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intuitiveEast6300 January 22nd, 2023

Hello everybody!

I am not sure how to start. I have this one person in my life who I essentially think of as family. We were talking about our schedules, and during the conversation, he mentioned that he feels stuck because he likes spending time with me, but some of his friends feel uncomfortable around me, which doesn't help him (or me, for that matter), so he said he can't spend a ton of time with me.

I am glad he was honest with me and am *** that whoever made the comments didn't tell me sooner. It's stuff I need to work on, sure, but how would I know I was making his friends uncomfortable if I don't know what I was doing? (Before you ask: no, idk who in particular said the comments)

What do I do?

-East

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fruityPond7887 January 23rd, 2023

@intuitiveEast6300 Hi! I hope you are doing well! I can imagine that it's not easy to hear from someone that you make them uncomfortable and I would be very frustrated too if someone didn't tell me sooner. I think communication is important and I understand where you are coming from. I think talking to your friend about the situation is important and he shouldn't be spending less time with you just because his other friends don't like you. That's not fair. Communication seems like it's needed and I hope your friend is there for you. Please know we are here for you if you need to talk! Best of luck!😊

hardworkingStrings2265 January 23rd, 2023

@intuitiveEast6300

I agree with @fruityPond7887 about the fact that we are here for you when you need to talk. I don't know what the issue is with your "friend" but it's highly questionable that he would let what his friends think determine who he's friends with. Honesty is great, but was that honest or cruelty? He gave no more information from what it seems so it's not helpful in any way. I'm so sorry that you're going through this. We are here. Reach out to us when you're ready.

BenittaJ January 23rd, 2023

@intuitiveEast6300 hi east i have a solution for you . Start to spend time with your new frnds especially guys if u can . If you partner hears this he ll automatically wanna come over to you.