What's your most recent achievement?
I spend all of my time trying to make other people happy. that I have no time to make myself happy
sadbunnies
@sadbunnies - It sounds like it's time to rebalance that equation. What can you do to set some time aside to focus on yourself and what you enjoy?
Id have to say holding back these waterfalls behind my eyes. Not allowing myself to get upset in public over the thought of someone I care deeply for.
I'm so sorry that you are feeling this way. Your powerful words enabled me to feel what you are feeling. I can't imagine how difficult it must be for you.@LookingForChange
Im sorry @MutherNature
@LookingForChange
Thank you very much. :)
My husband's words are filled with so much hate lately, and his looks make me feel like I am the worst person alive. We have grown apart. I just want to run and hide away where we can't hurt each other anymore. It cuts like a knife every day to wake up to this reality. . . to know that it's really happening. We used to be best friends. I knew when we decided to become husband and wife, that I stood to lose my best friend; . . By taking that next step, and if it didn't work out, I haven't only lost my husband, but also my best friend. My spirit just can't take anymore of the arguments.
We've been married for nine years. I want to separate so that we can have our space to re-group and to figure out our priorities, because I don't want us to hate each other. I know that it may not work out, but because I love him SO MUCH, I want him to be happy, and he is not happy with me.
He doesn't see it that way though. He says that he is happy and he thinks we should stay together. . . like this. We can't talk about anything and we argue nearly every day. We have tried everything. We have even been to a marriage counselor several times, but it remains the same. My soul is shattered. I don't know where I even find the strength to wake up every day.
He is asking me to try again. . .
Despite going against everything that I am feeling, I am proud of myself for pulling myself up from the floor and for finding the strength within me SOME HOW.
HOW do I turn my back on the only man I have ever truly loved? On my best friend? I can't! Because when I look at him, I still see everything in his eyes.
@MutherNature
Hi, you can try Gary Chapman's (he is a GREATEST marriage counselor) book: The 5 love languages. This will help you fill up both you and your husband's empty love tank. New love will grow between you and your husband once the both of you start speaking each other's love languages. First, you have to discover what is you and your husband's primary love language. (Read the book, it'll make you understand what i am saying! Just grab a copy from your local library!)
Also I recommend Stephen Covey's 7 Habits of Highly Effective FAMILIES book, especially the 5th Habit: Seek first to understand, then be understood. This habit will greatly improve your communication with your husband.
I'm sure I've helped if you accept my help! :)
@JenniferW
Thank You SO much! I am willing to try anything at this point. Love is not the issue because we both still love each other very much. It just seems that we have grown apart.
Mum going to buy a copy right away.
@MutherNature
No problem! On a side note, its 7 Habits of Highly Effective FAMILIES, not the 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, even though both books will help! But the FAMILIES one will help more!
@MutherNature I recently had to go through some similar emotions. I separated from my husband while we worked on our communication skills. We were taking one another for granted. We were snapping at each other and saying things we didn't mean. We got upset and disappointed with one another over the smallest things because we were holding onto these miscommunications. We were putting more effort into arguing than into coming together as a family. It's still rocky some moments. It's not perfect. It's our life. We took some time to decompress and spend time apart. Couples need that, married or not. My husband took into consideration that I meant it when I said that I needed to be a priority. Now, if he keeps that up, only time will tell. I sat alone and made a list of 5 things that I felt we weren't on the same page about... he did the same. We agreed to openly share and discuss each after we each had time to read the other's list and process the information without putting our feelings into it. It's not about the person, it's about the problem. Problems often have solutions, but those solutions require compromise from both involved. If you can start there, and put aside the 'what ifs' and the 'if i had onlys', that may help.
I dedicated the whole Day to my Girl and kids
@JoyFuLee - That sounds lovely! Good for you for setting aside that time!
I've recently completed a challenging project that isn't even near due. I used to procrastinate often and complete assignments hours before it was due or ask for extensions. These days, I'm slowly trying to piece together my priorities.
@ShieldWolf087
That is HUGE! Way to go! *hugs* You rock!
@intelligentString
Thank you
I have been going through some really stressful times lately, and trying to deal with everything on my own. My biggest achievement has been finding 7cupsoftea and joining. Admitting that I needed some help dealing with the stress was a very big step for me and I feel so much better now that I have joined this loving and wonderful community.
@Zanahoria - That's a HUGE step, and I'm really proud of you for taking it and being open and honest about how you're feeling and that you need some support! *hugs*
I got out of bed, ate breakfast and lunch and trying to finish a project. :)
@rainbowturtle - Sounds like a productive day to me - good job!
I quit smoking cannabis yesterday after 2 years non stop.. Every day every hour. I feel the withdrawal symptoms including depression, but glad I've made the decision.
@Existent1alist - Good for you! I know that's not an easy decision, and even harder to deal with the first few days of withdrawal, but those symptoms will pass and you'll be able to move forward out of that haze and into the life you want! Stay strong, lovely!
I'm trying to feel positive about a job interview that I have tomorrow morning. I'm really nervous...wish me luck!
@Muzic4Daze Good luck!! I'm sure you'll be fine :)
I reached the 1000 upvotes mark! I'm so grateful for everyone who has shown their appreciation.
@Chiaroscuro1 - Woohoo!!! That's amazing, and shows just how wonderful you are and what incredible things you post and support others with. You're incredible!
@Anomalia - Thank you 