Struggling with relationships
Hi, I'm a 23 year old guy. I was recently dating another guy (22) and all seemed to be going so well. We both felt an instant connection with each other. After about 3 week I had a week long episode of being down and irritable, this caused us to bicker over the course of a few days. After that he pulled away and practically ghosted me. It took a week until he told me he wasn't feeling it anymore and it honestly shattered my heart. I thought he was the perfect guy and nothing couldve gone wrong.
We agreed to be friends and maybe work back to a relationship one day after I become "less negative" as he called it. However since being friends he's been very hot and cold. One minute he's texting and snapchatting like a regular friend, the next he's leaving me on read or delivered for a day or so. It's really messing with my feelings and I'd love some advice
@reliableCamp9106 For messaging, I normally wouldn't worry if someone takes a day or so to respond- I've found that that is generally how people respond. Life happens. My therapist also reaffirmed that waiting a day or two for a response sometimes is very normal. What is causing me more concern is the comment he made about not getting back together with you unless you became 'less negative' after you fell into that slump. If he likes you, he should like the whole of you- even when you have your bad weeks. You shouldn't have to stress that being in a slump could prevent him from liking you and if he also truly liked you, he would put in the effort to support you when you are down. I'd step back and reassess if you think this guy is truly willing to support you or if he is just going to be more of a casual friend for you.
Thank you, it's great to have some advice from someone. unfortunately since I posted this he's showed more of his true personality and completely pushed me away. Sadly I've had to give up my feelings for him and move on from the idea of a relationship or friendship with him
@reliableCamp9106 oh damn, I'm sorry. Well, at least you can go and find someone better now.
