Update On My Grieving Journey
For those who have followed me when I first shared how I lost my Grandma at the end of July 2024, I'd like to say, when my family and I returned to our home country (in December) to attend the sudden passing of my Uncle, I was able to visit my Grandma at her grave. Although the visit was short (as one of my Aunts took us there), in the few minutes of silence, I've said my goodbyes. After returning home December 29th, I'd like to say, I'm feeling a lot more relieved and have seemed to finally moved forward onto the road of healing.
This week, I went to see my GP. She believes that I am ready to return to work (I have been off since August 2024), but to return gradually. So, working 4 hour shifts, twice a week. I emailed my Manager the same day, after seeing my GP and I was told to contact Absence & Disability Management. As there's a specific process I need to go through, upon the request of Gradual Return to Work (GRTW). So today, I emailed that department, briefly giving them info on why I'm requesting a GRTW. Now, I'm just waiting for a reply (not sure how long it usually takes). But I'm thinking, to hopefully start working sometime in February. I still have a couple more appointments with my counsellor this month, so I'd like to finish those first. I'm also recovering from a cold I caught in Japan (our family was on vacation in December, when my relatives suddenly decided to hold a funeral for my Uncle. They weren't going to when he first passed away), so we ended up allocating 5 days of vacation and flew back to Hong Kong to attend the funeral.
During the appointment with my GP, I updated her on my grieving progress. Telling her about the vacation, the sudden passing of my Uncle, how I visited Grandma at her grave, etc. My GP said that I have good insights to what has happened and that my thinking is logical. That she felt I'm ready to return to work, but since I told her my short-term memory is still horrible, that's why she suggested the GRTW. But, even if she didn't suggest it, I was still going to do that.
Anyways, this is the update I wanted to share.
wow that’s an incredible story. i’m totally pulling for ya!
you’ll get threw yours and i’ll get threw mine
Moving forward and healing indeed!
I will forever miss her, but I can't "not" be working for this long either.
I can always lend an ear if you'd like to share your experience with loss.
that’s great to hear. i’m hoping i get there myself. i was with my girl for ten years. it ended last march. it was ugly. it took sooo much out of me. but it’s been almost a year and i wanna start meeting new people. it’s not going very well. i hope j meet someone soon.
Oh yes, coming out of a ten year relationship is difficult. You've been through so much together. Don't rush into meeting new people though. Better to have your emotions regulated and under control first before you make yourself dive into another relationship.
@raymond1203
yeah ur right. i met someone recently that was awesome but i blew it. im not good at this part of relationships lol im an especially great boyfriend but this part is so really hard. its fine if its just people you dont feel much for but the person i met was one of the best ever. or at least i thought so.
