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I feel like I had the wind knocked out of me

Summershy October 17th

Hi everyone:

While attempting to reach out and reconcile with someone who I once close with between my middle childhood to young adulthood.  The main reasons was because my relationships with my friend and her mom were incredibly toxic.  After we fell out, I ended up holding a grudge against them for many years.

When looking up her contact information today, I found out some obiturary information about her mom who had died back in August.  Believe me, I am feeling very sad and I am kicking myself for ever holding a grudge against her.   In fact, I am trying to look for her contact information so I can reach out.  

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toughTiger6481 October 18th

@Summershy

I hope you find the contact information and can offer condolences and say what you want to,

I think this is a good reminder that this happens and holding grudges  can end this way in finding out a person passed.   

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Summershy OP October 18th

@toughTiger6481

Thanks Tiger.  In the meantime, while I would love to reconnect with this former childhood friend, I don't think it's a good idea.  For one thing, she and I were not a good fit for each other.   Yes, while she and her mom were toxic friends there were other factors.

1.  We have different personalities

2.  She and I didn't really have anything in common

3.She and her mom didn't like me that much, even though we appeared to be close. However, they were not honest about it

4. My parents didn't like her parents

5. I wasn't really happy in that friendship even though I tried to make things work

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