hi, i'm back

for my group project, i am in a group of 4, with 2 good friends of mine, and one "friend" whom i found was very controlling. i have grouped with that "friend" many times for the past few years for different projects, and to me, she always came off as the kind of person who makes sure things go her own way. she never blends in or adapts to the group dynamic. and if we change something she does in order to blend in with the group, she gets upset. she is never the kind of person who is willing to work as a team, and is often seen alone in the class, without any "friends" whatsoever. for another module, we planned to be in a group together, but she backed out last minute because she had problems with one good friend of mine, saying that good friend doesn't contribute when the good friend did pull her weight.

my group's presentation is in 2 weeks (28th october to be exact). last week, the "friend" complained to me about how she was the only one in the group who is doing "everything" for the presentation - what she did was to sit closer to the front and listen to how others do it to "get a sensing" of it and learn from their mistakes. me and my 2 other friends sat at the back and occasionally, we paid attention, because we had work to do and deadlines to meet, unlike her, who seems to be a little bit more "free".

yesterday during the seminar, she sat at the front again, but was disappointed that the rest of us didn't do what she wanted us to do, which was to sit at the front with her. while sitting at the front was something she suggested, it was not an agreement that we made with her, so we were free to sit anywhere we wished. so when she started complaining about it, i started to make sarcastic comments, telling her things like "you're not the boss" and reacting with clown emojis to her messages, because i was simply tired of the way she acted towards us.

later after the lecture, she told us that she was "very disappointed us", saying that if we were okay with sitting at the back we should "let her know" so she knows that we are aware, and that we are "on track". and in the message, she pointed me out in particular for my sarcastic comments, saying that if she were the boss, she would have scolded us rightaway for sitting at the back. she insisted that she is just doing her job as the member of the team and "worries" for us, and also pointed out that the prof will give us plus points for participation (in reality, participation marks encompasses a LOT more than sitting in the front row). lastly, she reiterated that she wants us to work as a TEAM.

enraged and in the heat of the moment, i instantly took to dm's and pointed out how much of a hypocrite she was for yapping about team dynamics and teamwork when she is the one who always goes on her own path and tries to force her way into a dynamic that doesn't fit her, and called her selfish for complaining that she's the only one doing all the work. all she does is sit at the front of the lecture and listens to the other groups presenting. meanwhile, my other two teammates have dug out legitimate research sources that we can all learn from, and have even started coming up with presentation outlines for the next two weeks. i too will start filling up the presentation content in the coming days.

after i sent the message, the "friend" stopped talking altogether. even when my teammate asked for a good time to meet online to coordinate who does what, she does not respond, and has yet to respond until now.

reflecting on this, i was definitely in the wrong for personally attacking her in the heat of the moment 2 weeks before our presentation, but really, i was just speaking up on behalf of my other two teammates who were also very sick of the way she behaves. 

moving forward, within the next two weeks, how should i personally approach her? and how should me and my two teammates approach her and *try* to get her to do her part for the presentation?