Steered away twice and talked to a scarecrow
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Oh my gosh y'all, I had a pretty good day. I managed to steer off of two episodes of what potentially could have been some bad behavior but ended well. I tried to engage a listener tonight to process some of my thoughts but it was like talking to a scarecrow!
"Yeah, I understand" or "yeah, that makes sense."
Let's strive ti listen well. I recently went through the training and accepted a few listening sessions. I pray that I can be more engaged and reflective too. It's not easy being a listener I know but let's put forth some effort.
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@CatDaddy60
lol! scarecrow! Well - not everybody can give good answers of the issues you're presenting. It depends of the experiences the listener has in life. Many also write: I don't talk about this and this subject.
@Helgafy so true Helga. On the listening chats I try not to impose myself explicitly on the listener, should be gracious that there even is a listener available. It prompted me to evaluate my own approach and to be a better listener.
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@CatDaddy60
Already a listener? That was quick!
@Helgafy I was invited so I figured it could only be helpful to me and to others.
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Finding that sweet spot where the listener feels competent and comfortable but also where the one sharing feels like they’ve been heard and validated can be tough!
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@TheSunParadox33
Absolute.
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Good advice! I’m looking to get into this training to help me with my social anxiety and some other issues. I agree it’s not easy practicing active listening but I’m glad training like this is out there! Wishing you much success on your journey!
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@CatDaddy60
I have also experienced this many times... But there are some really amazing listeners here also and i hope that you find it in you to help as many people as possible through this amazing platform also.