not coming out
i don't feel the need to tell anyone. the only people there are to tell are my parents and sister. i have no reason to trust my parents - from what they've done before i know they would tell everyone they know without my permission. they would judge me for it and use it against me. so i don't owe them that information. they don't get to know things that are personal to me anymore. they have lost that. besides, it would be so so anxiety inducing, and a negative response after working up the courage would hurt me so much.
if i had friends, i might tell them if the topic came up. i might tell my therapist. but my family doesn't deserve or need to know.
@pw123
Sometimes it can feel like there is pressure to come out, but it should always be a personal choice when or if we choose to come out. It sounds like you have decided what is right for you and know what you want.
Is there anything you think would change your mind? Do you want it to be different?
Again coming out is never required, even if it's safe to do so, it's your identity to share or not share.
