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Feeling acceptation

patientShell1003 November 13th

Self acceptance has always been a difficult subject for me. I tend to get into relationships where I'm the fixer, whether it's romantic, platonic, or just peer. I want to help someone and I often done the white scrubs of a clinical therapist and sit with one knee hooked over the other (even if it hurts after an hour).

That's all to say that I often have problems with being stifled. It's easy to nod and accept others, but recognizing your own boundaries can be difficult. My values and beliefs take such a back seat, I don't even look at them half the time! But it's not healthy to forget yourself so often. To ignore your feelings for the sake of others. 
It comes as second nature to so many of us, but sometimes we treat ourselves so dismissively. This is a behavior I had to recognize and actively dwell over.

After a long day of listening to my family's struggles and woes, I sit down and journal. I made myself a rule to never journal about any one else's problems- to leave that for their own journals. Mine is for me. How do I feel? What are my goals? Did I have fun today? What did I succeed at? What are my plans tomorrow? It is important to accept ourselves and our feeling.
   That's a form of mindfulness! It helps strengthen your relationship with yourself.


It's not selfish to say 'I'.
   That's a hard fact to learn. 

When you put your feelings on the back burner, we run the risk of it boiling over out of eyesight.
   Don't forget to tend to them too.


🌼 What ways have you found to help you stay mindful and accepting of your own feelings?



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MarinaLexi Sunday

@patientShell1003 Thank you so so much for being so candid and open. We have definitely experienced similar dynamics in relationships, so you're not alone. These situations can be quite challenging, and I understand how you feel. It seems like you have developed a great deal of self-awareness regarding your boundaries, and I completely agree you that it isn't selfish at all to prioritize your own needs. 

After all, you can't pour from an empty cup!

I appreciate your journaling rules; they seem like a really healthy way to prioritize yourself and you deserve to have that. :)

I often find that stress prevents me from being mindful and aware of my emotions. I practice self-care and meditation to reduce my stress levels, and I also schedule blocks of time in my day for emotional check-ins and to stretch and ensure I'm eating. 

While I don't journal in the same way you do, I do use an app on my phone called How We Feel, which is a fantastic emotion tracker and has some great tools too.
What would be your advice for someone who wanted to journal but didn't know where to begin?
EventHorizons 2 days ago

@patientShell1003

Pausing, noticing thoughts and feelings, holding my hands on my chest while taking a deep breath and occasionally visioning nature or a tree taking my pain and holding it with me. That’s one example of how I help myself with self-acceptance. 💜 

blissart 4 hours ago

@patientShell1003

appreciated you shared freely and honestly .

I have learnt to be honest with my self, whatever feeling or emotion an going thru, to accept it as reality of that moment and just to watch it till it fades away