Course 2: Becoming a 7 Cups Leader - (Discussion #6) How to Accept Feedback

@Heather225

Think about the most recent feedback you received: How did you react? How did you feel? Why do you think you reacted and feel that way? What would you do differently after having watched the video?

The most recent feedback I received that could be considered "negative" I actually reacted better than I have done in the past. However, I still felt someone hurt, more by my own lack of ability than the person trying to help me. I think that it's something I need to work on, the idea that the things I do must be perfect. And so, after the video, I think that idea has been solidified, it's important to learn how to accept feeback and look at it as a positive rather than simply a downfall on my own part.

One of the top leaders gave me some feedback on how to do best forum posts. I was really calm about I was happy to have a better way of doing forum posts. It felt good that this leader was willing to give me feedback. It would help me mprove in writing forum posts. One area I need to work is how to handle big negative feed back better. I think I would step back and ask how can I do better.

@Heather225

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(Question: Think about the most recent feedback you received: How did you react? How did you feel? Why do you think you reacted and feel that way? What would you do differently after having watched the video? )

I think I reacted okay to my recent feedback. I think I reacted that way as I might have not completely agreed with the feedback that was given. One thing that I would do differently next time, maybe view the feedback from the other person's perspective before judging the feedback.

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Think about the most recent feedback you received: How did you react?

I reacted with grace, and accepted the feedback, and worked to improve myself.

How did you feel?

I was surprised, but before I spoke I realized that the person giving feedback was right.

Why do you think you reacted and feel that way? �

I was a bit hurt because of the way the feedback was about my way of working - it was blunt and to the point.

What would you do differently after having watched the video?

I would have asked the person giving feedback for advice on how to improve.

Think about the most recent feedback you received: How did you react? How did you feel? Why do you think you reacted and feel that way? What would you do differently after having watched the video?

I was sad and a bit angry at first. I felt defensive. It was hard for me to accept the feedback as I thought I really gave my best but then I realized my mistakes and I'm still trying to improve myself. After watching the video, I'd like to be more calm and patient before reacting.

Hi @Heather225

Think about the most recent feedback you received: How did you react?

On personal relationships: It's tough when it's negative feedback hahaa...

On professional life: It's normal and beneficial. Not overthinking it. It's nothing personal.

On being a listener: Recently I received a “love letter”/ coaching email about professionalism.

I didn't react to the email. I learned my lesson.

How did you feel?

I felt stupid and very disappointed both with myself and the member. Nanani nanana...a couple days later, the same person who filed for the report unblocked me and felt very bad. Oh well...

Why I reacted that way: because there's not much room for justification after all. A report in, I've made mistakes to learn from and that's it.

Why I felt that way: Didn't expect it because the person is a long term member.

What would you do differently after having watched the video?

I already did it in terms of work. I'll learn to react the same when receiving feedback or constructive criticism on a personal relationship.

❤️ Cheers!

Question: Think about the most recent feedback you received: How did you react? How did you feel? Why do you think you reacted and feel that way? What would you do differently after having watched the video?

How I reacted: The most recent feedback I received has to be when I applied for the forum supporter role. I did not get the role on my first try, so a project agent messaged me on what I need to work on. I was appreciative honestly.It's one thing to fail, but it's another thing to know why you failed. Naturally I was also a bit sad because I'm a very self-achieving person and failure hurts my self-esteem.

How I felt: I felt encouraged because the leader higlighted my strong points- so I knew I was capable of the role. I just needed to work on my weakenesses.

Why I think I felt that way:I think I reacted that way out of reflex. I've always been taught that failure is not a bad thing, but feeling as though you failed is.

What I would do differently after watching the video:The video was very educational. It proves that I am on the right track. I have learned new methods on how to accept feedback, especially when I feel overwhelmed. The next time I receive feedback, I will take a step back and reflect on what I am being corrected on.

@Heather225

How did you react? How did you feel?

The feedback that I received had me shocked at first, and made me feel anxious. I eventually felt happy though.

Why do you think you reacted and feel that way?

I reacted and felt that way because I feel as though feedback helps me know what I might need to improve. I was shocked by what was said because I believed I did pretty good for it being my first time doing that specific thing. Some part of me thought maybe the person had something against me, but I also moved on from that.

What would you do differently after having watched the video?

I would say "Thank you for the feedback you have given me, I will take this into consideration to improve.". I'd accept it without making any assumptions and feel glad that I have received feedback.

@Heather225

Think about the most recent feedback you received: How did you react? How did you feel? Why do you think you reacted and feel that way? What would you do differently after having watched the video?

The most recent feedback I received I think it was a pleasant experience. I work with clients and often after a project or during an evaluation, feedback is exchanged and it is mostly a positive experience. I reacted positively, and felt good too. I like to learn and improve myself and a genuine feedback does help in doing so.

Thing I would do differently is that, I would thank them for the feedback and also if the feedback is negative, try to seperate me as a person from my work and keep in mind that they both are different entities.

@Heather225

Think about the most recent feedback you received: The most recent feedback I got was really appreciative but, at the same time it was a good learning experience.

How did you react? I appreciated their feedback.

I How did you feel? I felt really happy and encouraged to make more efforts and do much better.

Why do you think you reacted and feel that way? The first thing was I was the one who had asked them for feedback and I welcome all kinds of feedback as they are a good learning experience. Maybe, that's why I reacted and felt that way.

What would you do differently after having watched the video? Nothing really actually.