People Pleaser Syndrome
I am interested in learning more about the People Pleaser and I was wondering if anyone was familiar w/this kind of person? I am curious b/c I think I am co-dependent/people pleaser, but I have not been technically diagnosed. I read that it originates from childhood and I do know that my mother wasn't emotionally available, so I learned from an early age how to keep my mouth shut and just do as told. Other characteristics of a People Pleaser include: never saying "no", cannot set boundaries, low self-esteem, and difficult to relax. I am so tired of feeling guilty for not making everyone happy, but what about myself? Does anyone know more about this issue? Or does anyone have experience with it?
@TransAm85 I've definitely got People Pleaser Syndrome. It's mainly from how much I learned from my grandma. She would literally never tell anyone whenever she had a problem, she just wants everyone else to be happy. I never really noticed until I got older that this isn't terribly healthy. I always want people to be happy and I don't want anyone to be inconvenienced by me at all. I even apologise when I hiccup or sneeze. I try to be more selfish, but I just feel bad doing it...
@MoonOrchid I just learned that this is a problem and it took me 31 years to figure it out! It is not healthy. You have to start worrying about yourself. When I was a kid, my mother never took the time to listen, congratulate me about schoolwork, or show me any affection/love. She just taught me to grow up and get a good job, never depend on a man, and materialistic things last longer. My dad left when I was like 4 or 5, so I never got to know him. I am worried about myself now b/c my husband is a bit controlling/narcissistic and what makes a person choose a person like that? Only co dependants/people pleasers. We have to stand up for ourselves and stop thinking helping others is going to fix everything. Who is going to help us?
@TransAm85
Hi.
I am struggling to not pleasure people.
I always care about others feeling and I put others first.
As the resut i was used and i got hurt badly.
I am still hurting and I cant stop angry.
I have been very emoathic since I was kid and and I am struggling emotionally such a long time.
i believe that it came from my childhood. I wanted to help my unhappy parents and family so much.
Its so hard for me to not being empathic for others feeling. It's so hard.
