A Refresher On Rule 2 in GS (Be Appropriate)
Hello everyone! Welcome to this weeks refresher post about the rules in the Group Support rooms, brought to you by your Group Support Mentor Leader Eli! If you did not happen to see my last post please feel free to take a look here.
This week we will be discussing Rule 2.
Be Appropriate: Graphic, flirtatious and sexually suggestive language, profiles, links and content are strictly prohibited.
So.
What does this mean? And why is it important?
(Graphic Language) To break down this part of the rule it's important that we think about the comfortability of everyone in the room. Graphic content or stuff that is inherently violent or explicit can create an unwelcoming place to be for the people who spend time in the rooms, .. Since 7cups is a resource built to help guide people with various mental health challenges, it's important to be mindful that stuff like that is triggering to a lot of others and can make things uncomfortable.
(Flirtatious/Sexually Explicit Language) As far as flirtatious language goes, this can also be uncomfortable to the parcipants of the rooms as well, we want to remember that 7cups is not a dating site. There are plenty of other places you can go to date, but a huge reason why we do not allow it here is because it is a distraction from the primary purpose of the site, which is offering active listening in order to help others.
A good rule of thumb for Rule 2, if you wouldn't say it in front of Grandma, it probably isn't appropriate for the Group Rooms.
For any clarification on if your profile picture is appropriate for the rooms, please reach out to @MidnightRaven999
Take care and see you all next week!
Love the reference to grandma. Puts it into perspective quickly.
@AlwaysEli
Great Reminder and explanation, Eli! I love this series of Rule refresment❤️
@AlwaysEli
7 cups' MOST DEFINITELY not intended for dating but I wonder how many truly deeply, abide
esp when push-comes-to-shove some have abused the words ""im lonely"" "therefore im not wrong / therefore I AM entitled"
weeding out's not easy ..but hopefully the tone is continually upheld..upheld aaaaand upheld until
even 7 CUPS itself and its rules...get some form of respect and boundaries set.
'onwards and upwards', viva 7-cups!!
@AlwaysEli Keep up the good work you do,here at 7cups.
@AlwaysEli
Eli, wooooo-hoooo and *high fives*
Yet again, another amazing forum post in regard to the room rules! I love how you are taking the time weekly, to break down the information rule by rule. Giving us one thing to think about weekly, in smaller, manageable chunks of information. For me, this has a great deal of value to all of us as in providing us with weekly dialogue about important key points. I think this allows people to focus and to truly think about what it is that you are saying to all of us, has a larger impact.
More feedback- again, *high fives*! I was in an LSC and after our sharing was over, another amazing mentor came into the room and wanted to have a discussion about how a couple of the group rooms operate, our feelings about it as listeners. We all were able to give great feedback to this mentor. It was incredibly productive! It was great in that I shared your forum post in regard to respect and how that is the first rule. (the one from last week) It was incredibly helpful to the process!
Thank you also for this weeks post! Being appropriate. Something inappropriate happened in a room yesterday. It seems as if it was a link that came from a member that kind of traveled to the LSR as the listener was new and didn't understand that it was something none of us would want to see. They were shocked and I think just new and wanted help in how to deal with the situation. I for one did not click on the link and for a multitude of reasons. If it's not a 7 cups sponsored link or coming from a trusted source, well, I'm not going to do it. It could be an image that is unhealthy for any of us to see, inappropriate, triggering, etc. In addition, clicking on a link and not knowing the source could lead to someone having access to your device, finding out where you live, longitude and latitude, real name and even bank account information.
A fellow listener in the LSR did click on it, thinking that if a listener chose to deposit it into that room, then it must be fine. Well, it wasn't fine. I think with time, the listener that clicked on it is feeling better now after support but of course will be unable to erase those images imprinted on their mind. In an effort for our fellow listener to know that they have been heard, I will be giving them the link to your forum post today!
Eli, keep the great forum posts coming. They are more helpful than you know! *hugs*
tagging @kindSoul10 (I'm following the bubble, seeing how things are connected as are you, *high kicks* my friend and big *hugs*
@SparkyGizmo
Fellow listener hears and appreciates you so much! Thank you Sparky and Eli <3
@jovialButterfly6752
Jovi, you are most welcome my friend! big *hugs* I "see you", you are "heard" and you are very much appreciated as well! Thank you for being a part of the team!
@AlwaysEli Hahahah!! Absolutely! Also,I had a really strange experiance in a chat room. The moniter was really agressive...I asked what Ppl meant and he said I was a troll. Nope,just stupid I guess, but I didnt think thatwas very kind.
Wow, great explanation!! Thankyou for sharing it with us.😊
@AlwaysEli
Thanks for pointing out 
This is a good reminder for everyone. I have been seeing a lot more recently especially late at night and weeks more and more members who don't understand that this isn't a dating website. I totally understand the "I am lonely" notion.
Agreed!!
