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🌈 Share Your Coming Out Story & Offer Support! 🌈
by CheeryMango
Last post
 December 4th, 2024
...See more Hey everyone! Pride Month is a time to celebrate our identities, honor our journeys, and support one another. One of the most personal and powerful experiences for many in the LGBTQ+ community is the act of coming out. Whether you’ve already come out, are considering it, or are just here to support others, this is a safe space for you to share your story and offer encouragement. How to Participate: * Share Your Story: If you’re comfortable, share your coming out story with us. How did you come out? What was the experience like for you? How did it impact your life? * Offer Support: For those who have already come out, please offer advice, support, and encouragement to others who might be considering taking this step. * Ask for Advice: If you’re thinking about coming out and have questions or need support, don’t hesitate to ask here. We’re all here to help each other. ------------------------- Note: Please be respectful and supportive of everyone’s experiences. We are here to create a safe and welcoming environment for all.
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Weekly Prompt #3: What helped you understand and accept your sexuality/gender identity
by ASilentObserver
Last post
 November 8th, 2024
...See more Hi everyone, I hope you are all well. Last time we discussed, What one piece of advice would you give to your younger self? [https://www.7cups.com/forum/LGBTQMOGIISupport_58/DiscussionsandResources_2305/WeeklyPrompt2Whatoneadvicewouldyougivetoyouryoungerself_302416/] In today's prompt, I want us to take a minute of reflection and share what was the journey of coming out looked like for you. The prompt: What helped you understand and accept your sexuality/gender identity? What was that journey like for you? Share your thoughts with us. Join us in the LGBTQ Support Chat today! [https://www.7cups.com/chat/?c=mmRpeXyVlOJO42uXVVyYhttps://www.7cups.com/connect/groupChatrooms.php] [https://www.7cups.com/chat/?c=mmRpeXyVlOJO42uXVVyY] ------------------------- [http://twitter.com/share?url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.7cups.com%2Fforum%2FLGBTQMOGIISupport_58%2FDiscussionsandResources_2305%2FWeeklyPrompt2Whatoneadvicewouldyougivetoyouryoungerself_302416%2F&text=Weekly+Prompt+%232%3A+W+%407cups] [/sharer/sharer.php?u=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.7cups.com%2Fforum%2FLGBTQMOGIISupport_58%2FDiscussionsandResources_2305%2FWeeklyPrompt2Whatoneadvicewouldyougivetoyouryoungerself_302416%2F]
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🌈 Pride Month 2024 Forum Discussion Masterpost
by tommy
Last post
 November 4th, 2024
...See more  Happy Pride everyone! I hope you are enjoying the month so far and are taking advantage of the different opportunities available to you across 7 Cups to celebrate. Please click here [https://www.7cups.com/forum/lgbtq/General_2455/PrideMonthCelebrationLetsComeTogether_330299/] for a thread outlining how we are celebrating Pride for 2024! We wanted to compile together all of the different forum posts, discussions and icebreakers/games into one place so you do not miss out on anything.  This is an inclusive celebration and many (if not all) of the discussions/threads are suited to everyone, not just those who identify as part of the LGBTQ+ community. Please let me know if you have posted a thread which you'd like adding to this list and thank you to everyone for making this celebration so wonderful!  🏳️‍🌈 Say hi and introduce yourself here [https://www.7cups.com/forum/lgbtq/General_2455/LGBTQAwarenessPrideMonthSayHiandIntroduceYourself_330296/] 🏳️‍🌈 Share your coming out story and offer support [https://www.7cups.com/forum/lgbtq/General_2455/ShareYourComingOutStoryOfferSupport_330608/] 🏳️‍🌈 Pride playlist: share your favourite songs [https://www.7cups.com/forum/lgbtq/General_2455/PridePlaylistShareYourFavoriteSongs_330457/] 🏳️‍🌈 How does your country celebrate pride? [https://www.7cups.com/forum/countries/General_2439/PrideMonthAroundtheWorldHowdoesyourcountrycelebrate_330635/] 🏳️‍🌈 What tip would you give to maintain a healthy relationship? [https://www.google.com/url?q=https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/RelationshipSpace_2168/Whattipwouldyougivetomaintainahealthyrelationship_330918/&sa=D&source=editors&ust=1718455179340454&usg=AOvVaw1moi-ymobKd-2mWbPwrWFE] 🏳️‍🌈 [https://www.google.com/url?q=https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/RelationshipSpace_2168/Whattipwouldyougivetomaintainahealthyrelationship_330918/&sa=D&source=editors&ust=1718455179340454&usg=AOvVaw1moi-ymobKd-2mWbPwrWFE] What is your favorite book with LGBTQ+ representation? [https://www.7cups.com/forum/reading/Books_2603/ShareyourfavouritebookwithLGBTQrepresentation_330925/] 🏳️‍🌈 [https://www.google.com/url?q=https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/RelationshipSpace_2168/Whattipwouldyougivetomaintainahealthyrelationship_330918/&sa=D&source=editors&ust=1718455179340454&usg=AOvVaw1moi-ymobKd-2mWbPwrWFE] Pride Parade! EmotionsListener 7 Cups pfps generator [https://www.7cups.com/forum/lgbtq/General_2455/PrideMonth7CupsPfpLGBTQPrideParade_331195] 🏳️‍🌈 [https://www.google.com/url?q=https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/RelationshipSpace_2168/Whattipwouldyougivetomaintainahealthyrelationship_330918/&sa=D&source=editors&ust=1718455179340454&usg=AOvVaw1moi-ymobKd-2mWbPwrWFE] Supporting a Loved One Who Identifies as Belonging to the LGBTQIA+ Community [https://www.7cups.com/forum/lgbtq/General_2455/SupportingaLovedOneWhoIdentifiesasBelongingtotheLGBTQIACommunity_331625/] 🏳️‍🌈 [https://www.google.com/url?q=https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/RelationshipSpace_2168/Whattipwouldyougivetomaintainahealthyrelationship_330918/&sa=D&source=editors&ust=1718455179340454&usg=AOvVaw1moi-ymobKd-2mWbPwrWFE] AMA with a 7 Cups Therapist [https://www.7cups.com/forum/therapy/AMAwiththe7CupsTherapists_1133/CLOSEDtonewQuestionsAMAPrideMonthrelatedtoLBGTQIA7CupsOnlineTherapy_331001/] This masterlist will be updated each time a new thread is posted. Last update: 1 July 2024
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Self Love And Acceptance
by PinkKitties
Last post
 19 hours ago
...See more We often seek acceptance and support from others when it comes to our sexuality but we often forget to accept ourselves. We have so much internalized homophobia and it is what holds us back sometimes.  Never forget is okay to be whoever and whatever you are, you are not forced to fit into a box and follow the ''norm''. Be kind to others, but most importantly, be kind to yourself. The world is already hard enough on us.
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Lost, realized I'll never be accepted by my family
by loyalTurtle8038
Last post
 1 day ago
...See more Realized I may never come out as bi to my family after hearing them make transphobic and homophobic jokes while drunk. I am not out in my 30s as I have an opposite sex long term partner. I visited my family recently and it was going well til they got drunk and started sprouting right wing jokes about non-binary/trans/anyone who isn't straight and calling people homophobic slurs. The energy in the room was palpable as they were daring me to say anything (earlier in the night I stupidly made an anti-Trump comment). I kept quiet as I was working on something and pretended to focus on it. I really wish I had the courage to say something but I'm partially disabled so I rely on my family to help with bills and stuff and feel like I'd be cut off if I outed myself. I eventually went to somewhere private to break down crying. They offered me to move back with them,which at first I wanted to accept but between the jokes and the next 4 years I really want to stay in my deep blue state rather than moving to a purple one. I may end up homeless but at least I'll have the last shred of my dignity that I didn't move in with bigots that treat me like a burden. I don't really know what to do,but I know my story isn't uncommon except for perhaps my age of still not being out.
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Feeling lost. Thought my family would accept me eventually but recently realized they probably won't.
by loyalTurtle8038
Last post
 1 day ago
...See more Still not out as bi in my 30s since I'm with an opposite sex partner. Been too afraid to come out to my family as sadly I am still somewhat financially reliant on them as I'm partially disabled. I recently visited with all of my immediate family and was feeling pretty decent until they all got drunk and started making the same old tired non-binary and trans jokes, calling people qu**r, and just generally being trans/homophobic. The energy in the room was palpable that they were daring me to say something but I kept quiet. I moved across the country years ago from a purple state that has a ton of red to a deep blue state. I'm basically out of money and I had an offer to move back with my immediate family again that I almost accepted but after hearing how they really feel---and they don't have the gall to say things like this while not drunk,as if being drunk is an excuse---i don't want to move back. At this point I may be homeless but I'll keep the last of my dignity that I don't have to move in with bigots who treat me like a burden. Especially with the new president I want to stay in my deep blue state. It's expensive,as most west coast states are. But at least I feel like there's a better support system here than I'd get in other states as well. I feel like such a coward for not coming out. I feel like if I did my family would never talk to me again, which would hurt. I feel like I should have come out a decade ago but I've only accepted in bi within the last 2 years despite having hints since I hit puberty. Since I was raised super religious I squashed those feelings down. I honestly don't know what to do.
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**TRIGGER WARNING** abuse
by azureCoconut2121
Last post
 1 day ago
...See more I feel like people don’t believe me about my abuse because my ex parter is transmasc and they infantilize him. I was slightly taller than him as well which doesn’t help I guess. He’s also a poc so it looks like I’m crying white woman tears to a lot of folks. Really frustrating trying to call out abusers in already marginalized communities. He also gets freebies from a lot of folks because he’s so charming and is a “feminist” and has been considered “one of the girls”. His top artist on Spotify was Chappell Roan. I’m traumatized for life and I never want to hear Hot To Go ever again, anyone else struggle with abuse in the queer community, particularly from transmascs or two spirit folks? 🥲
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FTM Trans Partner Aggression (Trigger Warning: mention of abuse, sa, psychosis/mania , hormone therapy)
by azureCoconut2121
Last post
 2 days ago
...See more My partner became very aggressive and physically abusive to me halfway through the relationship, and I’ve been noticing signs of underlying issues as well. It started getting bad when he began taking T again, but he was not taking it regularly so it seemed like a revolving cycle of constant anger and abuse because his hormones would never actually have time to settle. He purposely skipped doing his shot one day because he didn’t feel like walking to the clinic in the snow apparently, even though I said I’d go with him. Other times it just got too expensive. I’m well aware it doesn’t excuse the abuse and I’m going to counselling and doing my own healing because i can’t be with him it’s too much the cheating the lying and all the physical and sexual abuse , but because I did care deeply for him and still do I told his mom what happened and about my worries about him being in some sort of a spiritual psychosis or mania and she’s going to try and get him the help he needs. He gets in these “i am the messiah” moods and has been in one for days. He keeps calling everyone evil and saying the truth will prevail and just talking all sorts of crazy nonsense that probably makes perfect sense to him. We’ve (his mom and I) both been briefly researching it though and it seems there’s a connection between taking testosterone and becoming more aggressive. Between the patriarchy that also trains men to be violent to fit in, the trauma that each individual carries, the lack of resources available just in general for trans people to begin with, and this, has anyone else had really dangerous or bad experiences in relationships with trans mascs? Posting here because I in no way mean to add to any stigma or imply that all trans men are violent, but if this is a studied phenomenon why is it not talked about more within the 2SLGBTQIA+ community so there can be more adequate resources so innocent people don’t get caught in the crossfire?
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Write a happy story in 6 words - LGBTQ+/MOGII Edition 🥰
by EmotionsListener
Last post
 2 days ago
...See more Given it's pride month, I was inspired by a similar post by @juliak1968 so thank you for the idea. Please take a moment and write your own LGBTQ+/MOGII themed happy story in 6 words. I'll share a few to start. 💖🧡💛💚💙💜"Love is found under a rainbow."💜💙💚💛🧡💖 🌈"My pot of gold is her"🌈 "The closet won't be my cage." Here's another one for us: ***note it's okay if it's ±1 word*** @LovingPeacefulHeart
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With LGBTQ+/MOGII rights being 'attacked/repealed', more & more - what, if anything, are you doing to address this? If nothing, why not?
by WalkingSoftly
Last post
 Friday
...See more As an 'elder' LGBTQ person, who has been involved with LGBTQ+ community for over 30 years, experiencing/witnessing atrocities, participating in 'human rights' inclusion. However, in very recent years, there seems to be a 'back lash/ attack/ repealing' of hard-fought earned rights. I am interested what the forum has to contribute, considering LGBTQ+/MOGII 'rights' may be/or already have been taken away. How are you coping?
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This is how I would explain to a little kid what it's like to be trans or non binary.
by A0curious0fire
Last post
 Thursday
...See more Okay I've been kicking this around up at work for a while now but this is how I would explain what it's like to be trans to a little kid: some princes were born as a prince and expected to behave as a prince but deep down inside, he would feel more comfortable as a princess instead. Some princesses were born as a princess and expected to behave as a princess, but just like the prince who would feel more comfortable as a princess, she would feel more comfortable as a prince instead. For the beans out there: some people were born as a prince or a princess but depending on the person, that might not be correct. You might fall outside of that, or have qualities of both a prince and princess, or even shift between the two. If you don't feel like a prince or a princess at all or kind of feel like a prince or princess but not really, I want you to know that there's nothing wrong with you and you're valid.
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Lgbt dealing with religion
by Amymimy2711
Last post
 Thursday
...See more I discovered I’m a lesbian this year, but I’ve been raised in church my hole life, my hole family is Christian or Catholic and hate lgbt ppl. The problem is that I was very active in church and I like the things there, I don’t want to stop of being Christian…but I can’t hear more preaching about gays and stuff, every time I hear one, I think about just never coming out and pretend I’m straight my hole life(Good luck babe from Chappel roan haunts me) I know that I can’t be in religion if I’m a lesbian, but I don’t want to leave like this, i just want some opinions I think. I still think the Bible is right, and my subconscious is just driving me crazy with nightmares that I’m going to ***, I kinda believe I am going too…I just want opinions, how do you guys deal with that?
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What’s your sexuality last person to text it wins!
by Littleangel89864
Last post
 Wednesday
...See more I heard about these challenges, so I wanna do it too come on everybody you can do it! Also, I hope you’re having a good day and my sexuality is bisexual. I know I’m not gonna win.
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Relationship Family Issues
by diligentDrum7773
Last post
 Wednesday
...See more My partner is very close to her family. Her father passed away early last year and I am just trying to be supportive. With her father gone we have spent a lot more time with her sister and her partner.  This is now causing me some stress because of comments her sister but mainly her partner has said towards me and is overall rude. He is a moaner so often my partner doesn't really listen to him.  One time he basically took the man's side in some abuse case that was on the news and I said funny how you take his side yet you have no idea what's gone on. He went mad and was shouting at me. He shouted to my partner's sister "SARAH IF THIS HAPPENED TO YOU WOULD YOU TELL THEM TO STOP YES OR NO?" She just said yes and he carried on shouting basically an I told you so situation and he was so aggressive towards me in the way he spoke. I am absolutely shocked still that everyone in the room just sat there and let him speak toe like that. My partner, her mum and her sister...  I have spoken to my partner but she said like before that she doesn't really listen to what he's saying because he moans but I can't get over the way he spoke to me and no one doing anything 
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Wellness Wednesday #1
by Louie43
Last post
 January 13th
...See more Hey guys, So, I'm gonna try to post every Wednesday (sorry for the name) something that I find helpful. Please remember that I am not a therapist. If you or someone you know is in a crisis, considering suicide, or just want to talk please reach out to 988 or The Trevor Project. Here's the tip: You will only be able to make a change when you're ready. For example, you can go on a diet and only lose a few pounds, but you'll lose more pounds when you tell yourself "I am ready to change." I found this helpful for working out to build muscle, but also for my mental state. I was really struggling and I decided to do something about it. I told my self I was ready to get better, even if it's a little day by day.  I hope this helps! Sending Love, Louie

LGBTQ+/MOGII Support

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Welcome to LGBTQ+/MOGII Support! We are so pleased that you have found our little rainbow here in the 7 cups forums. Our community is here to support you as an LGBTQ+/MOGII person, family member, friend and/or ally. Whether you are curious and questioning, or out and proud, and all the stages in between, this is a place where you can find support in being who you are and coping with the challenges that come with it. We strive to keep this a safe space for all. Here you can discuss anything and everything related to the LGBTQ+/MOGII community and being LGBTQ+/MOGII.


What are the different forum topics for LGBTQ+/MOGII Support?

Asexual Umbrella Support: Got a question or want to share more about asexuality? Explore more here!

Checking in and breaking the ice: A place for you to introduce yourself, take part in our community check-ins and get to know other community members by participating in fun games!

Community & Culture: Want to know more about the LGBTQ+/MOGII community and cultural contributions? This is the place to learn more!

Discussions and Resources: Want to participate in meaningful discussions and access additional resources? Join in here!

Gay Support: Got a question or want to share more about being gay? Uncover more here!

Gender Identity Support: Questioning your gender identity? Want to share your experiences? Discuss it here!

Intersex Support: Got a question or want to share more about being intersex? Learn more here!

LGBTQ+ General Support:  Struggling with other issues as an LGBTQ+/MOGII person? Working to cope with issues impacting the wider LGBTQ+/MOGII community? Find more support here! 

Lesbian Support: Got a question or want to share more about being a lesbian? Share your experiences here!

Multisexual Umbrella Support: Got a question or want to share more about multisexuality? Discuss more here!

Questioning & Coming Out: Are you questioning? Thinking about coming out? Maybe you already have? Share your struggles and stories here!


How can I heIp?

You can help us by simply responding to threads and sharing your story (if you're comfortable to). Alternatively, you may wish to join us as a Forum Leader. Check out this thread for more information. Even just participating in events, check-ins and group chats can be a great way to help build and support the community!


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LGBTQ+/MOGII Suppoort Q&A

Are there any sub-community specific guidelines that we need to adhere to? All sub-community specific guidelines can be found below and should be followed in addition to the general forum guidelines.


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Community Guidelines

1) Be kind & open minded at all times!

2) Do not impose any beliefs onto another in any harmful way!

3) Please don't express judgments or attack anyone within the community!

4) Please respect each other's gender, pronouns, sexual orientation, identities in general!

 

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Community Resources

1. Abuse, Violence, Discrimination & Safety

(Abuse guides and resources, violence prevention and staying safe, normativity, discrimination, privilege)

2. Allies, Families & Friends

(Resources for allies, caregivers, families, organisations, communities, schools...)

3. Asexual & Aromantic Spectrum

(Resources, guides and websites, finding your identity, gray-asexuality and demisexuality)

4. Coming Out

(Resources for you before, while and after coming out)

5. Emergency & Crisis Resources

(Helplines, hotlines, emergency numbers, crisis information)

6. Gender Expression

(Understanding gender expression, feminising, masculising & binding, names and pronouns)

7. Gender Identity

(Understanding and finding gender and gender identity, gender terminology and glossaries)

8. Health, Dysphoria & Transitioning

(Gender Dysphoria help, transitioning resources, LGBTQ+ health information)

9. Religion

(LGBTQ+ supportive religious resources by denomination)

10. Sex Diversity & Intersex

(Understanding sex diversity and intersex, resoruces)

11. Sexual & Romantic Orientations

(Understanding attraction and orientation, finding and accepting your identity, gay, lesbian, bi, pan resources)

12. Workplace & Education

(Being LGBTQ+, coming out at and seeking work, university or school)

13. Trans Resources

(Resourses for the Trans community)


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