Christmas Gift Dysphoria (seeking advice and support)

@TheCrew4887

While I can't say I have experience with the type of situation you are experiencing, with regard to deadnaming, it certainly sounds like a frustrating and exhausting thing to have thrown at you with each gift. Did the individuals writing your deadname on those gifts know that it was a deadname or understand what a deadname is?

As to the gifts that didn't align with your gender identity, I have actually had that happen before, my grandmother gave me men's cologne once by mistake. I just said thank you and never touched the stuff. But I have also received other gifts that were not entirely suited to who I am. My grandmother (yes the same one) also gave me a religious text with my name embossed on it for example. This was years ago and I still have the thing because how do you dispose of something like that respectfully when it has your name permanently as part of the book. But I simply thanked her for the gift and focused on the intent of her giving it rather than what the book itself symbolized to me.

While some of these 'poor fit' gifts may be more emotionally charged for us, I find taking a moment to consider the intent of the giver can help us accept them graciously even if we have no intention of keeping or using the gift. 

Depending on the relationship with the individual we might be able to say thank you for the thought/intent while also helping them to see how that gift isn't in our taste, but I personally try to just be thankful for the thought even if the gift is not something I would want.