Enmeshmet?
I'm pretty sure my family is enmeshed and I am in the grip of this situation. I am constantly anxious about my family's feelings and wondering how I can make them all happy or calm them down if they're upset. Even if I go out, I'm worrying about my parents and sisters being alone the whole time. I also can't disagree with them about anything without feeling horrible and needing to "fix" it. I know that's silly and that it's normal to have different opinions on some things, but I can't help feeling really distressed.
I came across the term enmeshment and have been reading up on it because it seemed to fit my situation. But everything I can find is just a description, not a solution. And whenever someone proposes a way forward, it's always "set boundaries", but I really can't. Not only do I find it impossible to even bring up boundaries, but if I did do it, I might cause an argument amongst family members. And I still have to live with them at the moment, so having them all fight would be ***
I know there is no solution to this, but it helps a bit to vent