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Steered away twice and talked to a scarecrow

CatDaddy60 July 9th
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Oh my gosh y'all, I had a pretty good day. I managed to steer off of two episodes of what potentially could have been some bad behavior but ended well. I tried to engage a listener tonight to process some of my thoughts but it was like talking to a scarecrow!

"Yeah, I understand" or "yeah, that makes sense."

Let's strive ti listen well. I recently went through the training and accepted a few listening sessions. I pray that I can be more engaged and reflective too. It's not easy being a listener I know but let's put forth some effort.

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Helgafy July 9th
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@CatDaddy60

lol! scarecrow! Well - not everybody can give good answers of the issues you're presenting. It depends of the experiences the listener has in life. Many also write: I don't talk about this and this subject. 

CatDaddy60 OP July 9th
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@Helgafy so true Helga. On the listening chats I try not to impose myself explicitly on the listener, should be gracious that there even is a listener available. It prompted me to evaluate my own approach and to be a better listener.

Helgafy July 9th
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@CatDaddy60

Already a listener? That was quick!

CatDaddy60 OP July 9th
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@Helgafy I was invited so I figured it could only be helpful to me and to others.

Helgafy July 9th
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@CatDaddy60

Wow - invited - congrats - what an honour!

CatDaddy60 OP July 9th
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@Helgafy - pretty sure you have been invited too.  Nothing special about me, but when the note popped up, I considered the training to be generally beneficial.

TheSunParadox33 July 9th
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Finding that sweet spot where the listener feels competent and comfortable but also where the one sharing feels like they’ve been heard and validated can be tough!

Helgafy July 9th
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@TheSunParadox33
Absolute.

CatDaddy60 OP July 9th
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You bet Sun, we are all growing and learning 

TheSunParadox33 July 9th
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Good advice! I’m looking to get into this training to help me with my social anxiety and some other issues. I agree it’s not easy practicing active listening but I’m glad training like this is out there! Wishing you much success on your journey!

CaptainGat July 23rd
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@CatDaddy60

I have also experienced this many times... But there are some really amazing listeners here also and i hope that you find it in you to help as many people as possible through this amazing platform also.