Course 2: Becoming a 7 Cups Leader - (Discussion #3) The Detriments of Gossip

@Heather225

@Heather225

1. Why is gossiping bad?

This is because the person you are gossipping to starts seeing you in negative light, will rarely trust you and wonders what you say about him/her when you are not around. It therefore leaves the speaker and the one listening in a more negative state.

2. List a statement you learned from this video to stop gossiping in the replies!

"I don't know the other person perspective so I refrain from saying what I think they were thinking in there absence."

@JoyHappyNess

Trust does play a huge part in our lives and rightly said, it leaves the speaker, listener and the person being gossiped in a negative state.

@JoyHappyNess I love the statement that you chose!

@Heather225

1. Why is gossiping bad?

Ans: Gossiping, I believe, is unfair to the person being talked about. When we gossip, we don't even take a minute to understand what the other person's intentions or perspective are, we just say whatever *We* think it is. So, without being completely aware of the situation, talking about someone/gossiping is similar to not giving the person a fair chance to explain themselves.

2. List a statement you learned from this video to stop gossiping in the replies!

Ans: "I don't know the other person's perspective, so I prefer to not discuss what I think they were thinking or feeling in their absence".

This sentence was really catchy.

1. Gossiping is bad because it can hurtful towards someone and it also causes erosion of trust and morale.

2. "We do not talk about the other man without his presence because we do not know about his side"

@Moonlemon48 Love the sentence you chose, Moon! :0

Why is gossiping bad?

Gossiping is bad because it is poisonous , toxic and leads to mistrust and negativity.

List a statement you learned from this video to stop gossiping in the replies!

"I don't know enough about the situation to comment on it."

@jersey123456 "I don't know enough about the situation to comment on it" - Way to go! Say this louder for the people at the back :))

@Heather225

1. Why is gossiping bad?
A. Gossiping spreads rumors from a non first perspective view and can be very harmful to the person being gossiped about and also to the one gossiping. Reputation of both parties is being tarnished and this creates a negative chain reaction effect.

2. List a statement you learned from this video to stop gossiping in the replies!
A. Stick up for that person in their absence or simply change the subject to a more positive topic.

@lyricalSea85 Beautifully put! I love how clearly you stated the consequences and the statement you chose from the video is absolutely one of my favorites too <3

@xinyii11

Thank you so much! I try my best to stick with that ideology at all possible times. :D

1. Why is gossiping bad?

Gossiping is bad because we do not know the other person's perspective. As a gossiper, we're merely acting on what we've heard from others, and that is not always what really happened. By gossiping, we're thriving on other people's suffering and it's utterly unacceptable to promote such negativity in any community we're part of.

2. List a statement you learned from this video to stop gossiping in the replies!

♡ 𐐪𐑂 ° If you never say anything negative about another person, people are less likely to have anything bad to say about you. ° 𐐪𐑂 ♡

@xinyii11

Right! If we don't know the person that is literally involved's perspective, it's not fair to comment on their situation! We definitely create negativity when we do so

Gossip is bad because it talks about things someone does not like to talk about , and therefore you will charge yourself with negative energy that affects your energy!

The gossiping is bad because the gossiper talks about what he does not mean to anthor person and talks about things that the other doesn’t like to talk about, so the gossip isn’t loved by other!

1. Why is gossiping bad?
Because it causes bad emotions and perceptions among people or even only two persons.

2. List a statement you learned from this video to stop gossiping in the replies!

1. stay away from people who create gossip in our community.

@Samar19

Yes! It doesn't matter how many people are involved, it definitely fosters negative emotions and perspectives ):

@Heather225

1. I think gossiping makes you a 2-faced person. Most of the people who gossip are nice to other while interacting but then go ahead and talk ill about them behind their back. Most of the times, we do not really see how much gossips impact the person. And when you gossip about someone, the person listening to you will think that you also gossip about them and this breaks the basic necessity of friendship, that is trust.

2. Not engaging in gossip and asking yourself as to whether it is necessary to repeat the same piece of information and what exactly is the point if that.

@DancingHeart4982

I agree! Usually gossipers are two-faced because they don't say the negative statements about someone to their face. It is very hurtful and they can be seen as "fake" which is not good! I like your response.

@DancingHeart4982

@Heather225

1. Why is gossiping bad?
2. List a statement you learned from this video to stop gossiping in the replies!

Gossiping is bad because bottom line it is just negative. It leaves people in the conversation and listening in a negative state. It also makes the people involved in gossiping look bad: lacks trust, unlikable, judgmental, etc. It can be very hurtful toward others who aren't given the chance to stand up for themselves.

A statement I learned to say if someone attempts to gossip is "I don't know enough about the situation to comment on it"

@mikacv

@Bubblegumwings1234

yeah, we haven't walked someone else's shoes.

Gossiping is bad because it creates toxicity in the community and can hurt others. It makes the situation worse and the conversation isn't productive.

"I don't know enough about the situation to comment" is the line I like the best.

@DarkPiT23

I think having a comment like "I don't know enough about this situation to comment" is great to have in our back pockets when we are in a situation where gossip is taking place. Nice work!

@Heather225

1. Why is gossiping bad?

Gossiping is very toxic, the intent of gossiping is when you gossiping about someone it is to make them look bad and to make you look good. The person you are gossiping to will think you gossip about them behind their back which will make them trust you much less.

2. List a statement you learned from this video to stop gossiping in the replies!

If your not going to say anything negative about someone else, there is less likely someone will say anything negative about you.

@Kindwords2000

Great statement about if we don't say anything negative about someone else that they are less likely to say something negative about us. I think it's important to remember that we get what we give.

- Why is gossiping bad?

= It’s Poisonous, it destroys trust, and does not make the gossiper look any better than the person the gossip is about.

- List a statement you learned from this video to stop gossiping in the replies!

= To defend the person the gossip is about and stick up for them in their absence.

@Listeningstars

Great statement from the video about defending the person being gossiped about. I think it's very important to stand up for others in these situations.

@Listeningstars defending is a good statement because when you emphtise, you know it is a right thing to do.

@Listeningstars

Absolutely! Gossiping is poisonous and to avoid gossipers one of the way is to defend the person in their absence.

@Heather225

1. Why is gossiping bad?

Gossiping is bad because it is toxic behavior, and isn't productive in the least.

2. List a statement you learned from this video to stop gossiping in the replies!

People who hear / see you gossip will began to associate the negative thoughts with you as well.

@Gnibellen your statement is good thing to keep in mind in these cases.

1. Why is gossiping bad?

Gossiping is bad because we don't know what actually happened. Taking sides or saying bad things about people behind their backs is toxic. It shouldn't be taken lightly as it can leave a permanent scar on people.

2. List a statement you learned from this video to stop gossiping in the replies

I don't know enough about the situation to comment on.

@hopezzy it is nice to see you find a good statement to follow.

@hopezzy

agree, that's really toxic.

I agree too that it can really have a long-lasting impact on people

1. Why is gossiping bad?

i think it can result in bad energy so, not doing it makes you not generate it.

2. List a statement you learned from this video to stop gossiping in the replies!

it has been said that dont talk about someones back just share good qualities.

@dudewithaplan

I agree..It brings bad/negative energy.