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🌈 Share Your Coming Out Story & Offer Support! 🌈
by CheeryMango
Last post
 November 11th
...See more Hey everyone! Pride Month is a time to celebrate our identities, honor our journeys, and support one another. One of the most personal and powerful experiences for many in the LGBTQ+ community is the act of coming out. Whether you’ve already come out, are considering it, or are just here to support others, this is a safe space for you to share your story and offer encouragement. How to Participate: * Share Your Story: If you’re comfortable, share your coming out story with us. How did you come out? What was the experience like for you? How did it impact your life? * Offer Support: For those who have already come out, please offer advice, support, and encouragement to others who might be considering taking this step. * Ask for Advice: If you’re thinking about coming out and have questions or need support, don’t hesitate to ask here. We’re all here to help each other. ------------------------- Note: Please be respectful and supportive of everyone’s experiences. We are here to create a safe and welcoming environment for all.
Weekly Prompt #3: What helped you understand and accept your sexuality/gender identity
by ASilentObserver
Last post
 November 8th
...See more Hi everyone, I hope you are all well. Last time we discussed, What one piece of advice would you give to your younger self? [https://www.7cups.com/forum/LGBTQMOGIISupport_58/DiscussionsandResources_2305/WeeklyPrompt2Whatoneadvicewouldyougivetoyouryoungerself_302416/] In today's prompt, I want us to take a minute of reflection and share what was the journey of coming out looked like for you. The prompt: What helped you understand and accept your sexuality/gender identity? What was that journey like for you? Share your thoughts with us. Join us in the LGBTQ Support Chat today! [https://www.7cups.com/chat/?c=mmRpeXyVlOJO42uXVVyYhttps://www.7cups.com/connect/groupChatrooms.php] [https://www.7cups.com/chat/?c=mmRpeXyVlOJO42uXVVyY] ------------------------- [http://twitter.com/share?url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.7cups.com%2Fforum%2FLGBTQMOGIISupport_58%2FDiscussionsandResources_2305%2FWeeklyPrompt2Whatoneadvicewouldyougivetoyouryoungerself_302416%2F&text=Weekly+Prompt+%232%3A+W+%407cups] [/sharer/sharer.php?u=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.7cups.com%2Fforum%2FLGBTQMOGIISupport_58%2FDiscussionsandResources_2305%2FWeeklyPrompt2Whatoneadvicewouldyougivetoyouryoungerself_302416%2F]
🌈 Pride Month 2024 Forum Discussion Masterpost
by tommy
Last post
 November 4th
...See more  Happy Pride everyone! I hope you are enjoying the month so far and are taking advantage of the different opportunities available to you across 7 Cups to celebrate. Please click here [https://www.7cups.com/forum/lgbtq/General_2455/PrideMonthCelebrationLetsComeTogether_330299/] for a thread outlining how we are celebrating Pride for 2024! We wanted to compile together all of the different forum posts, discussions and icebreakers/games into one place so you do not miss out on anything.  This is an inclusive celebration and many (if not all) of the discussions/threads are suited to everyone, not just those who identify as part of the LGBTQ+ community. Please let me know if you have posted a thread which you'd like adding to this list and thank you to everyone for making this celebration so wonderful!  🏳️‍🌈 Say hi and introduce yourself here [https://www.7cups.com/forum/lgbtq/General_2455/LGBTQAwarenessPrideMonthSayHiandIntroduceYourself_330296/] 🏳️‍🌈 Share your coming out story and offer support [https://www.7cups.com/forum/lgbtq/General_2455/ShareYourComingOutStoryOfferSupport_330608/] 🏳️‍🌈 Pride playlist: share your favourite songs [https://www.7cups.com/forum/lgbtq/General_2455/PridePlaylistShareYourFavoriteSongs_330457/] 🏳️‍🌈 How does your country celebrate pride? [https://www.7cups.com/forum/countries/General_2439/PrideMonthAroundtheWorldHowdoesyourcountrycelebrate_330635/] 🏳️‍🌈 What tip would you give to maintain a healthy relationship? [https://www.google.com/url?q=https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/RelationshipSpace_2168/Whattipwouldyougivetomaintainahealthyrelationship_330918/&sa=D&source=editors&ust=1718455179340454&usg=AOvVaw1moi-ymobKd-2mWbPwrWFE] 🏳️‍🌈 [https://www.google.com/url?q=https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/RelationshipSpace_2168/Whattipwouldyougivetomaintainahealthyrelationship_330918/&sa=D&source=editors&ust=1718455179340454&usg=AOvVaw1moi-ymobKd-2mWbPwrWFE] What is your favorite book with LGBTQ+ representation? [https://www.7cups.com/forum/reading/Books_2603/ShareyourfavouritebookwithLGBTQrepresentation_330925/] 🏳️‍🌈 [https://www.google.com/url?q=https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/RelationshipSpace_2168/Whattipwouldyougivetomaintainahealthyrelationship_330918/&sa=D&source=editors&ust=1718455179340454&usg=AOvVaw1moi-ymobKd-2mWbPwrWFE] Pride Parade! EmotionsListener 7 Cups pfps generator [https://www.7cups.com/forum/lgbtq/General_2455/PrideMonth7CupsPfpLGBTQPrideParade_331195] 🏳️‍🌈 [https://www.google.com/url?q=https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/RelationshipSpace_2168/Whattipwouldyougivetomaintainahealthyrelationship_330918/&sa=D&source=editors&ust=1718455179340454&usg=AOvVaw1moi-ymobKd-2mWbPwrWFE] Supporting a Loved One Who Identifies as Belonging to the LGBTQIA+ Community [https://www.7cups.com/forum/lgbtq/General_2455/SupportingaLovedOneWhoIdentifiesasBelongingtotheLGBTQIACommunity_331625/] 🏳️‍🌈 [https://www.google.com/url?q=https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/RelationshipSpace_2168/Whattipwouldyougivetomaintainahealthyrelationship_330918/&sa=D&source=editors&ust=1718455179340454&usg=AOvVaw1moi-ymobKd-2mWbPwrWFE] AMA with a 7 Cups Therapist [https://www.7cups.com/forum/therapy/AMAwiththe7CupsTherapists_1133/CLOSEDtonewQuestionsAMAPrideMonthrelatedtoLBGTQIA7CupsOnlineTherapy_331001/] This masterlist will be updated each time a new thread is posted. Last update: 1 July 2024
I shut down a transphobe
by A0curious0fire
Last post
 21 hours ago
...See more A transphobe tried to use the "it's basic biology excuse" and called me delusional to try and shut me down. So I posted a link to an article about advanced biology and a link to the ask transgender subreddit that talked about this topic. Turns out he got muted for a week and the Mods are going to keep an eye on him. I wish I di that to the first guy who tried to call the community delusional
its all my fault
by choleexox
Last post
 November 11th
...See more some triggers!!!!- ***, self h@rm :/ - - - i told my mother and stepfather that i was lesbian and my mother disowned me as her daughter and let my stepfather *** me in front of her i cried and begged but she did nothing and looked away i cried for her to help me but she.did.nothing. if anthing that made me more distant from men then anything.
Transgender in Russia: I'm begging for help. I ruined my health by thinking.
by PurpleGeko
Last post
 November 8th
...See more * Right now I'm scared, I'm lost, don't know what to do, I don't have anyone to ask for help. Hello, I am a Male to Female transgender, zoomer in my 20s in a very difficult life situation. And I don’t see a way out (I need an outside perspective). I’m looking for advice on how to find a path forward. * Brief version: I live in Russia (and I am also part of a minority indigenous group), where LGBT communities are considered extremism. I wanted to transition since I was 15 (I’m around 24 now). Before COVID, I went through a medical commission for my MtF transition when it was still allowed. They told me I was too young and not ready for it. They said I should return in about 8 months, whenever they were available, and then they would approve it if I came. Back then, I didn’t want to transition in Russia due to widespread transphobia, lack of money, support, and other limitations. I wanted to emigrate. * A few years later, I started feeling like it was too late (I was in my early 20s) and that I might never manage to both emigrate and transition as I once dreamed. The intense stress began taking a serious toll on my health. Symptoms started showing up: my eyesight worsened, I started seeing double, my hair began to fall out, and I developed gastritis. I continue to experience new health issues, like my uvula became non-functional, seborrheic dermatitis appeared, my nails grew oddly and are brittle, even my pronunciation has noticeably worsened (that’s insane!) - I stumble over words, words break off during conversation, it’s difficult to pronounce sentences. * The worst part is the heart issues. So, I was born with a heart defect and AFTER the stress now I can barely manage anything physically. Even carrying groceries for more than 8 minutes makes me feel faint. A cardiologist told me I need urgent surgery in another city (it was over a year ago), but I can’t afford it. I’ve gone through more than ten jobs lately, never lasting even a few days because I physically can’t handle work because of my heart problems. It’s a vicious cycle: I need money for treatment, but to work, I need to be healthy. * Whenever I come across posts of transgender girls showing their transition results, like on Reddit, I feel an intense frustration—they look beautiful and achieved their transition, while I couldn’t. I feel a mix of envy and sadness because I can’t be like them. Even if I recover my health, there’s still the issue that is more important - my gender transition. I don’t have connections with people who could help, I don’t have money for relocation, and I don’t know how to live this life. Q: * “What do you want from us?” - I’m in a tough situation and can’t see a way out (I need an outside perspective). I need someone to help me find a way forward. Feel free to ask me questions. P.S. I'm really nervous. This is my first post. Sorry, if the text turned out a bit jumbled or if I selected the wrong topic. I've read the guidelines, so I hope everything is ok.
Let's see what happe s in Tunisia
by Nataliegrimshaw1978
Last post
 November 8th
...See more About to go to night club in hotel in 🇹🇳  as my female form.  if I don't return then please let the world know. My name is Peter grimshaw. And I'm sick of.not being accepted. Hotel palm marina. Wish me luck probably won't end well. But this has to stop. People should be able to be who they are without needing to hide. 
Lgbtq+ general support, coming out, my story, new member [TW: Homophobic story]
by Nate715
Last post
 October 31st
...See more I'm Natalia, I go by multiple names but I prefer to use Nate and I prefer its what anyone calls me. I'm a new member on this website entirely (as of 10/30/24) and I can't wait to be posting more things on this community. My other names I go by are Kyle and lance, I also go by all pronouns but if you really want to put a gender on me you can say i'm a demigirl or non-binary is fine too. (i'll update my names, pronouns, or gender if it changes) I've been pansexual for 4 years now but lately my sexuality has been changing and it might be polysexual or omnisexual (omnisexual, tried, might get back into it if my deep attraction for woman goes on more then my attraction for men does) (i'll update my sexuality if it ever changes) [TW: Homophobia, THIS IS NOT ME BEING HOMOPHOBIC, THIS IS MY EXPERIENCE, thank you!] ______________________________________________________________________________________________ I'm currently growing up in a homophobic household and i'm out of the closet to my sister, which she doesn't seem to mind and sometimes forgets about my sexuality. and to my mother, on the other hand, i've always known she was homophobic and I honestly expected her to lash out at me, saying I was the most disgusting person ever, but she didn't do that.  my mother is very religious and forces church upon all things, don't get me wrong, I'm a very religious person too and i'll follow christ until the day he chooses to take me. but I dislike how she associates LGBTQ+ as being a bad thing, and something different according to the bible, and that i'm just confused. she's also mentioned to me that gay/lesbian marriages aren't accepted in a church and its why these types of people get married some place else, some place where the marriage just isn't blessed by how a church would bless it. the day she said that I came home, searched it up, and found out in some places, gay/lesbian marriages are accepted in very few churches, I still had hope, knowing a woman is who I most likely will be with in the future if my preference for woman doesn't change. I never came out to the rest of my family because i'm not close to my dad's side of the family and I hardly see them and when I do, I wouldn't even know they are related to me, and my dad's side of the family is filled with old people in their 50s-70s who grew up in old-fashioned families and live by what their parents have said to them. I never came out to my mom's side of the family, even though I was more close to them, I wasn't close to the point where I could actually behave like myself around them (besides my uncle, who's been here currently for a month and a half maybe and its only last week where I became comfortable talking to him) and even if I did came out to any of them, that stuff would fly very fast around my moms side of the family and I'd probably get degraded, saying I am a straight cis female (but i've known I been part of the lgbtq+ community since I was six years old) for weeks on end. (A little more then half my cousins speak a foreign language and if they ever found out too, it would be more awkward then it already is considering I don't know when was the last time I ever talked to my cousins.) coming out to my mother was entirely a mistake, and I can't imagine coming out to anyone else besides the students at my school, who genuinely don't care, and the students that are going to be in my new highschool next year.  ______________________________________________________________________________________________ when I first came out, it was last year, and this story was developed this year.  Again, this is not me being homophobic, as I am part of the LGBTQ+ community, this is my experience growing up, I hope anyone can relate, thanks! (Nate, 13, All pronouns)
Want More Friends
by WellsFiction
Last post
 October 30th
...See more My birth name is Matthew. I prefer to go by either Matt or Mattie. I identify as nonbinary and trans. I've always had an attraction or dare I say obsession with feminine stuff. I grew up within a very conservative family, so being myself has never really been an option. I'm proud of who I am and can't wait to see where my journey takes me next :)
What are we still fighting for as the members of LGBTQ+
by krishkkreddy
Last post
 October 24th
...See more Is it just me or does anyone else feel weird about straight people supporting us? Like when they say things like "I am an advocate for LGBTQ rights", "I support LGBTQ", and "This doesn't change a thing between us", I feel weird. In simple words, how would a straight person feel when a gay guy supports him for being a hetero? I know it all boils down to the "reality of the world", but you do understand what my problem is right? I feel weird just like if it happens to them. Help me out here. I would really like a discussion.
All The Time I Wasted
by
Last post
 October 11th
...See more I lived most of my life as a bisexual person. I don't know where the obligation to pretend I was attracted to men came from yet. Societal pressures? My family? Either way, I ended up in a lot of dangerous and abusive situations because of this stupid obligation. I wasted so many years on the worst kinds of men. I look back on the years now, knowing that I never was attracted to them to begin with, and I'm just filled with shame and deeper regrets.  All those years, and what did I get out of it? Trust issues. Trauma. Fear. Paranoia. How do I even start this new life for myself when I feel it's too late?  I want to find a partner so badly. I want to find community in people who understand. Who wants someone with this kind of baggage?  The men I wasted time with made sure I knew no one wanted me. I can't see any other reality. 
Queer vent
by Birchtreebird11
Last post
 October 2nd
...See more In bed up at 4 am, almost crying over the seeming impossible dream of having a girl love me like I'm a boy. Her boy. I want to be someone's boy.... I think of all the movies, the stories where teenage boys catch girl's interest and I'm already an adult. I don't even really have friends, how am I supposed to do any of this?
Will reaching out to my ex bring closure? How do I heal a pain that won't go away?
by navyPear8364
Last post
 September 3rd
...See more I'll try to condense this story as much as I can; but I am still hurting over the loss of my best friend/first love 10 years later. I, a woman (whose gender identity has fluctuated throughout time), had a crush on my best friend as long as I could remember. She confessed in our senior year of highschool and that summer was one of the happiest times in my life. Once we went to university she went to a different school than me and she broke up with me a few months later after revealing she had cheated on me with a guy. We tried to stay friends, because we meant too much to each other but it was painful. We stopped talking in 2014. Then when I came home from university in 2018 I was helping her stepmom (we still remained close) and she said my ex wanted to reach out, but I burst into tears and said I would like to but it's painful. I don't know if she ever passed my message on, but I do regret not talking to her then then. I left home again for graduate school and now that I'm back at home with my parents and unpacking things, I'm seeing how much of my life in highschool and before involved her and has reopened the wound I healed living on my own. I found that he has begun transitioning to transmasc and now uses he/they/she pronouns and his partner (the one I was cheated on with) transitioned to female. I don't feel attraction anymore, since I don't know what person he has become and I don't want to get back together, that's not what this is about. It's just painful having a person so important in shaping who I am and being in my life for major events, to nothing. I want to know if he's doing well and how life has treated him. And it feels odd my family still keeps in contact his family, but I haven't seen him in years. I just have a feeling I'm going to leave my hometown at some point for my career, and the time I have at home again means I could reach out before I move away. But is that wise and will that help me heal? 
What happened to the LGBTQIA room
by AlanaGirl
Last post
 August 27th
...See more What happened to the LGBTQIA room? Is it ever going to come back?
I’m not feeling very good
by katiethefuckingbitchloser
Last post
 August 11th
...See more My parents are transphobic, all my allies are like nowhere close to me, my life sucks, I’m in an unhappy relationship, idfk what to do. I don’t want to life anymore 

LGBTQ+/MOGII Support

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Welcome to LGBTQ+/MOGII Support! We are so pleased that you have found our little rainbow here in the 7 cups forums. Our community is here to support you as an LGBTQ+/MOGII person, family member, friend and/or ally. Whether you are curious and questioning, or out and proud, and all the stages in between, this is a place where you can find support in being who you are and coping with the challenges that come with it. We strive to keep this a safe space for all. Here you can discuss anything and everything related to the LGBTQ+/MOGII community and being LGBTQ+/MOGII.


What are the different forum topics for LGBTQ+/MOGII Support?

Asexual Umbrella Support: Got a question or want to share more about asexuality? Explore more here!

Checking in and breaking the ice: A place for you to introduce yourself, take part in our community check-ins and get to know other community members by participating in fun games!

Community & Culture: Want to know more about the LGBTQ+/MOGII community and cultural contributions? This is the place to learn more!

Discussions and Resources: Want to participate in meaningful discussions and access additional resources? Join in here!

Gay Support: Got a question or want to share more about being gay? Uncover more here!

Gender Identity Support: Questioning your gender identity? Want to share your experiences? Discuss it here!

Intersex Support: Got a question or want to share more about being intersex? Learn more here!

LGBTQ+ General Support:  Struggling with other issues as an LGBTQ+/MOGII person? Working to cope with issues impacting the wider LGBTQ+/MOGII community? Find more support here! 

Lesbian Support: Got a question or want to share more about being a lesbian? Share your experiences here!

Multisexual Umbrella Support: Got a question or want to share more about multisexuality? Discuss more here!

Questioning & Coming Out: Are you questioning? Thinking about coming out? Maybe you already have? Share your struggles and stories here!


How can I heIp?

You can help us by simply responding to threads and sharing your story (if you're comfortable to). Alternatively, you may wish to join us as a Forum Leader. Check out this thread for more information. Even just participating in events, check-ins and group chats can be a great way to help build and support the community!


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LGBTQ+/MOGII Suppoort Q&A

Are there any sub-community specific guidelines that we need to adhere to? All sub-community specific guidelines can be found below and should be followed in addition to the general forum guidelines.


Help… I still have a question!

You can ask your questions in this thread and someone will respond to you as soon as possible.
Community Guidelines

1) Be kind & open minded at all times!

2) Do not impose any beliefs onto another in any harmful way!

3) Please don't express judgments or attack anyone within the community!

4) Please respect each other's gender, pronouns, sexual orientation, identities in general!

 

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Community Resources

1. Abuse, Violence, Discrimination & Safety

(Abuse guides and resources, violence prevention and staying safe, normativity, discrimination, privilege)

2. Allies, Families & Friends

(Resources for allies, caregivers, families, organisations, communities, schools...)

3. Asexual & Aromantic Spectrum

(Resources, guides and websites, finding your identity, gray-asexuality and demisexuality)

4. Coming Out

(Resources for you before, while and after coming out)

5. Emergency & Crisis Resources

(Helplines, hotlines, emergency numbers, crisis information)

6. Gender Expression

(Understanding gender expression, feminising, masculising & binding, names and pronouns)

7. Gender Identity

(Understanding and finding gender and gender identity, gender terminology and glossaries)

8. Health, Dysphoria & Transitioning

(Gender Dysphoria help, transitioning resources, LGBTQ+ health information)

9. Religion

(LGBTQ+ supportive religious resources by denomination)

10. Sex Diversity & Intersex

(Understanding sex diversity and intersex, resoruces)

11. Sexual & Romantic Orientations

(Understanding attraction and orientation, finding and accepting your identity, gay, lesbian, bi, pan resources)

12. Workplace & Education

(Being LGBTQ+, coming out at and seeking work, university or school)

13. Trans Resources

(Resourses for the Trans community)


Full LGBTQIA+ Resource Spreadsheet