My experience with (when I know that someone is going to pass away)
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Hello
I want to say that this contain sad ,grief, loss so this will be hard threads.
The most common question I hear, honestly, is a question that I can't say has an easy answer to. But I went through this and wanted to share it because I don't want anyone to go through the regret that I went through because of my poor thinking, as I believe. And of course, I'm not giving advice or anything like that, but I'm sharing what happened to me as an experience, or I don't know what to call it.
The question is :
What I suppose to do when I know someone will pass away??
The first time this actually happened to me was with my grandmother, may God have mercy on her. The doctors told us that her health condition was very difficult and that they did not know the results because her condition deteriorated suddenly and quickly, let's say without warning, due to the Corona pandemic. I knew that she would leave our world, but at the same time I did not want to believe this and found it difficult and I could not go to see her and support her morally and psychologically in her last days. When I finally got the courage to do this, it was too late and they called me to tell me that she had passed away. I remember that when I heard this, I felt a severe shock because I lost her first and also I was not by her side and I could not even say goodbye to her and I felt the intense regret that has not left me until now for 3 years, so that I am just talking about a very difficult subject for me to be honest.
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And after all these feelings and after I almost woke up from the shock of loss, I started to realize, I am sorry for saying this word, but I realized how stupid I was, why didn’t I go and be by her side, knowing how much she loves me and loves me to be with her and laugh in her face at least or talk to her so that she feels that I am by her side, because I only thought about myself and that I would feel sad or helpless because I would not be able to prevent her from dying, and I know that she is not waiting for me to heal her or anything like that, but she only wants to see her family members and those she loves around them so that she does not feel that she is alone in her last days. It is true that I know who will say, “Come on, Tulip, do not be harsh on yourself,” but I am not harsh. This is the truth, and it is true that I cannot bring back the past and correct what I did, but I wish I could. Because the feeling of strong sadness and my feeling of missing her and falling short of her rights and regret for not seeing her and saying goodbye to her and supporting her psychologically in her last moments is eating me up, and I know that she does not like to see me like this. I just shared this with you here because I don't want anyone to feel the same way I do because it's really painful to be honest. And of course I don't give advice and the decision is up to the person himself.
Thank you for listening.
I apologize if my words were sad or caused sadness to anyone.
@Tulipsmile wraps you up in a cosy blanket and hugs you tightly ❤ your right, it's not easy to see someone dieing. And your own fears/emotions stop you from doing something you should have done. I lost my son to a group of bad people, I was to afraid, I didn't have a voice. Theese people who took is life, held me in captivity for the first 18 years, I was scared, I didn't stop them I was only a child to i guess, but still the guilt of what ifs, eat you up inside. It's something so hard to get over. But we have to learn, to not let a day go by that we don't tell out loved ones what they mean to us, enjoy each precious moment and say I love you daily ❤
your grandma my son. They are in heaven now, they still hear you and watch over you till the day comes when we get to hug them again ❤❤
@Tinywhisper11
I am really sorry for hear that my dear
I give you huge hug for you Lola🌷.
you are not guilt the guilty and coward ones are those bad people who do that and they will be punish by God for that one day for sure.
I know that's very hard to not feel guilt and how this pain eat you from inside and sometimes don't make us able to sleep but sometimes things happen out of our control and even if you don't want it to happen .
The thing I believe that Faith is not something can be changed .Every human being, from the moment of his birth in his mother’s womb, God writes the history of this person’s life and everything that will happen to him and when and how his life will end, and this is something that cannot be changed, no matter how much you resist.
And you were little and with no force .I know that my words will not help and it's hard feeling and I will pray to you and for joshua🌷🌷.
My grandma and joshua are watching us from above and I am sure that they want us to live happy and try everything so they will be happy for us. And they are always here in our hearts,memories,mind and thoughts and also remember them in our pray 🌷🙏.
And they are now in nice and safe place 🌷for sure .
@Tinywhisper11
And if you allow me to say that
I know It's hard not to carry guilt for the things we think we should have done .
And I think he understands and loves you all the more for it. He would be proud of you for all you have endured and survived.
He would be proud of the person you've become and all the love and support and fun you bring to others 💚💚
I am really happy that I meet you here in 7cups and I am really lucky to have friend like you our dear cute Lola😊
@Tulipsmile awww ❤ hugs you tightly ❤your Grandma loves you and is definitely watching over you from heaven. Maybe cause she knows we are friends, your Grandma and Joshua will help look after each other till we can be with them again ❤ out angels in heaven🙂❤
yeah God has plans for all of us, it's not always easy to realise our purpose, and sometimes our questions we will only find when we get back home with God ❤
I hope your in a better place in your head now, since you write this thread? Just know I do understand, and I'm always happy to listen to you, and try to reassure you or help in any way I can ❤hugs you tightly ❤❤
@Tinywhisper11
Ohh my dear cute friend Lola
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Such nice warm words thank you my dear . Yeah 💚💚for sure.
Tbh I don't now if I am in good place in my mind or not but I hope so I guess
But for me even if I struggles in that pain many of times but in such times I consider it as reminder too because I always feel afraid of forgetting her because everything happen in life and... etc
@Tinywhisper11 
@Tulipsmile don't worry, you will never forget her, a part of her lives in you ❤ it's ok to feel sad, or upset with yourself. Or any other emotion your feeling. But the truth is we are never prepared for death. The only thing we can do is learn from it. From now on I'm never letting a day go by, where I don't tell my friends I love them ❤❤
@Tinywhisper11
Yeah that's true🏆🥇🤩
Wow Lola such wonderful words
Love you too my friend
@Tinywhisper11
Thank you so much my dear
I appreciate your words
And for me seeing you always happy and even see your post make me happy so much 😊🌷💚
@Tinywhisper11
You too my dear
I am always here for you if you need 😇🙏
@Tulipsmile thankyou ❤ gives you a giant tiny hug ❤❤ I love you ❤
@Tinywhisper11 
@Tulipsmile ❤❤❤