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PathStep 77 Compassion hearts41 Forum posts136 Forum upvotes143 Current upvotes143 Age GroupAdult Last activeSeptember, 2023 Member sinceApril 28, 2016
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Helping my family cope with my passing
Grief & Loss / by BDRD
Last post
 September 13th, 2023
...See more I'm sorry if anyone was upset reading the title. It's been a while since I last used 7cups, but decided to come back. Like the title says, there's plenty of resources out there for helping yourself cope or helping people cope with another's death, but does anyone have any advice on how to help your family cope when you know you're time is up? I had made peace with it a long time ago, but they still need help, especially (and unfortunately) my parents. I don't know if this is the right forum for this, but I don't really have anywhere else to turn. I don't really know how much time I have either, just that some time, maybe days or maybe years, I will be going on. I'm still fighting, trying to find something to help, but it just doesn't look good. Also sorry if my phrasing seems weird, I've had to edit the wording on this post, otherwise it says I might be in crisis. Which is nice that they give you those resources, but they're unfortunately not going to help me.
How do you tell someone you can't trust them?
Depression Support / by BDRD
Last post
 January 28th, 2021
...See more I have exactly one friend, and she always tries telling me to open up more and not hide my feelings. However, most of the times I have tried doing this with her she ends up getting angry at me (I'll do something like ask her to offer me more compliments, and she gets angry saying she's already doing all she can and feels like she says enough nice things). So how do I explain to her I can't open up to her without losing her friendship? For the record this is nothing new, anytime I try opening up to people (even therapists) things go south for me, the only problem is I was already trying to open up with her and now I need to take some steps .
id recommend you never read this
Depression Support / by BDRD
Last post
 July 14th, 2017
...See more Other people, online or in videos, always seem to say their life improved after a suicide attempt. They found reasons to live or saw their life wasn't as bad as they thought. So wouldn't that mean if I try to kill myself things would get better? I'm no idiot, I can easily find a way that would make my body think it's going to die but that ultimately won't kill me. Hell, I've thought of at least 4 typing this. Of course, nothing else I've tried that helps other people help me, and most of my problems won't change if I did make an attempt. But still, you can't argue with results, and time and time again I people saying how their lives turned around after attempting suicide.
Introductions
Depression Support / by BDRD
Last post
 March 26th, 2017
...See more I guess I should introduce myself. 20 year old college student whose main problems won't go away until I die or our medical technology makes us essentially gods. Most of the time I'm able to accept my life is terrible, but for the past few months something's changed. I'm tired of things never improving, and I have a full long life ahead of me. Part of me knows nothing that can be said here will change my problems, but the rest of me is getting desperate.
it wont end
Depression Support / by BDRD
Last post
 February 19th, 2017
...See more They always say "itll end some day you just have to wait and the pain will go away. What the hell are you supposed to do when the pain wont go away, when the disease is part of your genes, when every meal is another chance for you to choke, when you choke even though you avoid the foods your allergic to, when you have to watch those close to you turn away and leave the room because youre choking, when you need to make up excuses as to why you never accept food from others or why you never eat during lunch, when youll never be ablr to have kids for fear of passing it on to them, when the only thing that can truly end the problem is the end Why do i have to be so strong, when others at least get brakes or friends who can relate
The logical solution.
Depression Support / by BDRD
Last post
 October 17th, 2016
...See more Let me start by saying I'm a very logical person. I tend to not be emotional, and when I am I'm still able to think logically and do what's best. Now, for the past month or so, I've been conducting and experiment of sorts, and it's time I post my results. Everytime something good happens to me, something bad will happen the same day unless the good thing is at the very end of the day, in that case the terrible thing will happen the next morning. Today I hang out with friends, I forget my toothbrush and tooth paste and a statue I liked is broken. Before that I was working on homework with a friend, having fun, and not more than 10 minutes after saying goodbye to them and feeling great I start feeling terrible and that night people in my dorm decide to be loud keeping me up late into the night. I go to my college's homecoming dance, for days afterwards I feel bad. I go to Friday Night Magic dressed in steampunk in honor of the newest card set that was released, my dorm floods. I try going to a counsler to help with my feelings of loneliness, and no matter how good I feel before or even in the waiting room I always feel worse when talking to the counsler. I can go on and on, showing example after example of when something good happened and then something bad happened right afterwards, but I feel like I've shown enough examples. The bottom line is, when something good happens to me, I know in less than 24 hours something bad will, and the converse isn't true. When bad things happen to me, that doesn't mean something good will. this means that any good thing that happens to me will be balanced out by a bad thing, but not everything bad thing will be balanced, so my life's net happiness will always have an average below 0. If my average net happiness will always be below 0, wouldn't it make sense to do something to stop that? And since I can't do something that makes me happy and know that will raise my net happiness, it would appear my best option would be suicide. Again, let me say I am logical, and so I will not be doing anything irrational in the next few days, I just wanted some other peoples point of view. If I can prove through numerous examples that I can never be happy without something ruining it, what reason do I have for not stopping the cycle?
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