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tryingtosurvive2024 October 22nd

I'm a janitor for a school.  I work 2nd shift, and my hours are 2:00pm - 10:30pm.  The job and the hours makes making friends very difficult for me.

I tend to put friendship and dating into the same category, because, both things involves contact with another human being.  Both have similar relationship qualities.  The point I am trying to make is, 7Cups is a website for mental support.   I have never been successful at any of the dating stuff online or offline.  The same goes for my general friendships....  Moreover I don't care what I get out of this.  If all I get is a friend then that is way better then what I got gong for me now!

In one of my forum posts, here, It was suggested that I write this post.  It was suggested that I tell everyone my timezone and what I'm looking for.  I am on Easter Standard Time.  I get home from work between 10:30pm and 11:00pm.  I check my work email first, and then I check my other emails.  Usually they are all empty.  Next I log in here, and check for comments on my threads.  If there are any i respond.  After that I take a shower, maybe eat something and then I come back to talk.  Usually that is around 12:00 AM.  It would really be nice if I had someone to talk too for an hour at least, before I go to bed.  You see, my job is very lonely.  I work at night and almost get no conversation at all.  Usually I'm the only one in the school cleaning it.  Then I come home from work, and I'm all by myself until I go to bed.   I get up in the morning around 9:00 AM take a shower, and I get to hear my parents talk but there isn't much for me to say about their stuff.  My point is I live a very lonely life.

When I was in High School, other students wanted to move away from here.  They would say things like, there is nothing to do here.  I always figured their issue is that they wanted places to go to where they could party and do drugs better.  After all they used a lot of swear words, talked about sex a lot, and crude jokes.  But it is true that where I live there isn't much to do.  And what little there is to do, I have trouble doing it.  I have a learning disability that effects me.  Transportation is a bit of a problem due to it.  Also learning how to do activities is also a problem cause I learn slower than others.  Plus being on my feet for 8 hours a night makes me tired too.

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iblonde13 October 30th

@tryingtosurvive2024 Thank you for opening up about these things. It seems like you are having some challenges in your social life that are causing you distress. You are not alone in this experience, as many people find it difficult to make friends, date, and have meaningful communication, especially with conflicting schedules. Many people today feel lonely, especially after the isolation of the lockdowns during the pandemic. Have you considered joining clubs (online or in person) or volunteering to meet people with similar interests?

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tryingtosurvive2024 OP October 30th

@iblonde13  I have gotten the same suggestions for years.  My answer is always yes.  But it doesn't work for me and my situation  But I'm on 7 cups here.

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@tryingtosurvive2024

Hi! I could be your friend if you want ^^

I don't have any friends :(

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tryingtosurvive2024 OP October 30th

@Beautifulfallenangel01  I am sorry that you don't have any friends either.  Could you try explaining to me, or have you written post anywhere, explaining what happened in your life, that you don't friends?

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@tryingtosurvive2024

Well, then I was 6-9yo I went thru really horrible stuff at school then COVID happened so I didn't have anyone to talk too for support so I started being extremely weird and I thought differently than everyone else so when I tried to make friends they were always fake friends. But i'm a smart, beautiful person tho.

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crimsonSquare6071 October 30th

Hi, friend!

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@crimsonSquare6071

hello ^^

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LiamIsBread October 30th

hello, we could be friends if you like! i dont have much friends too and maybe we can be there for each other! :]

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tryingtosurvive2024 OP October 31st

@LiamIsBread  Nice to meet you!

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LiamIsBread October 31st

@tryingtosurvive2024 nice to meet you too dude! hope your day has been better

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tryingtosurvive2024 OP October 31st

@LiamIsBread  Tonight I was working all by myself at the school, cleaning it.  But I'm doing ok.  How are you?

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LiamIsBread October 31st

@tryingtosurvive2024 that must be hard.. i wish i can be as strong willed and patient as you dude. 



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tryingtosurvive2024 OP October 31st

@LiamIsBread   It isn't easy, but you got to do what you got to do.

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