Appreciating others through trust: an intriguing quote
Do you agree? Do you think it needs another perspective or do you think this quote is kinda perfect as it is? Have you ever encountered a person who has made you feel that way?
@kairemets
I believe this is true, because not only I feel it is true, but also that trust is a way by which humans connect,(they say love connects, only superficially true, because without trust there is no love).
Also about backstabbing, my simple mind immediately showed me a picture of an armor(the picture I got was kevlar flak jacket), I converted that to something philosophical, I believe that self-acceptance and loving without attachments will do the job of this "armour", if one truly accepts himself/herself and loves without attachments(no strings to pull) then how would they be stabbed?
@observeroflife
I completely agree.
However, don't most of us have strings to pull? The ideal (selfless?) love, even between friends, is something that to me, sadly, seems just an ideal.
@kairemets
Yeah I get you
@observeroflife
Yeah, for example some of my friends are the closest I get to an ideal friend, but I bet they are still sad when I so-called "let them down".
@kairemets
You can always talk about it right?, In that way they would get to know that you were not intending to let them down
@observeroflife
Well, there are actually many possibilities how they can feel let down.
I could let them down by simply being lazy in some social obligations. (SIDENOTE: Then again, who says what I absolutely have to do?)
I could do something that is not unethical of me to do, but let's say they'd expect more. (and here we are talking about expectations, I know)
Or yes, there could even be some weird misunderstanding where they could feel betrayed and it could also be a case when it is just a big misunderstanding and in the end it could be that they wouldn't even trust me when I tell my version of the story.
I am sure that even with people who care about each other it can happen that they don't believe each other in some instances. Maybe rarely, but still.
I think that even more important than 100% trust and being 100% expectationless is the ability to move on from the hardships.
I do think that there has to be a lot of trust, but there can still be these kind of impurities in a lot of these relationships.
But here it is then important to have self-love and acceptance towards oneself and others.
What I have seen that all of my friends have some things that they hold against me, that they don't like, that they don't understand. All of my friends can be a little rough on the edges sometimes. I think a lot of people have that experience?
Yes I agree with you on moving on from hardships
@kairemets, Life seems to boil down to an endless series of simple binary decisions: regret having to do the right thing while you're doing it, or regret not having chosen to do it for the rest of your life.
