Study stress, various anxieties and coping mechanism log
Hello, I get extremely anxious about my studies and the anxiety I have is extremely debilitating for me.
I'll use this log to keep track of my meltdowns and coping mechanism (good and bad) I resort to, in order to remind myself that tough (imo) times will pass and that I can do it.
I do feel ashamed, ultimately uncomfortable that I still couldnt cope with my studies, and have troubles confiding in people since the responses I usually get is "come on, it's just studies/groupwork/exams, grow up and get over them."
This sememster posed another challenge for me because i took an elective that deviates far from my major so I don't know how i'll perform, and that uncertainty eats me up when I think about it before sleep, during lectures and group discussion... I believe I could take things in small stride, and build momentum but i cant convince myself enough that i'll pull off this sememster.
I'll see how it goes...
Submitted the first assignment for this semester and I have 2 due on 27 Aug. Honestly, I'm afraid I couldnt cut it for one of the two - I rewatched the recordings (which I should be proud of since it felt so intimidating for me to get started, but at the same time, it is what i should do like all student should and that it shouldnt feel intimidating at all).
I know this anxiety originates from the fear of failure, but it is only normal to fail, and at least I'm trying.
So today, my focus would be to pay attention to today's lectures - 6 hours total and then 2 hours to consolidate my parts for the report before a team meeting.
I'm going to experience moments of despair but I'm here to make a small promise myself to try my best to see myself through this imagined obstacles. *fingers crossed*
I can do this...
@yellowIdea7518 My groupmates just informed me that the assignment is a lot more complicated than expected. I'm in semi-panic mode now since I'm going to have to work on two assignments (The forementioned one being outside of my major) concurrently.
I try not to spiral because i can't afford to. I'm going to remind myself that all I can do for now:
1. Focus on (non-major/EXTREMELY foreign) module lecture later on at 3:30 - 6:30
2. Work on another (core module) assignment report before 8pm team meeting
3. Start on (non-core module but equally important) assignment after team meeting. Start on the example, then work on the assignment.
@yellowIdea7518 spiralled before the 3:30pm lecture (for the module I'm least confident in because it's not within my major), so I'm trying to reassure myself that:
1. I'm trying, and I will even if I had one too many visits with disappointment and failure.
2. I'm going to name the feelings I felt during my struggles, I am going to accept them and tell myself I can feel sad from being disappointed in myself, and I can still try. I will not allow the fear of failure debilitate me. I will confront the setbacks, like I've done before I'm going to take one step at a time, even as I fall back to ground zero, it's okay i'll try again...
I'm going to make it through...
Deadline is closer and I'm getting very antsy - at the brink of tears actually.
I'm afraid I couldn't successfuly finish my parts on the report plus I'm afraid my teammates will give up their parts on the report. Aside from that I'm juggling with other assignments which it's researched heavy but my teammates are absolutely lovely - taking a lot of initiatives... and I'm thankful but at the same time afraid to let them down.
I ask myself what is the next best thing to do for now instead of ruminating?
- Rewatch lectures to understand the assignment I'll be going through with my teammates on Sunday Evening.
- Don't worry about the report you're starting on tomorrow yet. leave that till tomorrow, you still have time.
- You'll be fine during the team discussion later at 9
- You'll finish up the assignment parts after rewatching the lectures
Tomorrow:
Do up your report parts and retouch Marcom assignment parts
What I've done well:
Completed my other module quiz
Pulled an all-nighter to complete model before report (hard-carried)
I'm feeling the burn-out now, but I can do it... I want to believe that I can...
It is another Monday again, and I'm having another breakdown. I have to retouch my reports parts later (I have confidence), and that's it but it is so hard now to focus on lectures, like I find myself repeating stories like "You're such a failure, you can't do it."
I'm wish to observe these thoughts and not buy into them, It's just been difficult...
So here's my to-do list for today and tomorrow.
23/08: Focus on the two lectures, retouch your report parts, it's just three small parts
24/08: Non-major module, report parts plus meet up.
25/08: Pay attention to lecture, do up your report parts
Here's one affirmation I'm trying to repeat.
Difficult doesn't mean impossible. I've done hard things before. I can do hard things now.
I dont have to feel capable. I dont have to be 'perfect' or 'good'. I just have to keep putting one foot in front of the other. I just have to try.
I've managed to seek some solace when I saw a group member helping out with my project parts...
And now, for the next lecture from 3:30 - 6:30, I feel like giving up again.
Here are some things I need to do:
- Touch up my report parts before 8
- Might use the time during lecture to do it
- If I miss out some parts of the lecture, I'll rewatch it after the 8pm group meeting to prepare for Tuesday's group meeting
Hello, a positive (for now) update - I have successfully submitted the report on 26 August. I remember still feeling on edge, but I know we did our best. There are other assignments to focus on now and the same cycle follows: I have to continue to put one foot infront of another - taking the hard days minute by minute.
Today: I have to focus on my two lectures, as well as rewatch the lecture i missed this morning (because yes, i felt like shit).
Today's affirmation: Yes, I could have done so much better if I'd shown up for the earlier lecture but I pulled myself up to focus on the remaining two. I will have to rewatched the earlier one after if I want to do well for that module.
Tomorrow: Focus on parts of the report (which you have create a skeleton during the weekends), and create a mock-up for another project.
I can do it today...
Hello, I survived that semester. I did well for most modules... people tell me to celebrate that win but all I felt was pain. I had made calls to helplines to see me through assignments. It took me 3 days to make a minor change to an assignment which was vetted by the lecturer.
Now, I think it's best to leave university despite meeting great groupmates, my mental health is deteriorating faster than I thought. I'm still seeing a counsellor, and will be seeking further psychiatric assessment in 3 weeks time. I understand that I have no noble reasons to be feeling this way, it makes me feel like a freak - crying over studies (like cmon, suck it up) that I have the intellectual ability but zero mental capacity to complete lol.
I read a couple of thread sharing the same struggles in university. I don't know what I am supposed to do? I returned to school a year ago to finish my remaining credits - I have 5 more to go, and now I'm considering dropping out because the breakdowns are more frequent than last semester. I'm still trying to get back to the healthy habits I built during semester break - go on walks, exercise, meditate, journal, make coffee... but when school comes into the picture - I froze and become emotionally detached from everything...
I worked my hardest to survive last semester, I just don't know if I should leave school or not
So, a listener nudged me to make another effort to try out this semester, and I did - submitted an assignment link and clear up some school admin stuff. I was unsure if I could live through another crazy round of breakdowns but if I were to choose between breakdowns vs regrets... I'd chosen breakdowns.
I don't know if I'll survive this semester, but at least I got some school stuff done today...
Attending another lecture today, I'm honestly very anxious, I don't know how I'll survive the 2 hour lol. I'm aware that it's not so difficult, I'm reacting to past traumas - and I can choose to not carry my past to the present.
I missed today's lecture, and the group chat for one of my modules has been buzzing about the upcoming assignments. Sometimes it buzzes over the weekend. All in all, I'm emotionally overwhelmed again - I feel like shutting down and cry...
I know to break down my assignments to smaller tasks, and to plan my time around it. Honestly, I don't know how to take care of my emotional mind right now. I know I'm going to spiral if I don't catch myself... Jeez, come on, why is it so tough? Why do I make it unnecessary tough for myself... Such a wuss. I might spend some time to cry it out etc because I am scared, scared to bleed into everyone with my stupid reactions to the unpleasant emotions
Had a nice break today and read some books on content marketing. I remember feeling like I'm retrieving the self that I once embodied pre-trauma, pre-self destruction.
Hello, the past few days have been a blur, mainly because I was numbing myself with YouTube vids lol. Haven't got to watch the five lectures I have missed, and read up on assignment briefs. What I managed to get done:
- installed some progs at a deal
- bought some stuff for upcoming assignment
- tidied my desk
- worked out
I'm rewatching the lectures right now and I'm anxiety stricken... All I want to do is to shut down my laptop and cry because I'm guilty and ashamed for not approaching lectures head-on, on their actual dates. :"(
I'm almost finish with lecture 1 out of 5, and most of the assignments are due in 2 weeks...
I know it's stupid but I think I might have put off two of my very efficient groupmates by opting for online classes instead of in-person because travelling would eat into some of my budget set aside for my upcoming psyche treatments lol.
I do understand to just suck it up, think of ways to add value to the team, and stop whining about the inconvenience I've caused the both.
I'm done catching up with 3/5 lectures... Although I did made some progress, it does not feel celebratory. I remember ending that lecture with my head spinning, and I feel incredibly out of place?
My anxiety has spiked, and I don't know what to do with myself - either to soldier on to lecture 4/5 or to take a break. I remember telling myself to watch an episode of my fav tv series after completing 3/5 lectures, but now I feel it's unwarranted.
I feel so crushed right now lol, as much as I'd like to embrace this 'overreaction', I'm so tired of getting so riled up and yet paralysed by it.
Update: I have finished 5/5 lectures.
Now, I'm left with the following before Sunday:
1. Research on upcoming assignment (start google docs for research findings)
2. Read up on all A1 marking criteria
3. Start working on two assignments