Course 2: Becoming a 7 Cups Leader - (Discussion #1) Welcome to Course 2!

@Heather225

I think if I as a 7 Cups leader have an imbalance of expectations and warmth, that would not only impact my member interactions but it will also affect my interactions with my fellow listeners.

• If I as a 7 Cups leader had too low expectations, it would affect the community in that they would not be able to reach their full potential which would make it hard for them to have successful communication with those who need someone efficient to listen to them. It would affect how I work with my fellow leaders in that they will not see me as someone deserving of the position.
• If I as a 7 Cups leader had too little warmth, it would affect the community in that my fellow listeners will not feel supported and they may not come to me if they need help. It would affect how I work with my fellow leaders in that it would be hard for us to build a connection with each other.

If I have an imbalance of expectations that would be a dangerous thing not only for the community but for myself and fellow leaders also. Us leaders have a great reward but also risk on this site because we are here to listen and help the members with what they are going through. If I had a low expectation or warmth that means that I’m not really listening to the member and helping them or the opposite with a listener if they need help. Having an imbalance impacts everyone.

@Heather225

- I think that having too low of expectations or too little warmth will impact the community in the sense that I won’t be able to serve others in the way they may need to be served. Additionally, I will not be able to perform in a way that helps me to help others.

- I think that having too low of expectations or too little warm will impact my fellow leaders in the sense that I will find myself being isolated and not able to be there for my team; additionally, I may not be able to work in an environment that brings together a sense of unity and understanding.

Question: What do you think happens if you, a 7 Cups leader, have an imbalance of expectations and warmth? How do you think having too low of expectations, or too little warmth, will impact 1.) the community, and 2.) impact how you work with your fellow leaders?

Answer: I think if I have an imbalance of expectations and warmth, This community and I will suffer. Because high expectations with little warmth will make this community rule-oriented and Low expectations with high warmth will make us struggle because we would not be that effective. I would feel loved but having the sense of not doing so great would make me struggle and negatively impact my work with my fellow leaders. And I think if we listeners struggle, the whole community would struggle because members come here for help, and if we are not able to provide it effectively, it would have a negative impact on everyone.

What do you think happens if you, a 7 Cups leader, have an imbalance of expectations and warmth? How do you think having too low of expectations, or too little warmth, will impact 1.) the community, and 2.) impact how you work with your fellow leaders?

I feel like if I have low expectations or too little warmth I won't do the best of my capability to help our community. I won't be willing to spread my help and positivity around and of course, I will get distracted from my main goal (to make this community a safer and more enjoyable environment for old and new members-listeners). 2) Also, by having little expectations I won't be able to improve and also help my fellow leaders. I won't be excited to impact and work with my fellow leaders and I won't be able to grow as a leader or help others to improve. Finally, by having little warmth and expectations I won't complete tasks through succession. With that said, having little expectations and warmth can lead to distraction from our goals and not help the community and our fellow leaders.

@Heather225

Question: What do you think happens if you, a 7 Cups leader, have an imbalance of expectations and warmth? How do you think having too low of expectations, or too little warmth, will impact 1.) the community, and 2.) impact how you work with your fellow leaders?

Answer:I am going to talk about this issue in another way. I think that having high expectation and warmth increases team spirit. the more the expectation is there, there will be a sense of urgency in the work which inturn will help others in knowing how to ask for help when needed. The help in turn will increase team dynamics and bring about a sense of belonging and warmth in the team. Now going back to the question if there is a lowere sense of expectations every one might think that they can achieve goals on their own and need no help. Individualistic approach will start and kill team spirit and there will be competition and no warmth.

@Heather225

What do you think happens if you, a 7 Cups leader, have an imbalance of expectations and warmth?

I think as a 7 Cups leader, if I have an imbalance of expectations and warmth, I will not be able to complete tasks at hand. Eventually, over a period, I will feel frustrated and will struggle, which can lead to feeling unmotivated.

How do you think having too low of expectations, or too little warmth, will impact 1.) the community,

I think having too low of expectations or too little warmth will impact the community by showing that I am inconsistent with my work which can lead to me being unreliable and at the end of the day, unprofessional.

and 2.) impact how you work with your fellow leaders?

This will impact how I work with my fellow leaders by showing that I cannot be accountable for my work and it can affect later opportunities, seeing that I cannot get the present work completed.

As a leader, falling short in either category will have a negative impact on those around you. It's important to set an example, and if you're lackluster in any one area, the people you inspire will follow. This will lead to a negative impact on both the community and how we work with other leaders.

@Heather225

too little expectations will lead to:

1. instead of an "us against the world" sort of mentality it would be a "me against the world" mentality, and that's a very discouraging mentality to have, because any and all setbacks you face would feel as though they're a personal responsibility.

2. assuming there is high warmth but low expectations, a comfort circle will be created. there is no motivation or reason to move beyond it, because the warmth is readily accessible without one doing anything. in a way, warmth has to respond to intention. if there isn't an intention to strive towards achieving higher expectations then warmth beyond the threshold of maintaining one's mental health would frankly be useless.

the community:

how i work with fellow leaders:

1. a general lack of urgency in the pacing of the group work, which would lead to a lack of efficiency and the standard would not be upheld

2. the team spirit would be basically nonexistent: nobody expects anything from each other, so it is in a sense not seeing each other as capable. without a team spirit enthusiasm would also be difficult to foster.

@Heather225

Question: What do you think happens if you, a 7 Cups leader, have an imbalance of expectations and warmth? How do you think having too low of expectations, or too little warmth, will impact 1.) the community, and 2.) impact how you work with your fellow leaders?

The 7 cups community, I'd assume in the same way. As well working with fellow leaders. Good vibes, Leads to a happy workplace, and thus leads to great efficiency/production.