Good moments 🌈
hey everyone, i'm creating this space for myself to come to every day, hopefully, and share my good moments. ✨
when i say 'good moment', it doesn't mean i have to feel happy or anything. it could be anything that made me feel a tiny bit better or something that made me feel good for a little bit. it could even be something that happened that's supposed to be good, even if it didn't change how i feel. or if i'm having a particularly bad day, a good moment could be a moment when i just didn't feel that horrific. and of course, it could be a moment when i just somehow magically feel fine for a bit, with no apparent cause. magic, lol. 🪄
i've recently realised that thinking of good moments makes every day feel a tiny bit different, instead of every day feeling the same and having that school, homework, exam, eat, sleep, repeat cycle going on. when i'm depressed and have been for months on end, it's really easy to just see that and forget the good that does occasionally come. perhaps after a while of posting on this thread, i might even be able to go back and read previous good moments when i'm feeling awful.
i know that every time i try to feel better and actually get to feeling better, it eventually comes crashing down soon and i feel bad again. but i guess i'll try to feel better anyway by focusing on the good moments. and when i do get to feeling better, i want to make the best of it and use it to get work done, so that the times when it gets bad again don't affect my schoolwork too much.
i will really try to come here every day and post something, even if it's very small and seems insignificant, even if i feel like i didn't have anything good happen that day. and if i ever have a miracle day when i have a lot of good moments, i'll try my best to list them all out for me to read on the awful days that follow (somehow my really good days are always followed by some really bad ones, and it sucks). if i ever miss a day of posting, i will try to post that day's good moments the next day.
i know that sometimes i will need to mention the bad stuff too here, to be able to explain why something was a good moment, but in general, i will try my best to avoid talking too much about the bad on this thread.
thank you, @bestVase7265, for encouraging me to write down my good moments. this idea of yours has been of a lot of help to me. i hope it works well with this thread for posting good moments. feel free to follow along and read whatever good i find every day, and share yours too (only if you'd like to, of course. you can always just stick to our space if you wish). 🤍🤍
anyone else reading this is welcome to share their good moments as well, i'd love to hear them. wishing you all the best. 💙
@exuberantBlackberry9105
Sometimes when we cannot find the good around us, we can try to create it ourselves. 💗
Wanting to see the good and value the good and nurture the good while holding space for everything else in between is a vvvv commendable thing, Berry, I'm super proud of youuu.💗
@Sunisshiningandsoareyou hehe, you're right. it's often really hard, but i guess we can still try. sometimes i'm able to create my good moments by getting work done and feeling good about it. not sure if the other meaning of creating the good around us applies to me, lol.
aww thank you, sun, for saying that, i really appreciate it. ooh and that rainbow coloured gif is so nice, thanks for sharing! 🌈
@exuberantBlackberry9105
Yussss, it's vv hard, but trying is what we can do and trying counts. 💛
Creating good moments by getting work done applies and counts too, because it truly is an independent thing, whatever makes you feel good, makes you feel good and it matters. Doesn't have to make sense to others. 🥰
Of courseee. 🌈
@Sunisshiningandsoareyou thank you for being so sweet and encouraging, sun. you just made me smile. 💛
@exuberantBlackberry9105
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i saw the sky in complete darkness without stars or the moon outside of light polloution
it humbled me , no matter how big my problems are in the universe im not even a spec of dust so in the end i have all the time , chances and space in the world to fix them because no matter how big a frick up is , im still on a ball of dirt drifting in space
@scorpionpolktanktree wow, a completely dark sky with no stars or moonlight and no light pollution? i'm guessing it was cloudy or something? honestly though, you're lucky to have ever seen such a view, most of us have never seen anything like that, myself included.
hmm seeing the sky like that seems to have brought about a realisation for you that you can fix your problems. and you're definitely right in that we are all tiny things in space and our planet is just a teeny tiny one if you look at it from space. i think seeing it like that is helping you, and that's great. keep going, we believe in you! 🤍
@exuberantBlackberry9105
It is a simple but a great way to find happiness in small things, Berry! 🫐(๑•᎑•๑)
@VictoriaLove7 haha yes! 🌞
okay, so my first time sharing good moments on this thread, here you go! today being a sunday (sundays are usually pretty good), it was been a pretty good day with quite a few good moments. my morning was not great, but otherwise things have been well, except for the stress and sleepiness. it'll try and list out everything good that happened today.
washing my hair felt quite nice today, it doesn't always feel as good. and not too much of my hair fell out today, so that's good (having so much hair fall out terrifies me). this might be the best hair washing for a while because this won't happen much once my exams start, i'll have to wash it all hurridly. i also got a very rare 40 mins of exercise today, stretching exercises mainly. and i was able to do something i have never been able to do before - touch my entire palm on the floor without bending my knees and hold it for 30 secs. yay!
also, looking out my window felt good. the wind was kinda cool, i saw a cute little kitten walking around, and the sky was pretty with pinkish clouds. i tried taking some photos and that sadly didn't go great but the sky was nice anyway.
my mother was explaining a science chapter to me today and it could happen without any arguments or anything because she was in an okay mood. and there was one really long, unclear, and grammatically incorrect sentence in the textbook that was hard for either of us to understand but i was able to reframe it into two shorter, clearer sentences and my mother even sorta clapped for that.
i also realised that my mother is really very okay with me choosing humanities stream after 10th grade and studying english or something. most parents wouldn't be okay with that, so i feel lucky my mother isn't forcing a choice of medicine or engineering upon me. i never knew she was that okay with the english thing though. but she is quite more than okay and even mentioned that there are a lot of opportunities after studying english. gives me some hope.
i got a bit of work done today. was it as much as i wanted to get done? no, but it never will be, so i'm fine with this. also, making this thread is one thing that made me feel nice, and seeing all the support that i'm getting here makes it even better.
looks like a lot of good moments for today. but this is probably the best that it gets because it was a sunday and my exams haven't started yet. now the exam stress will soon completely consume me, i mean, 9th grade half yearly exams, not looking forward to it. but yes, i planned out what i'll be doing after the exams get over so that i have something to look forward to.
today was sadly a really hard day, so not many good moments. i guess it was kinda expected since yesterday was a bit too good, so always a sign it'll crash down again. but yeah, here's what i got.
my good moment was being able to cry a lot. i was feeling really bad and couldn't get myself to study, like i just didn't feel like doing anything at all and stuff. but i watched some youtube videos to make myself cry. and it worked really well. it took a little while but eventually the tears came rolling down my cheeks and onto to books on my study table. and when i naturally stopped crying, i felt a bit better.
i also spent some time in the balcony today. earlier in the evening it was to take some plant and sky pics, and i think i was good. and later at night at about 8:30 pm, i went again just because i wasn't feeling good and wanted to stand in the really cool september night air. i saw some stars in the sky too. reminds me of the times when i sat in the balcony with my mother every night as a kid, i miss those days. and i wish i could just go out at night more like i used to when i was little, but now i'm expected to be home and study...
and this last one isn't really much of a good moment, but still kinda nice i guess because i laughed. a bit of an upsetting backstory though. so, in school, as 'thought for the day', some student has written on the blackboard in class "duty is heavy as a mountain. death is lighter than a feather." i have no idea what that really means, but what my brain made out of it was something like escaping the weight of duty with death, so suicide of course. and i thought i might be the only one to think like that because of what i struggle with, but i was proved wrong. my 'friend' in school who never shows any signs of any struggles whatsoever, saw what was written on the board and commented "very bad! they are inspiring us to do suicide." it made me laugh as i realised that it wasn't only my brain who associated the quote with that. plus, "inspiring us", lol.
@exuberantBlackberry9105
🥺 *hugs if okie*🫐🫂
(Is it okie to reply to your share, Berry? 🫐(´•᎑•`) I happened to be awake but will prolly sleep soon)
@exuberantBlackberry9105 isn't it wonderful to be able to find gratitude even when it's hidden<3 You've got a wonderful mind.
I used to think about the good days filled with laughter the same way, the fear and anticipation of having to pay it back with tears or sadness, but I'm trying to change that. It's okay to have bad days and feel down but it doesn't have to be looked at like something deserved, you can be happy without having to pay for it <3 Feeling good, having happy memories is something a kind soul like you deserves. I hope all your days are filled with things and moments that you love and cherish. Keep going :)
@BlueDarkAurora aww this is so sweet, thank you.
you honestly said it very well, the bad days, especially when they follow a really a really good one, feel like we're having to pay for the good day we just had. that's why i liked it better when every day was just like... not good but not that bad either. but lately the ups and downs have been a bit too much and i guess i just gotta manage like this. i can't really hope for all my days to be 'filled' with amazing stuff. but i can and do hope that at least one good thing happens every day and that i'm able to get along.
i'm wishing you luck in changing the fear of paying for a good day with tears and sadness. 💙
@exuberantBlackberry9105 well then I too hope that you get to have one good thing everyday<3 And I agree, neutral is so fine. Like let's just get the necessary things done while not having to deal with any extremes but yeah something we have to deal with it, you're not alone though, you're with us all.
Thank you for wishing for me :D I hope the kindness you show to others comes back to you as a warm embrace on the days that are too cold<3
@BlueDarkAurora thanks a lot!
oh yeah, feeling neutral is a really good thing, but not something i feel much or have felt in a long time. what i mean there by "not good but not that bad either" was really a constant, dull low mood, in contrast with big ups and downs in my mood with really high ups and really low downs. i know i'm not alone though and i'm trying to accept these ups and downs.
aww that's so sweet of you. thank you, the last line made me smile hehe. 💜
@exuberantBlackberry9105 I'm so sorry for misunderstanding that <3 Does it feel safer and stable cause of less fearful/negative thoughts? (You don't have to answer if you don't want to, feel free to ignore it :) I'm just happy that you have this space for yourself<3)
Thank for you telling me that the last line made you smile cause you saying that made me smile as well :)
@BlueDarkAurora don't be sorry! i realise that i wasn't clear enough to be understood, so you really don't need to be sorry.
i'm not sure if i understood your question correctly. if you're asking if a constant low mood felt safer and stable, yes it did. my mood and everything would be so much more predictable that way. let me know if i misunderstood the question though.
wow, i love this! you said something that made me smile, and i told you that it did, and hearing that made you smile! what an amazing cycle of smiles haha! 😊
@exuberantBlackberry9105 <3 I guess that's the limitations of text. You write very well though.
You've got it, that's exactly what I was asking. That's relatable, I like to be able to atleast predict my moods. The anticipation and not knowing causes a lot of anxiety. It's comforting to know what to expect but ofcourse that isn't possible always. But we do adapt, develop a way to deal with the uncertainty.
You keeping your head up through all the ups and downs is commendable :) I hope you move towards the neutral state becoming your new safe and stable (if that's what you want ofcourse<3).
@BlueDarkAurora can i ask why you would say i write very well?
hehe, glad i understood your question correctly. you're right, uncertainty is tough to deal with. but yeah, i guess we can try.
aww thank you so much. ❤️❤️
Yay, this is the first time that I have seen this thread! It will definitely be my good moment for the day. @exuberantBlackberry9105
here you go, my good moments for today! not an amazing day, but i do have a fair bit of good to share.
my mother woke me up 15 minutes later than usual today (8:15 am vs 8 am) so i think i got about 7 hours and 45 minutes of sleep and that's a lot. i had my dreams that i really don't like but i needed the sleep or i'd have fallen asleep doing maths all day today.
i started studying quite early today, about 11:10 am. i know this doesn't sound super early but for me it is, given that i don't usually start before 5 pm on a day i spend at home. not something to be very happy about given that my exams start the day after tomorrow, so this should be natural. but you never know with me, i could have an exam the next day and still waste all my time all day and start at 10 pm.
i've had a good hair day today and that's great. my hair has a very big influence on how i feel. it's not necessary that i will feel good if my hair's good, but if it's not good then there's literally no chance for me to feel good.
i think i'm quite looking the weather lately. it's unusually cool for september, i must say. my city just hit the record of the coolest ever recorded temperature in september. but i love the cold, so i like this. going in the balcony at night is great (so is going there in the evening to take pics of our plants and the sky). it's 23°C right now and for me this is quite cool and the air is nice too. i don't like the fact that the humidity is low and my lips and skin feel so dry, but i guess i'll manage...
and of course, reading some really nice things on cups (on this thread and somewhere else too) that made me smile would definitely be among my good moments for today. thank you, everyone.
Great job reporting here even on a rougher day. You got some sleep and good weather and hair are always a plus.
Don't worry. I will answer your other thread, but I am going to wait until tomorrow when I have time to read and process it. My husband had a rougher night tonight and needed a bit more of my time.@exuberantBlackberry9105
(forced myself to find some good stuff though i've honestly had a h3ll of a day. but i really gotta hurry to bed, so i'll write it down tomorrow. i'm really sorry.)
It's okay. You don't need to be perfect. @exuberantBlackberry9105
@exuberantBlackberry9105 my happy moment is right now as am reading your post and it made me realize that i have been able to make at least two friends after joining collage. am not that good when it comes to making friends and socializing though am a social person. I know it contradicts itself but those who understand understand. This realization is my happy moment.
Two friends is an awesome accomplishment! That's all you need. @sunnyHuman4496
