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Maybe one way you can help is to buy some books about the end of life and about grieving, read and discuss some with your parents, and leave them to your parents for the time they will need them most.
Books on how to cope with terminal illness and imminent passing of a loved one:
"On Death and Dying" by Elisabeth Kübler-Ross: A classic in the field of grief and dying, this book outlines the five stages of grief and provides valuable insights into the emotional journey of both the dying and their loved ones.
"The Four Things That Matter Most: A Book About Living" by Ira Byock, MD: This book explores the four essential things to say to someone before they die and offers guidance on how to express love, forgiveness, and gratitude.
"Final Gifts: Understanding the Special Awareness, Needs, and Communications of the Dying" by Maggie Callanan and Patricia Kelley: This book discusses the ways in which the dying communicate and how loved ones can better understand and support them during this time.
"The Art of Dying Well: A Practical Guide to a Good End of Life" by Katy Butler: This book delves into end-of-life choices and the importance of preparing for death. It can be helpful for both the person approaching death and their loved ones.
"Dying Well: Peace and Possibilities at the End of Life" by Ira Byock, MD: Another book by Ira Byock, this one focuses on the concept of "dying well" and offers guidance on making the most of the time remaining with a loved one.
Books on grieving
"Bearing the Unbearable" - Joanne Cacciatore is the place to start to go through the grieving process in a healthy and authentic way.
The short episodes of her podcast might give you a sense of her approach and see if it makes sense to you:
https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLJBxzqhQ2J9iYYolqx3Ke5d53uckoOnqb
"The Year of Magical Thinking" by Joan Didion
This memoir by Joan Didion explores her personal experience of grief and mourning following the sudden death of her husband. It provides a raw and honest look at the early stages of grief.
"It's OK That You're Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn't Understand" by Megan Devine
Megan Devine's book validates the complex and often misunderstood emotions that accompany grief. It provides practical advice for coping with loss and finding a way to navigate life after a loved one's death.
"The Grief Recovery Handbook" by John W. James and Russell Friedman
This book offers a structured approach to healing from loss, providing exercises and strategies for processing grief and moving forward.
"Healing After Loss: Daily Meditations for Working Through Grief" by Martha Whitmore Hickman
This book offers daily meditations and reflections to help you find comfort, solace, and a sense of connection during the early days of grief.