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Charles17Hardy
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Hello. I really need to talk to someone, can you help me please?
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 September 14th, 2023
...See more I am currently 17 years old and will turn 18 in November. I live in Portugal. Since I was 13, I discovered that my father cheats on my mother with other women, but I never revealed it because I'm afraid of what might happen, as my father is a very aggressive person. He has been violent towards my mother and me, has threatened us with death, kicked us out of the house, and physically abused us, among many other things. Besides that, he has been forcing me to work in his company since I was 12 years old, which caused me to miss many days of school, so many that I even had problems with the Child Protective Services (CPCJ). However, by luck and being intelligent, I was able to complete my studies with excellent grades. I am currently 17 years old, but I have already finished my 12th year of school. Three years ago, I started dating a girl who is an immigrant in Switzerland, she is 18 years old. We met because she has family living near me in Portugal. Through this relationship, the opportunity arose for me to leave home and immigrate to Switzerland. I have tried to talk to my family several times about this possibility, but it always ends badly. I have tried to talk to my father many times to ask him to let me go when I turn 18, but it always ended very badly, from very serious physical assaults to calling me names like "dog, idiot, worthless, cuckold," he even said that if I did it, I would no longer be his son, that he would be disgusted with me. But even worst than all of the times that he punched, kicked, and slapped me, was that he never apologized not even once, I swear that I'm not exaggerating. As you can see, I have been abused for many years, but despite that, no one has ever done anything, neither my mother, nor my uncles, nor my grandparents, nor the neighbors, even though everyone knows about the situation. Since all my attempts to talk to him have gone wrong, I decided to stop trying to convince him, but I still have my idea, even though I don't have the support of anyone in my family, many friends who know the situation tell me that the best thing to do is for me to leave, and I also think so. So, I decided to create a plan to run away from home when I turn 18 and go to Switzerland with my girlfriend. The plan is well underway, I have already learned French, I have a house ready and waiting for me, and a guaranteed job as well. But my problem is that I feel a little insecure about moving out. Despite all of the problems that I've been through, I still love my family. I want to move out and create my own life more than everything, but I'm sure that I'll lose my family if I do it. Do you think that they will ever forgive me for what I'm about to do? What do you think of my situation? Should I really go ahead with the plan and run away from home?
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