Daily motivation- chores and tasking “Life Skills 101”
Hi there, I'm looking for a buddy to chore or task with. Someone to collaborate with on goal setting, milestones met, difficulties encountered in trying to just get thru a day of taking care of basic tasks and chores.
I would like to chat up to daily with someone who either is struggling similarly or has been down a similar road.
If you think this is you, please drop a line. Questions welcome. Thank you for reading!
@parkey
Thanks for posting Parkey!
Feel free to look through the other shares here as well, perhaps there is someone else here who fits the description of what you are looking for who you could pair with? You can feel free to comment on their posts as well :)
Best of luck to you! We are here for you!
Hey Parkey. Thanks for posting. I was just wishing for a buddy like you. I’m trying to get motivated to do chores, long range planning and my work done too. I’m trying this to for chores http://www.flylady.net/d/getting-started/flying-lessons/shine-sink/
@adaptableSky4590
Oh, I like this very much!
years back when I was living in a very filthy home (of my own making, of course), I was adrift not knowing where to start, so much to do that it is was overwhelming. I began by doing my dishes - or even some of them if I felt very discouraged and not up to doing them all.
I had to repeat this step for years. Partly because I didn't take it seriously enough and stay diligent. But every time I did attempt to clean my home, dishes were my go-to. So, I have now started to finally graduate from the Groundhog Day of dirty dishes. It is now made easier by much more frequent practice. I have hope and confidence that I can apply this philosophy to other tasks. I'm doing much better with laundry and making the bed too, and picking up things as I go along.
After I have "mastered" laundry and bed making, (I'm almost there with the laundry), I will add in vacuuming and bathroom upkeep.
My kitchen is looking better. I have a plan. Many things left to clean and organize.
And funnily enough, I just came from finishing up the dishes and cleaning the sink! I may try this tip from the link you shared on my sink (it is a small, double, stainless steel).
Buf I am beginning to realize how much better it feels to not look around and see chaos. The outer chaos of my living environment seemed to be a symbol of symptom of my inner chaos and turmoil. No more! Not saying that I don't still struggle, obviously I do, but much of the chaos and turmoil of my living environment has lifted (situational). It's up to me to do the rest!
So thrilled to see you found this!
pleass drop a line and share any accomplishments or struggles or tips and we can keep help each other in this, I hope!
@adaptableSky4590
Hello,
Just thought I'd check in with you and see how things have been going?
Overall, I have had a productive week and am looking towards "Finish Strong Friday!"
It feels so much better to accomplish things and restore, bit by bit, order and cleanliness to my home! Would like to hear how your week was! - good, bad or anywhere in between.
Trying to give this an uptick.
still looking for a choring buddy.
😊 What is your goal today?
@lonelyremoteguy
my baseline three: get dressed, eat breakfast, make the bed.
I also have to clear the kitchen sink, unload the dishwasher, do some paperwork.
First, coffee lol.. (it's 6am)
What about you?
It depends on the day. Tomorrow (Friday) I have a doctor's appointment so will get up, shower, dress etc but today it was windy and wet so stayed in bed
When you have a coffee do you also make your breakfast? It can be hard to get things done but when the sink is tidy or the bed made I feel better. Having a baseline and plan is a great start
So you have made a coffee Parkey. When you unpack this dishwasher can you just load the things in the sink to the dishwasher or do they need washing by hand? I have been watching some clips in YouTube and they talk about writers block or being non motivated. They say you just need to get started. It's all easy in theory or suggesting to someone else but harder in practice. However generally if I get started and there are no set backs I can get going. I just need to avoid procrastination or getting distracted. I find SMART (specific measurable) goals good for many situations but at other times just doing whatever I can. I tend to over think things
@lonelyremoteguy
I've heard of SmartRecovery. Not certain if that's where the "Smart" measure comes from?
Yes, I'm doing much better about unloading the dishwasher and loading any dirty things soon after. Obviously it has helped immensely. I need to work on perfectionism. So long it was a barrier, because as I'm sure you know, the flip-side of perfectionism is not attempting a task at all. I guess the keys I need to keep in mind are to "just do it", "it doesn't have to be 'perfect', it only needs be done. Manageability.
I am unable to reply to some specific messages from you. I live in a small country town and everyone knows each others business. Many other people have said to me they feel the same. Going to Adelaide has services, parks to walk through and no one knows me there or cares about what I'm doing. I live near a very small park but essentially I walk around and around and the bush and dry outback looks the same most places. I tried Pokemon Go and walked around for five days. I don't really enjoy those games but it was an experience and like my trip to Adelaide with lots of walking shows I can do it if I override my anxiety. I have not been walking but should be when it's light and not raining
Hi again Parkey. I'm not sure if our time zone differences make it difficult but I would be keen to find a buddy to encourage each other with daily tasks
@lonelyremoteguy
awesome! Yes, the time difference might mean that we cannot always speak in real time but I still believe it can work!
so glad you found this page!
Great. It's 8:30pm at night here so can chat but any goals I have will be tomorrow (Friday)
Hi Parkey. I received a notification of a message but don't see it sorry. As before after a certain number of replies to a link it allows me no more. It's really wet and windy here (although not so cold or I'm getting used to Winter). I procrastinated today and went to the doctor at the last minute then picked up my mail and a quick stop at the supermarket (things I often put off - even going without to avoid going out not for financial reasons just social anxiety). I have a headache from stress but I did my essential tasks and back in bed. It's now just on 5pm Friday evening (looks like a wet weekend). Hope you had a good sleep and you get the things you want done. 😊
Hi Parkey. Hoping your goals are progressing. 👍😊
Back to the drawing board for me. Still looking for a choring partner (kind of).
I may just be my own partner haha.
For some reason I tend to want to share my accomplishments - and my lament when I struggle. This may become more of an online journal to myself.
Been having mostly very good days. Want to try to continue the trend.
