Course 2: Becoming a 7 Cups Leader - (Discussion #6) How to Accept Feedback

@Heather225

Think about the most recent feedback you received: How did you react?

I had a hard time trying to listen and accept what it said.

How did you feel?

It made me feel bad about myself, and not the work I did. I also felt like I was attacked.

Why do you think you reacted and feel that way?

I think my hindsight was 20/20. I couldn't get that it wasn't about me but about my work and that it was only meant to help me improve.

What would you do differently after having watched the video?

I would be more open to receive feedback, understand what it is about, ask about what I could do to improve.

@Heather225

Think about the most recent feedback you received: How did you react? How did you feel? Why do you think you reacted and feel that way? What would you do differently after having watched the video?

From the most recent feedbacks I received I reacted with worry and nervousness that I was doing a good enough job and also thinking about my job for example since I’m still in probation at the moment and not wanting a low evaluation. I also reacted hesitant when growing pale and cold sweats. Aside from the feedbacks I thought of from my job and how I want them to see me well in order to keep the job I’ve also thought of feedback from school such as from online tutoring where they would use my name slot and emphasized much more on what to fix which I don’t do well with people using my name too much since it feels threatening to me even though I don’t always mean badly. What I would do differently after seeing the video is to acknowledge how I’m reacting and thinking that the feedback whether it’s in a tone that feels hurtful at first or what will happen after will be helpful for me in the future and trust that once I implement the feedback I’ll be better and show that I can cooperate. I’ve also thought how it’s hard to hear feedback when you want to be independent and people grow up thinking that only doing work independently will make you someone successful. But learning that growth involves both independent work and feedback guidance and that it makes you smarter to ask the right questions will make it easier for you to process and retain those things learned.

@Heather225 Think about the most recent feedback you received: How did you react? How did you feel? Why do you think you reacted and felt that way? What would you do differently after having watched the video?

I have received a feedback mail from 7 cups that I should not give advice to my members. It was hard for me in the start not to give advice as I was a newbie. When I received it, I felt bad that I couldn't live up to their expectations and I had to improve myself. I saw the form post where I can help my members without giving them advice and that really helped me in learning from my feedback and becoming a better listener.

I also received constructive feedback on how I could post the forum threads in a better way as I had messed up in one. When they told me, I felt bad that I messed that up and I was given a second chance not to repeat it again. I asked them how I could do it better and learned from it.

Asking for advice is something I want to do after watching the video as it can really help improving yourself and there is always scope of improving

@Heather225

Think about the most recent feedback you received: How did you react? How did you feel? Why do you think you reacted and feel that way? What would you do differently after having watched the video?

I definitely took my first and only review very badly, as for feedback, I am very disappointed with myself, it knocks me down and makes me feel bad, but I generally log off for a while and come back and read the feedback and restart with a new insight.

Everybody, and I mean everybody, receives feedback, even leaders, managers, CEO's etc, and usually, the feedback given is from someone who knows the answers, we are all human, we are all learning.

If I feel feedback is incorrect, I will absolutely say so and ask for an explanation why their feedback is correct.

1 I do not even remember the last time I was giving feedback but I know how I acted in the past . For good feedback I can handle it well. With bad feedback or gives ideas to get better I do not handle it as well as should.

2 after the feedback I would step back for a bit to wrap my head around it.

I would thank them for feedback and ask how can I improve. I would set a time to check back on how I am doing. Really soon I am going ask for feedback on how doing in l rooms.

I’ve always been very open to feedback, in fact, I embrace it and ask for it if people I work with forget/fail to give me some. One of my day jobs is as a writer and there can never be improvement and growth if I continue to be sensitive to what other people think. We need to understand that our work and the job we do is a part of an ecosystem and that it greatly impacts many other processes. So the feedback isn’t just for you to improve but for you to further help the organisation/community/brand to improve and grow.

@Heather225

Think about the most recent feedback you received: How did you react? How did you feel? Why do you think you reacted and feel that way? What would you do differently after having watched the video?

The last time I received feedback, it was on an essay I wrote for school. I reacted in a decent way. I felt a bit frustrated about it because the feedback was a bit more constructive than expected. However, it also made me feel proud of my work because I worked hard on it. Differently, I could've been more open to listening to the feedback more to accept it since feedback only helps us improve.

@Heather225 Very true

@Heather225

I enjoyed receiving feedback and regarded it as an opportunity for growth and self improvement

@Heather225

Hello everyone,

#1: I receive lot's of feedback more positive than negative however I think I react to both in a similar way. Of course the positive feedback is much more rewarding but I also like how I can learn & get better from the negative feedback.

#2: I react the way I do to positive feedback because it feels good knowing I am making a positive impact on others. Enjoyment & excitement come to mind with positive feedback. When I get negative feedback I try to understand why they feel that way & work on myself to improve it.

#3: I am not sure if I would react any differently after watching the video but I can always try harder to listen & understand the feedback I receive.