Strategies for Building Resilience in Turbulent Times"

@CrescentSkylar

My resilience strategy is not letting me fail myself on an project or job application. I'll try anything, and let someone else fail or deny me, rather than let my thoughts or feelings hold me back from trying in the first place. 

@CrescentSkylar

I'm not sure I count it as a specific strategy, but rather an overall mindset—I think it's important to cultivate deep and sincere relationships that you can draw strength from, because it's important to have others who genuinely like you for you who can support you at times where you're not sure you even believe in yourself. That helps to build resilience by providing another avenue of healing for yourself.

@CrescentSkylar

Resilience is something I think we all have within us, but sometimes we get knocked off course during the nature/nurture early stages and so we forget or never learn how to grow our resilience. It's a beautiful thing and it's important to know that resilience comes from adversity, resilience is growth!  I acually learned about being resilient from Mr Rogers!!

Here are some of his quotes during his talks about resiliency:

"Often out of periods of losing come the greatest strivings toward a new winning streak."

"Often when you think you're at the end of something, you're at the beginning of something else."

"Real strength has to do with helping others."

"There's a world of difference between insisting on someone's doing something and establishing an atmosphere in which that person can grow into wanting to do it."

"Some days, doing 'the best we can' may still fall short of what we would like to be able to do, but life isn't perfect on any front-and doing what we can with what we have is the most we should expect of ourselves or anyone else."

"There is no normal life that is free of pain. It's the very wrestling with our problems that can be the impetus for our growth."

“When I say it's you I like, I'm talking about that part of you that knows that life is far more than anything you can ever see or hear or touch. That deep part of you that allows you to stand for those things without which humankind cannot survive. Love that conquers hate, peace that rises triumphant over war, and justice that proves more powerful than greed.” 

“Part of the problem with the word 'disabilities' is that it immediately suggests an inability to see or hear or walk or do other things that many of us take for granted. But what of people who can't feel? Or talk about their feelings? Or manage their feelings in constructive ways? What of people who aren't able to form close and strong relationships? And people who cannot find fulfillment in their lives, or those who have lost hope, who live in disappointment and bitterness and find in life no joy, no love? These, it seems to me, are the real disabilities.” 

Anything that’s human is mentionable, and anything that is mentionable can be more manageable. When we can talk about our feelings, they become less overwhelming, less upsetting, and less scary. The people we trust with that important talk can help us know that we are not alone.” 

“I hope you're proud of yourself for the times you've said "yes," when all it meant was extra work for you and was seemingly helpful only to someone else.” 

“Who we are in the present includes who we were in the past.” 

"I'm proud of you for the times you came in second, or third, or fourth, but what you did was the best you had ever done."