6 Ways to Make A Change in Group Support - No matter who you are.
This post goes out to all members, listeners and moderators. It's for all the group support humans out there who want to be a postive force in our group support chat rooms! Have a read, give it a try, share below and let us know how it goes...
➊ Welcome & Invite
Real human people are entering the support chat rooms all the time. Sadly, some will leave still feeling alone, still lacking connection and still having never gotten to know any of you. Be the one who makes that difference for them. Really look out for people entering and think about what would make you feel warm and welcomed. Remember, a great welcome is more than just hello.
Ask a question. Say hi and find out how theyre doing. Keep in mind that they dont know the context of what is being discussed in the chat room right now and explain to them what everyone is chatting about! Invite them in and dont allow that person to feel like an outsider. Be the one who shows another human they matter today.
➋ Find Common Ground
Let me tell you a secret - were all way more alike than we may realise. Discover and explore something several people in the room have in common. Do you all have similar struggles or feelings about something? Do you all love the sunshine? Are you all human?! When someone shares, ask around and see who else can relate. Seeing that others feel the same way is a powerful thing. Its a beautiful group chat moment waiting to happen and you can lead the way.
➌ Hold Space
When someone is feeling blue, dont rush to silver line their problem or sweep their feelings under the rug. Hold the moment with them. Be there. Tell them you know its hard and really imagine how they must be feeling. Sometimes, what we need most is someone to deeply understand us before we can find a way out of it. You could be the only connection another human has this week. This is a great video explaining empathy. Try it and see!
➍ Break Ice!
Out of things to talk about? Feeling like you want something more lighthearted? Theres always plenty of ice to break and you can do this with our fabulous list of icebreaker questions right here. Here are some more bonus suggestions to inspire you:
What is everyone doing for the rest of the day? How did you all sleep last night? If you had a magic wand and you could change one thing right now, what would it be? What is your biggest fear? What is something wonderful about you? What did you do well this week?
Let your creativity shine through! The possibilities are endless.
➎ Give Hope
Have you been in the same position someone else is in right now and found the way through it? Do you have a favourite quote that has given you hope? What puts things in perspective for you? What has motivated you to keep on keeping on? Tell someone about the light you found at the end of the tunnel. We could all use a little hope.
6. Set the example for fostering supportive space
Your behavior is impactful. The way you conduct yourself in a group can influence others. So, ask yourself: do you model good behavior? Do you guide others to follow the chatroom rules and community guidelines? Are you encouraging your peers to follow your example? Supportive environments thrive only when we are contributing positively. You have the power to keep our group support ecosystem healthy by simply being a good citizen.
Share below and let us know what worked well for you!
Edited as on June 09, 2020 by ASilentObserver
@Heather
Awesome!
Brilliant post.
@Heather
Thanks !!
@Heather
Bumpppp❤️
Thank you heather awesome post.
Beautiful.. thank you!
@Heather really works super good for me
@Heather
I don't like how this was explained but this seems really helpful and like it comes from a good place.
@communicativePond1728 if I can ask, can you please share more, what part of it you didn't like? pond
@ASilentObserver
Nah, I'd rather not. People take feedback personally these days so I'm taking a break on that until I feel capable of dealing with the wrath of others.
@communicativePond1728 you are welcom to share your feedback with me 1-1, if that seems comfortable to you pond. feedback is helpful and i would appreciate that
@Heather I try hard to include everyone, keep the chats light hearted but support as many people as I can ❤❤❤ thanks for theese points ❤
Sounds great