Course 3: PL 102 - The Problem is the Path (Discussion 1)

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1:

3 things in your circle of concern – My parents, My heath, My financial situation

3 things in your circle of influence – My diet, work towards my goals at work, talk to my parents and stay connected

2:

The executive anticipated and empathized and acted on his circle of influence.

1. Watch the following video and identify 3 things in your circle of concern, 3 things in your circle of influence, and 1 thing you can do to remind yourself to focus on your circle of influence.

Family, Work and Internet are circle of concern.
Myself, Some quality people and excercise are circle of influence. Self-motivational talk is one of reminding habit that i done.

2. Next, watch the following video and highlight what stands out to you about this executive? What did they do that would be considered proactive as opposed to reactive?

He choose to aproach the situation as positive and try to do most of it. I think listening is a key element to be proactive and read between lines of what they say. He anticipated and be prepared for next assigment.

Identify 3 things in your circle of concern:

• My son,

• Climate change, global peace,

• how people view me,

• Covid, how many people are sick and those who have lost their families

3 things in your circle of influence:

• How I react to situations,

• My study schedule and working on keeping up with projects

• Spreading as much kindness and love to everyone

1 thing you can do is to remind yourself to focus on your circle of influence.

One thing I can do is make a chart to write down things that are in my control and those that are not. Then I can focus on the things that are in my area of concern and make small goals to work on them. I should not spend all my time focusing on things that are out of my control.

2. Next, watch the following video and highlight what stands out to you about this executive? What did they do that would be considered proactive as opposed to reactive?

The executive was proactive because he anticipated the needs and concerns of the president. He was not reactive to the situation, that would have just been him wasting time and energy worrying about things that he could not control. Instead, he focused on the things that were in his area of influence. By focusing on the things that were in his circle of influence and working to make a positive impact he continued to grow that circle bigger and bigger. He demonstrated really good leadership skills. I also liked how he made sure that everyone felt heard and understood and their concerns were being met.

Bonus: Check out chapter 8 of the book 7 Cups for the Searching Soul (more in the next discussion) for a deeper dive into learning more about accepting what we cannot control.

Chapter 8 was really good. I enjoyed the read and found it helpful. It talked about how we handle stress and worries. We can not control certain circumstances but we can how we react. Focusing on mindfulness and gratitude is important<3

How people see me, My family, and my own mental health. How I react to things that come to me, Setting up a schedule that will work with my schedule that I have, and Making sure I talk and speak with compassion and empathy. Spreading kindness and empathy to the people I’m around. This executive was listening and watching not gossiping not complaining but just watching what needed to be done and figured a way to help the boss instead of just sitting there waiting. This would be considered proactive because he was doing the work that he needed to do to help the team and making sure that the team was looking good when it comes to presentations. Chapter 8 is amazing and a really great read.

1-Which the following video and identity 3 things in your circle of concern, 3 things in your circle influence, and 1 thing you can do remind yourself to focus on your circle of influence.

3 things I care about are 1- Health, because without health everything is not possible to do 2- Having my family members around me, their presence gives me the motivation to continue 3- My work and my attempt to develop it

3 things in my influence circle are 1- Focusing more on my work 2- Helping the employees around me and providing them with adequate support 3- Developing my skills in a broader way to benefit more from what I have because the more I use what I have, the more I have to use it!

The one thing I can do to remind myself to focus on my circle of interest is (attendance). I consider this the most important factor that I remind myself of in order to continue growing and developing. Being present at the most and most important times

2-Next watch the following video and highlight what stands out to you about this executive? What did they do that would be considered proactive as opposed to reactive?

What distinguishes me from the executive is that I am more receptive to external factors, but I learned from him to focus on the goal well.

Bounce: check out chapter 8 of the book 7 cups for the searching soul ( more in the next discussion) for a deeper dive into learning more about accepting what we cannot control.

It is a wonderful book and I benefited a lot from it on a personal level. I began to learn how to control anxiety with simple and very effective exercises. Fortunately, the brain is very flexible and we can train it to help us overcome anxiety and daily stress, including mindfulness exercises, clarity of mind and healthy coping skills. We can solve problems in the external world by identifying them and then implementing the steps to solve them, while we cannot solve internal problems (such as negative thoughts and feelings) in the same way as solving external problems, the strategies are different in both cases

Internal problems can only be solved after we accept them. Unlike external problems, they can be solved directly. There are many things we yearn for that are always out of reach to make matters worse! Sometimes we succeed in getting what we want only when we lose the desire for it! Therefore, practicing mindfulness and gratitude is important to increase calmness in your life. You are forced to be anxious. To overcome anxiety and negative feelings, you must practice the skills on a daily and deliberate basis to keep you moving in the right direction.

@GlenM

@GlenM

1. Watch the following video and identify 3 things in your circle of concern, 3 things in your circle of influence, and 1 thing you can do to remind yourself to focus on your circle of influence.

• Three things in my circle of concern are my studies, health, and family.
• Three things in my circle of influence are limit distractions, be careful of what I eat, and spending more time with my family.
• One thing that I want to remind myself of is that I should think of the end goal and do my best to work towards it.

2. Next, watch the following video and highlight what stands out to you about this executive? What did they do that would be considered proactive as opposed to reactive?

- Something that stood out to me about this executive is that he focused on what he could control instead of what he couldn’t. What made him proactive is that he didn’t react to situations, instead he shaped his circumstances.

I enjoyed reading chapter 8 of the book 7 Cups for the Searching Soul. It reminded me that taking care of myself is important and it is okay to not be in control of everything.

My circle of concern ­

My family, health and studies.

Circle of influence ­­­

I try not to stress myself a lot with my studies even if it's kinda hard sometimes. I try to make sure I am okay and put my first as my first priority before I help others. If I am not okay with myself then I won't be able to help others. Lastly, I try to stay calm and assist/support my family. I try not to engage too much in their problems as I have my own ones too. I pretty much try to set boundaries.

Remind Myself:

I am doing my best and it's okay to take breaks. Try to stick to positive experiences and always focus on your goals and tasks! Make sure to help yourself first before helping others.

@GlenM

1. Watch the following video and identify 3 things in your circle of concern, 3 things in your circle of influence, and 1 thing you can do to remind yourself to focus on your circle of influence.

Circle of Concern

My family, health, My PsyD

Circle of influence

I am not stressed about my PsyD as I have applied they will let me know if I get it or not its not in my control, Family is everything but I also feel they need to think of me as everything so I give them ample time so they can appreciate me as well and Health is my top priority as I have come out of addiction and still need to make sure that my heart and other organs work with full functionality. I work hard for my health. Regular exercise diet etc.

Remind Myself:

I am doing my best and it's okay to take breaks. I know my goals

2. Next, watch the following video and highlight what stands out to you about this executive? What did they do that would be considered proactive as opposed to reactive?

- When I saw the video I kept thinking of the serenity prayer that we say God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference. Anticipation of the needs and concerns makes him proactive rather than reacting to the situation.

@GlenM

Identify 3 things in your circle of concern,

Three things in the circle of concern are: withdrawals, judging, criticizing

Three things in the circle of influence are focused on how you treat people, the way you make and keep promises and the way you apologize when you make mistakes

1 thing you can do to remind yourself to focus on your circle of influence is to try to make it a daily habit of positivity, the more I practiced good behaviours, it will reflect on the person I need to be.

Highlight what stands out to you about this executive?

What stands out to me about this executive is that he didn’t allow what the boss did to the organization to affect him negatively, instead he turn it around and strategize on how he can help build the company along with his co-workers

What did they do that would be considered proactive as opposed to reactive?

Instead of criticising, they would compensate for the situation