What's your most recent achievement?
Repost from reddit: I learned that I am .a good person!
Let me give you some perspective, if you trawl through my post history you will see that I have been very unhappy with my work conditions and love life (more specifically the lack of one) Long story short I had a breakdown and decided to throw caution to the wind quit my job and move to the city to be closer to my friends, and hopefully find a partner, maybe not my wisest decision but I was not going to make it there where I was.
Now for the surprising part, on my last day the ladies from the next department called me over, they all took turns telling me how much they would miss me and what a good manager I was, then they hugged me and even bought me a chocolate! I was bewildered, I never thought I made any real impact in that dept, and any help I gave them just seemed like the right thing to do!?
Later that day my own department called a meeting and the oldest guy made a speech also saying how much they enjoyed working with me and thanking me for actually getting my hands dirty and slogging it out in the trenches with them, they also gave me a parting gift. Again I was gobsmacked. I thanked them and apologized for the times when I used to scream and shout, and they just nodded.
Then the boss threw a farewell party for me after work, to my knowledge this is the only time in our company's history (since I have been there) that he did that, at the function he and another manager sang my praises as well. They both said I was the best manager they had had in that department, the other manager also said that I was one of the reasons he hadn't left yet, when he felt down chatting to me gave him a pick me up, again I was a bit shocked, I never realized I had made such an impact.
The jaded cynic in me wants to say everyone was just blowing smoke up my ass, but I know that isn't true, every other manager that left was basically told don't let the door hit you on the way out, so there was something different about me.
It made feel good about myself, and made me realize that I was maybe overly harsh on myself with my self image, I always tried to be pleasant at work because our hours were so long that I did want anyone to dread them the whole time, and I always helped where I could, because everyone needs a hand now and then, and I never really thought I was making a difference, and that assumption was where I was wrong the most.
Tldr: Found out that I am not the asshole I thought I once was.
@Killjoy2017 - I'm proud of you for letting these experiences challenge your thoughts and showing yourself that you are a good person even when it can be easier to tell yourself you're not. So happy to hear you learning this about yourself!
@Anomalia.
Thank you for taking the time to read my post, a part I left out of the post was that i was given a card as well, signed by staff from all over the shop with messages too, and like I said I always try to be a good person (I dont always succeed) and it seemed like nobody noticed, turns out they did! and i know it sounds selfish, but it was very valadating for me.
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Last week i finally got a job in the job field that I've been wanting to do since I was a kid. It's the bottom of the totem pole (security) but it's a MAJOR start. Now waiting for FBI background check to come back.
@Deadlyxang3l Such great news! Congratulations!!!
My most recent achievement is to understand that i cant control how others feel only how i feel.
@easyFriend8508 congratulations! That's a huge step towards managing your emotions. Keep up the good work 😊