I'm a cis gay male who wants to be more feminine.
I am struggling with how I want to be seen in life, but I'm currently trying to become more feminine. I'm not trans, and I feel like a guy, but I don't like the idea of being a traditional male. I'm worried about shaving my legs, arms, or facial hair because I also like the idea of being large and intimidating because it allows me to be a strong and stable support for the ones I love. Do I want to be slim and feminine, or large and masculine? I like the idea of both, so I don't know what to choose.
I’m not sure you have to choose, @buttonfire1234. Maybe you can try changing up a few things and see how it feels.
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It sounds like you may be finding that you would like to have a more feminine gender expression, gender expression does not necessarily have to align with your gender identity, so even someone who is cisgender may have a gender expression that doesn't adhere to socialized gender roles.
Sometimes, fearing potential consequences, or worrying about what others will think or assume can make it hard to see what we want. So, if there were no rules, what would you want? Do you have any ideas or thoughts?
The thought in my brain when you were like "I want to femme a bit but also be big scary to protect fam" Sorta thing was just amazing. Yknow, just a cute lil guy and then like boom. Scary to protect. Good luck!