@Aileen1114117
Hey Aileen, you're so right, it's disheartening to see people engaging in bullying, of any kind, and to have the audacity of victim blaming is beyond me also, makes sense why you'd feel frustrated about their apparent 'reason' for sending you those messages, a big "thanks but no thanks" to people like this oof, who think bullying someone or sending inappropriate/ rude messages is the way to "teach" them about something.
I'm truly sorry for this experience you had, cyber bullying is so common, it is really sad :/ the impact it creates on one's emotional and mental health is terrible as well, something I really hope no one goes through.
I wish some people knew better and were more kind towards others. It is uncanny but being kind too comes secondary, first I feel, some people can practice a bit more humanity and be more humane towards other humans, that should suffice as well. It's sad when people normalize "hurt people hurt people" phrase, personally I have a very different take on this, while I acknowledge and am okay with people sometimes taking a space to *be*, it is not cool to treat others the way you've been treated, resulting in your hurt, strange how some would think it lessens their hurt, I respectfully disagree.
There is always a choice to be extra kind and if you cannot do something to help or heal someone, much better to stay aside and do nothing at all. That would actually be better oof. ❤
Either way, you so did not deserve this, nobody does.
You were/ are not being a sensitive child to call upon their wrong-actions, or about feeling hurt and frustrated about the same.
I'm super glad you're voicing it and seeking support here, I get experiences like these are nowhere near easy or comfortable to talk about even.
*offering comfy hugs*
There are some great posts on support and information about bullying, and cyber bullying (some of these are 7 cups focused but otherwise I believe they are still helpful resources), sharing here:
https://www.7cups.com/forum/SafetyKnowledgeat7Cups_181/BullyingSupportInformation_1370/
Hoping this helps. ❤ Again, I'm very proud of you for sharing here.