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🌈 Share Your Coming Out Story & Offer Support! 🌈
by CheeryMango
Last post
 December 4th
...See more Hey everyone! Pride Month is a time to celebrate our identities, honor our journeys, and support one another. One of the most personal and powerful experiences for many in the LGBTQ+ community is the act of coming out. Whether you’ve already come out, are considering it, or are just here to support others, this is a safe space for you to share your story and offer encouragement. How to Participate: * Share Your Story: If you’re comfortable, share your coming out story with us. How did you come out? What was the experience like for you? How did it impact your life? * Offer Support: For those who have already come out, please offer advice, support, and encouragement to others who might be considering taking this step. * Ask for Advice: If you’re thinking about coming out and have questions or need support, don’t hesitate to ask here. We’re all here to help each other. ------------------------- Note: Please be respectful and supportive of everyone’s experiences. We are here to create a safe and welcoming environment for all.
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Weekly Prompt #3: What helped you understand and accept your sexuality/gender identity
by ASilentObserver
Last post
 November 8th
...See more Hi everyone, I hope you are all well. Last time we discussed, What one piece of advice would you give to your younger self? [https://www.7cups.com/forum/LGBTQMOGIISupport_58/DiscussionsandResources_2305/WeeklyPrompt2Whatoneadvicewouldyougivetoyouryoungerself_302416/] In today's prompt, I want us to take a minute of reflection and share what was the journey of coming out looked like for you. The prompt: What helped you understand and accept your sexuality/gender identity? What was that journey like for you? Share your thoughts with us. Join us in the LGBTQ Support Chat today! [https://www.7cups.com/chat/?c=mmRpeXyVlOJO42uXVVyYhttps://www.7cups.com/connect/groupChatrooms.php] [https://www.7cups.com/chat/?c=mmRpeXyVlOJO42uXVVyY] ------------------------- [http://twitter.com/share?url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.7cups.com%2Fforum%2FLGBTQMOGIISupport_58%2FDiscussionsandResources_2305%2FWeeklyPrompt2Whatoneadvicewouldyougivetoyouryoungerself_302416%2F&text=Weekly+Prompt+%232%3A+W+%407cups] [/sharer/sharer.php?u=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.7cups.com%2Fforum%2FLGBTQMOGIISupport_58%2FDiscussionsandResources_2305%2FWeeklyPrompt2Whatoneadvicewouldyougivetoyouryoungerself_302416%2F]
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🌈 Pride Month 2024 Forum Discussion Masterpost
by tommy
Last post
 November 4th
...See more  Happy Pride everyone! I hope you are enjoying the month so far and are taking advantage of the different opportunities available to you across 7 Cups to celebrate. Please click here [https://www.7cups.com/forum/lgbtq/General_2455/PrideMonthCelebrationLetsComeTogether_330299/] for a thread outlining how we are celebrating Pride for 2024! We wanted to compile together all of the different forum posts, discussions and icebreakers/games into one place so you do not miss out on anything.  This is an inclusive celebration and many (if not all) of the discussions/threads are suited to everyone, not just those who identify as part of the LGBTQ+ community. Please let me know if you have posted a thread which you'd like adding to this list and thank you to everyone for making this celebration so wonderful!  🏳️‍🌈 Say hi and introduce yourself here [https://www.7cups.com/forum/lgbtq/General_2455/LGBTQAwarenessPrideMonthSayHiandIntroduceYourself_330296/] 🏳️‍🌈 Share your coming out story and offer support [https://www.7cups.com/forum/lgbtq/General_2455/ShareYourComingOutStoryOfferSupport_330608/] 🏳️‍🌈 Pride playlist: share your favourite songs [https://www.7cups.com/forum/lgbtq/General_2455/PridePlaylistShareYourFavoriteSongs_330457/] 🏳️‍🌈 How does your country celebrate pride? [https://www.7cups.com/forum/countries/General_2439/PrideMonthAroundtheWorldHowdoesyourcountrycelebrate_330635/] 🏳️‍🌈 What tip would you give to maintain a healthy relationship? [https://www.google.com/url?q=https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/RelationshipSpace_2168/Whattipwouldyougivetomaintainahealthyrelationship_330918/&sa=D&source=editors&ust=1718455179340454&usg=AOvVaw1moi-ymobKd-2mWbPwrWFE] 🏳️‍🌈 [https://www.google.com/url?q=https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/RelationshipSpace_2168/Whattipwouldyougivetomaintainahealthyrelationship_330918/&sa=D&source=editors&ust=1718455179340454&usg=AOvVaw1moi-ymobKd-2mWbPwrWFE] What is your favorite book with LGBTQ+ representation? [https://www.7cups.com/forum/reading/Books_2603/ShareyourfavouritebookwithLGBTQrepresentation_330925/] 🏳️‍🌈 [https://www.google.com/url?q=https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/RelationshipSpace_2168/Whattipwouldyougivetomaintainahealthyrelationship_330918/&sa=D&source=editors&ust=1718455179340454&usg=AOvVaw1moi-ymobKd-2mWbPwrWFE] Pride Parade! EmotionsListener 7 Cups pfps generator [https://www.7cups.com/forum/lgbtq/General_2455/PrideMonth7CupsPfpLGBTQPrideParade_331195] 🏳️‍🌈 [https://www.google.com/url?q=https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/RelationshipSpace_2168/Whattipwouldyougivetomaintainahealthyrelationship_330918/&sa=D&source=editors&ust=1718455179340454&usg=AOvVaw1moi-ymobKd-2mWbPwrWFE] Supporting a Loved One Who Identifies as Belonging to the LGBTQIA+ Community [https://www.7cups.com/forum/lgbtq/General_2455/SupportingaLovedOneWhoIdentifiesasBelongingtotheLGBTQIACommunity_331625/] 🏳️‍🌈 [https://www.google.com/url?q=https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/RelationshipSpace_2168/Whattipwouldyougivetomaintainahealthyrelationship_330918/&sa=D&source=editors&ust=1718455179340454&usg=AOvVaw1moi-ymobKd-2mWbPwrWFE] AMA with a 7 Cups Therapist [https://www.7cups.com/forum/therapy/AMAwiththe7CupsTherapists_1133/CLOSEDtonewQuestionsAMAPrideMonthrelatedtoLBGTQIA7CupsOnlineTherapy_331001/] This masterlist will be updated each time a new thread is posted. Last update: 1 July 2024
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I need help fast 😭😭 🔞🌽 sucks
by changbinnie143
Last post
 September 24th
...See more Sooo…idk where to post this so I’m just gonna like troubleshoot it out. This might be a little 18+ so please be the proper age limit 🙏 I have a question am I still gay if I got turned on by something | watched on 18+ video, it was like animated and it was about a, I know this might be a bad term but "futanari" (for those of you that don’t know it’s a woman with male genitalia most commonly used in like anime or drawing communities) accept she had like a masculine built and energy, like VERY masculine is this weird? Cause I remember if they looked to much like a girl and really feminine id be kinda grossed out, but this was like gender ambiguous idk it was weird. I can't imagine having sex with her even if she has, the masculine energy and male genitalia but idk it aroused me and I watched it a couple times. I also don't know if my mind is making like a false memory but I remember like searching up the character and imputing my fetishes but I don't think I liked it or felt anything about it. Idk maybe it's like a false memory but idk
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Looking for someone with knowledge of HIV
by lnzB
Last post
 September 9th
...See more I'm worried about an encounter with another guy... So here is the full scenario: This other person groped my crotch while my clothes were still on.  I was wearing cotton boxers and drifit shorts at that time.  He touched the outside of my crotch and made contact only with my boxers and shorts.  I felt his hands on my ***, but on the outside.  We then hugged. I was wearing a tank top and he was wearing a shirt.  We both had no visible sores or anything.  I was also wearing a mask.  After a discussion with that person, he claims he was negative for HIV after getting tested last June 2024 and other prior HIV tests although I do not know what kinds of tests he took to illicit a negative reading for all of them.  He claims also to be STI-free.  So, based on that, what is my risk of contracting HIV?
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Am I a bad Christian?
by RUMBUM
Last post
 April 30th
...See more I am a 13-year-old transgender man who is also bisexual. I have been going to a catholic school since I was a toddler. I knew I was young since I was gay since I was a little kid and just recently found out I was trans. I have been faced with a lot of homophobia since I was little but always ignored it until recently. I have been told that being gay is a sin. That being trans will put me to *** and a bunch of other religious homophobic and transphobic stuff. Because of the stuff people tell me I have grown a slight hatred to the Christian religion. But I also don't want to go to ***. I have tried praying to God to be straight and cis but nothing works so can someone tell me if I'm being a bad person or not?
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I’m gay but scared
by Gk179607
Last post
 April 11th
...See more I’m gay guy 35 I know I’m gay [men] turn me on I really wanna meet a guy for fun to explore but I always get to nervous and bottle it [edited by theriverissinging to fit within sub-community boundaries, guidelines here [https://www.7cups.com/community-guidelines/Forum-Guidelines-3c989621981b4b6db6c722d76274b058] - graphic details are more flexibly allowed in the Sexual Health subforum [https://www.7cups.com/forum/RelationshipFriendshipSupport_66/SexualHealth_2031/]]
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35yo gay male struggling with loneliness, depression, pointlessness, apathy
by Krobsy
Last post
 March 30th
...See more Hey everyone. I’m not sure what I’m looking for. Maybe a conversation with another gay male around my age. I’m just really tired of how apathetic my life is. I do nothing. I care about nothing. I have no interests hobbies or passion. I’m constantly bored but can’t imagine a single thing I want to do. Sex is one of the only things that interests me but even that is a struggle, and complicated by my relationship. I’m depressed and lonely. I could use a friend to talk to.
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Feeling lonely & scared
by lonelyguy2022
Last post
 June 24th, 2023
...See more I'm 31 Gay and a recovering alcoholic. I currently have 4 months sobriety. I used to get my confidence and courage from alcohol but now I'm sober I'm all alone, no friends, no lover :( what's the point anymore.
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Land of confusion… TW, rape
by IndigoShade00
Last post
 May 31st, 2023
...See more I am not really sure where to start. I was 10 years old when I was repeatedly raped while in the foster care system. It was also during this time that I had my first crush on a boy named Lance. It was such a confusing time n my life because I was dealing with the reasons I got into foster care n addition to processing what had happened to me and why I had a crush on a boy. In my teen years I was never interested in the dating scene or even have an interest in sex, I would rather be alone. Girls I liked never saw me as more than a friend, but I had gotten a lot of interest from gay men and even had one guy offer me $100 if I would dance nude for him in his hotel room. Over the years the feelings about my sexuality had never gone away. One time when I had not been dating anyone for years, my sister in law asked me if I was gay at the dinner table at thanksgiving, of course I denied it, especially when you consider that my family was about as redneck and racist as they come. i am also neurodivergent and on the spectrum. I give you all of that context to bring you to the present day. I have been married for 26 years now. 4 years ago I nearly ended my life and started in therapy. By doing all of the hard work in therapy I am now seeing myself differently. I see myself as identifying closely to being pansexual as I need to have a solid connection with someone before it can be a romantic relationship. These days I tend to think more about men sexually than women, but it is just that… thought. with all of that said, I am not happy in my marriage and am working on an exit strategy. I am so lost, and stuck, and confused, and frustrated, and alone. I write this not necessarily asking for feedback, although I would greatly appreciate it. I would also appreciate any validation if your story is somewhat similar. thanks for your time reading this.
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Curious mind
by pluckyCherry8070
Last post
 February 28th, 2023
...See more feeling lost and confused. I’m a male in my late 30s that’s only ever been with women. For years I’ve had this major curiosity of experimenting and bottoming with a guy. Awhile back I let a girl peg me to see if that curved my curiosity any. After feeling embarrassed by her reaction during the act it drove me from letting her experiment with me like this. I’ve thought a few times of trying it again, but finding girls interested in this act is few and far between. And my curiosity in being with another guy still simmers in my mind. Anytime I have “alone” time and think of another guy I feel great, but after the act I end up feeling guilty and worry if I did Do something with another guy it might be something I regret one day. This has been a on again off again battle I’ve had with myself for a few years now. Any in site or help would be greatly appreciated even if it’s just reassurance that I’m not losing my mind feeling like this
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Struggling with loving myself..
by joseangellll1
Last post
 February 28th, 2023
...See more hi, this is my first time ever really seeking help. I’ve never ever really thought I needed it. I’m just gonna vent really quick.. I was talking to this guy name Junior back in August-September, I never really thought any of it would go anywhere but he just let me open up to him without judging me…I loved how he understood me so well. I just liked everything about him fast forward October comes I give him a big bouquet of flowers on the week of his birthday because his birthday is the day after mine. I put so much effort into this talking stage because I truly did think he loved me the way I loved him. But soon everything started feeling one sided..not like it didn’t feel like it before. But it was more and more. I found out he started dating a girl the day after I gave him the bouquet of flowers. My heart drops and I just lose it. I loved him so much and it was hard I will admit it was hard to comprehend what was going on. I tried forgetting about him by going out with other guys but nothing felt the same. Absolutely nothing made me feel the way he made me feel. It upsetted me so much. November comes and I start dating this guy named Adrien and yea at first it was exciting and I was just happy to have someone…I start getting into weed and I start talking to him less and less everyday. We break up in December because he told me I had “issues” and I will admit I did..Words cannot explain how stupid I felt that entire month I felt worthless and just mentally exhausted from everything. Fast forward Christmas break and me and junior are talking again but as friends and he’s just kinda there. Fast forward February…I start talking to adrien after he broke up with his gf. I did think it was kind of weird how he could just move on so quickly and yea I didn’t think anything of it I was just happy he was back. But later that week I find out through one of his friends that he was planning on cheating on me with his ex gf and that just tears me apart because before this we would meet up every single day and just hangout and yea I will admit we did do some things but it was never too far. I feel so used and a bunch of my friends told me the same thing that I was being used for sex. But I was delusional and I didn’t care what my friends thought about him because I loved him and I just don’t love myself enough to make better decisions. I can’t find a way to move myself and it’s affecting me so much. I just let people use me over and over again it’s getting to the point where I just hate the way I look I hate things about me that I didn’t use to hate. Maybe if I wasn’t so stubborn or naive I wouldn’t have gotten used again and it’s just *** me up so much.
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First time
by patientLion8451
Last post
 February 6th, 2023
...See more Hi guys, I'm not sure if I can ask this here but how do you top for the first time if both have never done It before. I'm concern if I can't get it in. I read articles just saying to put lots of lots of lube and then just push it inside
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Caught boyfriend on grindr... Again
by resourcefulHuman668
Last post
 January 17th, 2023
...See more Hi there, So I caught my boyfriend of 1 year on grindr again. This is like the 3rd time now. Even though he says that he didn't cheat, I still know that he's not happy with our relationship. Because why else would you be looking elsewhere? This has given me so much trust issues where I've started questioning the whole relationship. I'm depressed, sad and feel lonely. I know I've had enough but I'm not sure if I'm making a mistake here.
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I feel so lost *Major trigger warnings*
by FeelBroken1977
Last post
 January 17th, 2023
...See more When I was little I was repeatedly abused by my much older cousin. I felt like it got to the point where (as *** up as this seems) I started to enjoy it? Fast forward through my entire life and I was living the straight "normal" life but secretly sneaking away to engage in sex with men. My wife recently found out and we had a long discussion about having an open marriage, but she keeps going back and forth about accepting it and not accepting it and it destroying her....now I love her very much, but it seems like the more I try to repress it, the stronger it fights back.. these past few weeks I have really been in a spiral of self hatred and depression and I feel so lost

LGBTQ+/MOGII Support

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Welcome to LGBTQ+/MOGII Support! We are so pleased that you have found our little rainbow here in the 7 cups forums. Our community is here to support you as an LGBTQ+/MOGII person, family member, friend and/or ally. Whether you are curious and questioning, or out and proud, and all the stages in between, this is a place where you can find support in being who you are and coping with the challenges that come with it. We strive to keep this a safe space for all. Here you can discuss anything and everything related to the LGBTQ+/MOGII community and being LGBTQ+/MOGII.


What are the different forum topics for LGBTQ+/MOGII Support?

Asexual Umbrella Support: Got a question or want to share more about asexuality? Explore more here!

Checking in and breaking the ice: A place for you to introduce yourself, take part in our community check-ins and get to know other community members by participating in fun games!

Community & Culture: Want to know more about the LGBTQ+/MOGII community and cultural contributions? This is the place to learn more!

Discussions and Resources: Want to participate in meaningful discussions and access additional resources? Join in here!

Gay Support: Got a question or want to share more about being gay? Uncover more here!

Gender Identity Support: Questioning your gender identity? Want to share your experiences? Discuss it here!

Intersex Support: Got a question or want to share more about being intersex? Learn more here!

LGBTQ+ General Support:  Struggling with other issues as an LGBTQ+/MOGII person? Working to cope with issues impacting the wider LGBTQ+/MOGII community? Find more support here! 

Lesbian Support: Got a question or want to share more about being a lesbian? Share your experiences here!

Multisexual Umbrella Support: Got a question or want to share more about multisexuality? Discuss more here!

Questioning & Coming Out: Are you questioning? Thinking about coming out? Maybe you already have? Share your struggles and stories here!


How can I heIp?

You can help us by simply responding to threads and sharing your story (if you're comfortable to). Alternatively, you may wish to join us as a Forum Leader. Check out this thread for more information. Even just participating in events, check-ins and group chats can be a great way to help build and support the community!


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LGBTQ+/MOGII Suppoort Q&A

Are there any sub-community specific guidelines that we need to adhere to? All sub-community specific guidelines can be found below and should be followed in addition to the general forum guidelines.


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Community Guidelines

1) Be kind & open minded at all times!

2) Do not impose any beliefs onto another in any harmful way!

3) Please don't express judgments or attack anyone within the community!

4) Please respect each other's gender, pronouns, sexual orientation, identities in general!

 

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Community Resources

1. Abuse, Violence, Discrimination & Safety

(Abuse guides and resources, violence prevention and staying safe, normativity, discrimination, privilege)

2. Allies, Families & Friends

(Resources for allies, caregivers, families, organisations, communities, schools...)

3. Asexual & Aromantic Spectrum

(Resources, guides and websites, finding your identity, gray-asexuality and demisexuality)

4. Coming Out

(Resources for you before, while and after coming out)

5. Emergency & Crisis Resources

(Helplines, hotlines, emergency numbers, crisis information)

6. Gender Expression

(Understanding gender expression, feminising, masculising & binding, names and pronouns)

7. Gender Identity

(Understanding and finding gender and gender identity, gender terminology and glossaries)

8. Health, Dysphoria & Transitioning

(Gender Dysphoria help, transitioning resources, LGBTQ+ health information)

9. Religion

(LGBTQ+ supportive religious resources by denomination)

10. Sex Diversity & Intersex

(Understanding sex diversity and intersex, resoruces)

11. Sexual & Romantic Orientations

(Understanding attraction and orientation, finding and accepting your identity, gay, lesbian, bi, pan resources)

12. Workplace & Education

(Being LGBTQ+, coming out at and seeking work, university or school)

13. Trans Resources

(Resourses for the Trans community)


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