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I hate social anxiety

piethesky June 26th, 2023

Hi. I'm a 15 y/o girl, 16 really soon and i suffer from social anxiety. It's preventing me from doing a lot of things. I barely have any friends at school, i can barely hold a conversation, i can't even ask for things i need. I feel like i'm wasting my life, everyone else seems to be having fun and i'm always locked in my home, no one to hang out with. It makes me feel so isolated. I'm missing out on a lot of opportunities too. I'm too afraid of joining any clubs, too afraid to apply for a job, so many other things. I'm starting to worry about my future, i don't want to keep being like this. I'm starting to feel hopeless. I can't even reach out to a therapist or school counsellor. I really need someone to break me out of my shell, to guide me, to help me. I need someone who can check on me, encourage me to socialise and help me with my feelings.

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Mya000 June 28th, 2023

@piethesky Hi. I'm really sorry to hear that social anxiety is causing you significant distress and affecting different areas of your life. It's completely understandable that you feel isolated and have concerns about missing out on opportunities. However, please know that you're not alone in this situation, and there are solutions and supportive individuals available to help you. While I'm unable to chat with you directly as I am an adult listener, we can certainly communicate and exchange messages through this forum.


Reaching out for help is an important step towards finding support and overcoming social anxiety. If you're unable to reach out to a therapist or school counsellor directly, you might consider talking to a trusted adult in your life, such as a family member, or teacher. They can support you, and help you explore options for seeking professional help or even assist in initiating the conversation with a therapist or counsellor.

In the meantime, there are some self-help techniques that you can try to gradually break out of your shell. Start with small steps, like gradual exposure to social situations, joining online support groups or communities like Cups where you can interact with others who may share similar experiences, and practising relaxation and grounding techniques like deep breathing or mindfulness to manage anxiety symptoms.

Remember, overcoming social anxiety takes time, and it's okay to take things at your own pace. Be patient and kind to yourself throughout this journey. When you're ready, gradually challenge yourself by setting small, achievable goals.

You deserve to live a fulfilling and connected life, and with the right support and strategies, it is possible to manage social anxiety. Don’t lose hope. Keep reaching out for help and seeking support from trusted individuals. You have the strength to overcome this, and I believe in you.

If you ever need someone to talk to, please feel free to reach out. I'm here to listen and offer support as much as I can. Don't forget to tag me to make sure I can see your message. Take care ❤️
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