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Coming out
creativeCoconut9561 August 8th

hi im a 20 year old female who has been closeted since i was 11. I constantly wear a mask around my family, they dont know my true personality. Im so tired of hiding who i am but i cant come out, im scared. My mom is a very religious woman and im scared of her reaction. My dad isnt in my life, and my brother doesnt care. My family is very controlling over me and i am dependent on them since i have severe depression and anxiety, if something were to go wrong they could isolate me take away all my communication and blame my friends for turning me gay. i dont know what to do, i dont want to live like this anymore i just want freedom i feel so suffocated i just want to be my true self i just want to be happy.

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Aayla August 8th
@creativeCoconut9561 I'm so sorry to hear about this. You deserve to be seen and accepted for who you are and it's terrible that the people who should support you the most would not embrace the real you. Please, remember that whatever they might think does not affect your value as a person. If they don't understand you, it doesn't mean you're not deserving of love.

If you feel the need to express yourself, you can try coming out to other trusted people, your friends and loved ones, so you know that you'll always have someone by your side, especially if you eventually decide to face your family and you'll need all the support you can get. You can even consider reaching out to local LGBT centers where you can get precious peer support.
Remember that your safety comes first, so if you don't think it's safe for you to come out right now, you can wait. What's truly important is that you find some space to express yourself and feel valid as you are.
sleepysalem August 9th

im so sorry that you are dealing with this. you should be able to be yourself and not have to worry. one day you will be able to live your life the way you want to and while waiting for that im proud of you for seeking help.


Salem

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