TRUST ME🤗 LISTENERS AREN'T ROBOT
Hi everyone hope fully doing great,
it's been many years being a part of a wonderful supportive community,
i was so freshen, so good at moods when i was new here,
im happy that Some ppl found me helpful in becoming a positive being.
but ..
few years back,
i was in a hard time of my life, im on self break since so long, i tried to take 1-1 chats but i couldn't manage my emotions, so i don wana get panic or hurt anyone here so I try to avoid chats.
but still, some unknown members chats appears and start calling me hypocrite bcz of im not chatting with them?
hypocrite is that so easy to call anyone?
because i post on forum a Virtual hug,
and not taking chats, so am i hypocrite??
i want to clear one thing,
listener needs a self care break from taking Chats, because it needs alot of self potential. to communicate and give others ur best.
since long time im not feeling much good. that's why im on my break. but it doesn't stop me to post a positive message? right? ,
u must know as a member or a listener, that we aren't robot. we are real human being. we need self care too. and This platform isn't for help, but to listen, each other and understand the situations. and Make them feel better with the things they know about themselves. No one can help here anyone. but we help our own self by following the positive vibes.
im sorry but that made not feeling well.
@WLhusna
you are absolutely right. I am on a break myself. We as listeners should only take chats when we are feeling okay!! We don’t want to say something wrong to a member who is already going through a hard time righttt. For that we must feel okay and ready. Its an entirely different thing to post on forums and to participate in other 7cups activities. We shouldn’t be judged on the basis of that. Just want you to know WLhusna that you are not a hypocrite or a robot. You are a human being and you just need some time and space .
@uniqueGrace8272 aw thank you so much i really need it, sometimes ppl just say that without realizing that Listener could be a hurt too, they also need sympathy and kind words. thnks dear u made me emotional with joy.
bless you love ❤️🌸
you take the time you need. you deserve that just the same as anyone else. ð©µ
@jonghyunnie thankyou Dear 😊💐💖
@WLhusna
You really don't deserve that kind of treatment, self care is not selfish and I'm sure you have done your best as a listener here💙. Just take as much as time you need to feel better because you can't help others like you want when your cup is empty, you need to refill it to pour into other people's cups ✨. I hope whatever going in your life will get better. Take care of yourself and try not to overthink bad stuff people says. I know i haven't met you before but you sounds like an amazing person and i hope you know it and won't let anyone's words make you feel otherwise 💙
@EnigmaticCat24 Im Grateful for ur understanding Words 😊💐💖
@WLhusna
I can relate with you.
Sometime our life situation make us not to involve in listening. Without good mindset n emotional healthy it can fireback to us. Or trigger us.
Sometime member harsh word can demotivate us. We want to be listener not punching bag.
It okay to take break. Even I am also take very limited chat. From many years
It's okay to feel upset about the incident.
But yes we have to find way to deal this. Because people who come here we don't have idea what they gone through nor they knew. So it little tricky situation both side.
So ignoring them.
Blocking them.
Expressing our discomfort
Setting boundary
Peer support
R the way I deal them.
Above all i prefer I express myself polite n end chat. That best as listener I can do.
Stil they r rude I block n report.
It sad fact most of listener will relate to u in this. Because yes often this experience r happen here. To find permanent soln is not possible.
Hugs to you 🤗
@wittyMap7054 Thankyou Dear 😊💐💗
@WLhusna
Understandable and so much relating post. Lots of prayers and healing energy to you !!!
@coolj9 Thankyou so much 🤗💖
@WLhusna
Very well said!
I think there is an element of futility about this site
Why are people here to talk to listeners?
1) They are lonely
2) They can't afford a therapist who will be there 24/7 for them
3) They don't know what to do about the issues they are facing
A lot of the time talking to an unknown person online does not make you feel less lonely, it actually makes you feel more lonely. The listener is not usually a trained personal therapist. The listener either doesn't give advice which helps the issues OR they do give generic advice which doesn't help or resonate with the member.
This all breeds frustration and feelings of helplessness/hopelessness which then can turn to bitterness and anger
I'm not criticising anyone, I'm simply stating what I believe are the limitations of the site
I think it is ppossible to deactivate the profile in a way that makes it impossible to send messages from a member to a listener. It is indeed a huge frustration to members to almost exclusively find listeners on the browse listeners page who do not take chats. That's not your fault, but a 'feature' of 7cups.
Maybe you can just deactivate the button to send you messages, or hide your profile while on break? Then this can't happen anymore until you are ready.
Hi @WLhusna,
@iPHOENIX thankyou Dear 🌸🥰