experiences? Discuss it here!

Intersex Support: Got a question or want to share more about being intersex? Learn more here!

LGBTQ+ General Support:  Struggling with other issues as an LGBTQ+/MOGII person? Working to cope with issues impacting the wider LGBTQ+/MOGII community? Find more support here! 

Lesbian Support: Got a question or want to share more about being a lesbian? Share your experiences here!

Multisexual Umbrella Support: Got a question or want to share more about multisexuality? Discuss more here!

Questioning & Coming Out: Are you questioning? Thinking about coming out? Maybe you already have? Share your struggles and stories here!


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You can help us by simply responding to threads and sharing your story (if you're comfortable to). Alternatively, you may wish to join us as a Forum Leader. Check out this thread for more information. Even just participating in events, check-ins and group chats can be a great way to help build and support the community!


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Community Resources

1. Abuse, Violence, Discrimination & Safety

(Abuse guides and resources, violence prevention and staying safe, normativity, discrimination, privilege)

2. Allies, Families & Friends

(Resources for allies, caregivers, families, organisations, communities, schools...)

3. Asexual & Aromantic Spectrum

(Resources, guides and websites, finding your identity, gray-asexuality and demisexuality)

4. Coming Out

(Resources for you before, while and after coming out)

5. Emergency & Crisis Resources

(Helplines, hotlines, emergency numbers, crisis information)

6. Gender Expression

(Understanding gender expression, feminising, masculising & binding, names and pronouns)

7. Gender Identity

(Understanding and finding gender and gender identity, gender terminology and glossaries)

8. Health, Dysphoria & Transitioning

(Gender Dysphoria help, transitioning resources, LGBTQ+ health information)

9. Religion

(LGBTQ+ supportive religious resources by denomination)

10. Sex Diversity & Intersex

(Understanding sex diversity and intersex, resoruces)

11. Sexual & Romantic Orientations

(Understanding attraction and orientation, finding and accepting your identity, gay, lesbian, bi, pan resources)

12. Workplace & Education

(Being LGBTQ+, coming out at and seeking work, university or school)

13. Trans Resources

(Resourses for the Trans community)


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