Mack’s Guide on how (not) to be an Adult
Hellooooooo and welcome to another one of my threadsssss. This one will feature my new journey as a (legal) “adult” xD Mostly just to keep in touch with all of my lovely teenie friends when I age up since that was requested. I will tag a few people but I’m tired and can’t think of a ton of usernames so feel free to tag anyone I miss :’)
Tagging- @ALeXaNdEe0712 @TabbyCat97 @OliveTree1728 @Axtyn @Astraeuss @DarkerPlaces @selflessSpruce1515 @Nomifordays @teenytinyturtle and anyone else I may be missing. Sorry if I did miss you and I hope someone does tag you :’)
Mack are you an oldie now or are you aging up soon? 🥹🫡
@JemmyX0X0
ahaha I aged up a couple months ago. how are youuu?
@Mack omg no one told me 😭💀
Also I'm doing okay, on September 5th I'm going back to school but I'm okay
@Mack hai^^ it’s nice to meet u and thanks for the thread
*pokes around for a wild mack to maybe help me :') *
@BirdKing449
You gotta make sure to tag me 😅 I just saw thisss. How are you?
@Mack
ahhhh sorry about that!!
Im alrightish. When I had sent that I had been highly considering vaping. but now im doing better. well. i guess better isnt the right word since im spiraling, but i didnt start vaping which is good. i havent done any drugs or alcohol. im struggling, but ill be fine. im preparing to move out as soon as i turn 18. i still have many months until august when i turn 18 but i want to be prepared because im sick of dealing with this hurt.
me and my boyfriend are still doing amazing. In fact we are about to celebrate 6 months on Nov 25th. I hope you are doing well as well? let me know <3
@BirdKing449
I’m super proud of you for choosing to stay away from vaping ❤️ You know I’ll always tell you not to but I can’t control what you do. Here for you but it’s ultimately your decision. I’m glad you decided not to though. And I’m also very glad you haven’t messed with anything else as well. Things can go bad fast with that kind of stuff.
It’s smart to want to be prepared to leave. You have time but it does go by fast, the most important things are ensuring you have a safe place to go, enough money/proper income to get by, access to food and water, and the ability to properly take care of yourself wherever you are. Whatever you do and wherever you go, please be safe and smart about it. Leaving will feel so pointless if you just end up in another not great situation.
That’s excitingggg! I’m glad things are going well with you two (: I’m doing alright, ups and downs, but I’m managing. Though it seems like maybe you’re not doing as great as you maybe want me to believe. Is there anything I can do to help you feel better?
@Mack
TW: Slight mention of SH
Things were not well before, with myself, you were right. However I am kind of doing so much better. (TW: SH) I did end up SH-ing on Saturday after 5 months, (TW Over) but otherwise I'm doing really well. I've stopped wearing a mask after wearing one to school nearly every single day since 2020 due to self hatred and body dysmorphia. I've made a few new friends and even got to hang out outside of school with one of them which was nice, however I did lose a thought to be close friend. she started distancing herself from me and when trying to ask how to repair our friendship, my text was read, but I was left completely ignored. But you win some you lose some, right?
As I'm typing this, I am currently sitting at home missing school due to severe cramps, and I haven't been on cups due to being super busy, so I thought I'd stop by today to check on things. I've gotten back into crocheting after nearly 9 months of not doing it, and I've been working on making granny squares with left over yarn I have until I get new yarn for Xmas. My grades were all A's and B's last quarter, and so far this quarter, I have one A and the rest are B's, so I feel as though my senior year has gone really well so far, especially compared to junior year.
Highs and lows/Ups and downs can be very harmful at times, so I hope you are taking care of yourself through these times. How are you doing now? <3
-River
@Mack
Goooo!!!!
Wellll it’s been a while since I posted here. And with it being NYE and all it seems like a good time (:
I’m not going to tag anyone this time, so if you stumble upon this, lucky (or maybe unlucky, idk) you.
To whoever is reading this, this is just possibly the most important thing I’ve learned while trying to navigate this whole “adult” thing, so maybe it’ll actually be worthwhile to whoever may need to hear it.
First, be you. Be so authentically and unapologetically you. It took me a long time to realize it and I am still trying to work on it but, it literally does not matter what other people think. At all. Because no matter what, somebody is going to have something to say. It truly doesn’t matter what you do so just say *** it and be you. You will NEVER be able to please everyone, no matter how hard you try. So no, you’re not a failure. And no, you’re not ‘not good enough’. You are doing amazing and you are good enough. So very good enough. Like incredibly *** amazing. Just as you are. So treat yourself with love, respect and kindness. Give yourself some grace, because at the end of the day, as long as you did the best you could, you did good enough. I promise.
Next, how you feel is okay. Allow yourself to feel it, whatever you’re feeling. Even the unpleasant and “bad” feelings need to be felt. If nothing else, let them be a reminder that you are alive. Every emotion needs to be felt, you need to let it run its course. It may be miserable for a while but fighting it will only make it worse. The feelings don’t go away until you’ve allowed them to exist. Until you’ve given them the space to do so, given them a chance to make their peace. And over time, it will get easier. Be gentle with them and be gentle with you.
Respect yourself enough to place your boundaries and love yourself enough to enforce them. It’s hard- so freaking hard to do. Let’s face it, we all know you want to please everyone. But don’t. NOBODY comes before YOU. Put yourself first. Stop letting people walk all over you, stop letting people take advantage of you and stop making excuses for the ones who did as a way to minimize your hurt. (Read the previous paragraph to figure out what to do with that hurt instead 😉)
Along with that, start paying attention, find out who your real friends are. Keep them around and then distance yourself from the ones who don’t genuinely care about you. It can be hard to see who truly cares and who doesn’t, but don’t ignore those red flags. Don’t ignore when a friend is too busy for you but not for anyone else. Don’t ignore how someone treats you differently than others. Do what you need to to persevere your peace and happiness. And focus on the people who do truly love and care for you.
Walk away if you need to. Don’t let others get the best of you, don’t let them win. This is something I’ve been working on A LOT this year. It’s not worth arguing with everyone. It’s not worth wasting your energy defending or explaining yourself to people who aren’t actually listening to what you’re saying. Most people just want to respond, not listen. And the moment they throw out insults or degrading and hurtful, unnecessary comments is the moment you know you’ve won. They’ve lost the ability to respond with reason and logic and are scared because they are losing the fight. They know they are the one looking bad. Don’t drop to their level. Just. walk. away. It may suck and it may be hard in the moment, but you’ll be so damn proud of yourself later on.
And finally, do NOT give up. It’s hard, it sucks, it’s exhausting and overwhelming and it’s painful to keep trying for something that seems so impossible. But if you keep going and don’t give up, you WILL get there. I just spent the last 6 months absolutely miserable. I hated every moment of my existence and I spent almost all day everyday wishing I didn’t exist. Wanting to give up because I was so convinced I’d never get where I wanted to be, so convinced I’d be forever dependent on others and so damn convinced that there was no escape from the *** situation I was in. I had to make some really hard decisions, deal with some really hard emotions and cry myself to sleep on a lot of terrible nights because I wanted to be done, but I kept going and kept working for what I wanted. I’m not completely there yet but I just took a huge step. I was just finally able to take the biggest and hardest step in that journey less than a week ago. If I can do it, so can you. Believe in yourself, keep trying, don’t give up. Please. And if you EVER need any encouragement at all, anyone to stand in your corner and cheer you on, I’m just a tag away. Even if we don’t know eachother- I will hype you up as much as you need me to. You’ve got this, I know you can do it 🫶🏻
Alright, that’s already long so I will quit taking up your time. But keep all of that in mind, and just try to implement it in 2024. Let it be better than 2023. And if you’re reading this and feel like there is someone else who needs to hear it as well, feel free to tag them. Happy New Year 🎆
@Mack My 18th bday is on Saturday and also I'm on the old side now so this was nice to read ;-;
@JemmyX0X0
I know, I saw youuuuu and said hi and you never responded XD But happy early birthday in case I don’t see you ❤️
@Mack
thank you for all this mack. thank you for all the time and effort you've put into sharing all this with us, but even more, i'm so glad you were able to come to an understanding of this, and keep pushing through the last 6 months, even whilst they weren't pleasant to go through, and i'm proud of you for the big step you've been able to take to close out 2023, even as awful as it might have been. all of this straight back to you too. continue to believe in yourself and continue the long healing journey you might have ahead of yourself, and of course, let 2024 bring greater joys and bluer skies and plenty of huge huge steps up or yourself to be proud of (:
Mack, You’re a mature young person to type this all out. I am a true Oldie from the Old side! I am almost 63! My own kids are older than y’all, they are soon to be 29 and 26. Welcome to the Oldies Side. We’re old, some of is, but many are closer to your age. We welcome your youthful and boundless energy! You’re our hope for the future! Be yourself indeed. We will try to help you as much as we can!
Happy New Year!
Love and Courage, Rose
@Mack
im just seeing this :') thank you so much mack, for everything, you are appreciated a whole lot. thank you. lmk if i gotta kick anyone yea? im proud of u for still being here today and i am so glad youre still here today. i want u here, and im here for u every step of the way if u ever need anything, here if you dont. i hope 2024's gonna be nicer to u than 2023- and happy new yearrr. lots and lots of love, olive (and the lovely bingo and rolly).
@Mack
hey mack hru
@DarkerPlaces
Hey!! I’m okay, ups and downs lol. It’s been a while :o How are youuu?
Yeah been ages glad ur ok im ok just stressed at stuff with school n social work this week but had a meeting with my care worker n shes gonna try to arrange a meeting with my school
@DarkerPlaces
I’m sorry you’ve been stressed with all of that stuff. It sounds like a meeting may be a good thing? If you want to talk about anything, you can hear. I’m glad to hear from you 🫶🏻
School just sucks i hate it this years been the worst theres this bully n they just make my life *** n shes a girl so cant even dk anythin n in janury i snapped n called her a bunch of stuff n she got her big brother to jump me n he cracked 1 my ribs n stuff n my fcs got police involved n stuff n idk if its gon happen again
@DarkerPlaces
Thats not okay, I’m sorry that happened 😕 Understandable to not feel great about school when stuff like that is happening. Is there any way to avoid her?
i try to avoid her all the time thats why i was refusins to go to school kinda
