how do you deal with being the ugly friend in the friend group?
Its not that my friends are the problem or anything, they are the kindest people that i've come across. Its just that i'm tired of being the friend who looks ugly while we are hanging out. its alomst embarassing and i have this thing where i keep thinking they (my friends) would be much better with somebody else who is pretty and has a nice personality and funny and caring.
It would have been bearable if i was just insecure about my looks, im insecure about everything!
i feel so bad for complaining about these things...yea sure i have maybe stuffs other people may not have and all...i just idk, i want to learn to fully accept myself i think...and i cannot stop thinking about this hypothetical person who would be better suiting for my friend group than i.
if any of yall would like to help me...it would be nice.
idk if i explained better, im super bad at conveying my thoughts so if this rant sounds like mumbo jumbo...my bad
@annadaisy50749
It is hard to see yourself how others see you and we NEED to see ourselves in a good way ... with or without outside validation.
Comparing ourselves to others is a recipe for unhappiness and thinking we are not enough. I will tell you people i have met on sight alone some may be very good looking and some average or below ........it is only when i see the person inside do i see them clearly maybe an average one looks much better and one who seemed so perfect now show many flaws etc.
Your friends see something more then you do ..... i can tell you when a few people friends and a romantic interest showed me things about myself they liked/ loved and i saw it too... i felt it ... i look in mirror there was no physical change but something intangible i am happy with what i see and the mental change must have made a difference because i have had people say what did you do you look different it is inside.
@annadaisy50749 unfortunately many of us struggle with looks and insecurities about ourselves. Even the prettiest of people struggle with this, so your not alone sweetie. And yep! There's always someone worse off, but this isn't about them it's about you ❤ I'm sorry but I don't have any advice, but I can gives you a giant tiny hug ❤ squeezes you tightly ❤ and let's you know we are all beautiful even if we don't see it ❤
@Tinywhisper11
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