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rhodawoolf
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PathStep 39 Compassion hearts313 Forum posts58 Forum upvotes89 Current upvotes89 Age GroupAdult Last activeFebruary, 2024 Member sinceAugust 24, 2023
Bio

Hi! I'm Rhoda, a very stressed student in my 20s.

I am trying find peace, but I'm more lost than a Sally Rooney character.

I mostly deal with family problems and anxiety

Recent forum posts
Is the wish for detachment bad?
General Support / by rhodawoolf
Last post
 November 22nd, 2023
...See more I've been going through a really hard time lately, mostly with family matters. I feel really trapped in my familial relationships and I often fantasise about running away. Because of the way I feel around them, I don't really want to form a family of my own either. I've always shied away from romantic commitments, but lately I don't even want to see anyone casually. I also know that I don't want children in the future. Although I have friends I cherish, I feel like they're not a big enough part of my life anyway. Lately I've been feeling like I just want to be invisible to other people. I just wish nobody knew me. I love life. I enjoy hiking, swimming, reading, taking pictures, travelling, art... I want to be alive and experience the world, just not interpersonal relationships. I know this mindset isn't normal, but is it bad?
Frustration in church
Religion & Spirituality / by rhodawoolf
Last post
 January 3rd
...See more Hi, this is mostly a rant. I didn't want to post it in the negative thoughts tag, because I feel like my personal relationship to God is still good. But warning: critical thoughts about the church and priesthood are ahead. I'm quite sure also that I am at fault for arrogance. I went to mass for the first time in a really long time yesterday. I felt like I was ready to give the church another go, because I've been healing my relationship to religion and I missed participating in mass. But, just as I was afraid of, the moment the homily began, I felt everything crumbling. It's like I've spent so long reading and praying and reflecting, and hoping someone would clear my thoughts or at least seem to understand them. The homily instead was just a repetition of the reading, with slightly different words. I feel so disappointed and at the same time guilty for being disappointed. I've been going through a hard time lately and I don't know why I thought being in community would help me. I'm not sure if my root mistake is thinking that, when maybe I should be content with my own prayer and reflection, or if it is judging the homily, which I should listen to with humility and understanding
Ethics of grief
Religion & Spirituality / by rhodawoolf
Last post
 October 9th, 2023
...See more Hello everyone. I have an inner dilemma I'd like to share. I feel this community is very welcoming, so I'm encouraged to talk about this, which is something that has worried me for a long time. Two years ago my grandfather, the person who understood me best in my life, passed away. The circumstances were very sad and meant I could not say a last goodbye. It has been a painful reality to come to terms with. About that time I was already spiritual and starting a journey that would lead me where I am now: a state of faith in God. Because of my beliefs, I now feel the impulse to pray for my grandfather. However, he was not a religious person and was very adamant that he didn't want any such attentions even after death. I wouldn't want to disrrspect his memory, but I always keep him in my thoughts, whether I am praying or not. Is this right? Does anyone have a particular affirmation or prayer that might be relevant to this situation?
Sacraments
Religion & Spirituality / by rhodawoolf
Last post
 November 1st, 2023
...See more Disclaimer: this is about a personal struggle of mine. It's totally okay if not everyone relates. I know not everybody believes in the sacraments and I respect that, but these are my personal feelings. Because of my personal experiences, I am currently not participating in any church. I have spent a long time thinking about God and trying to feel his presence. Several months ago, I started to pray and take that very seriously. But it's taken me so long to heal my relationship to spirituality after originally leaving my church nearly ten years ago, that I'm scared of joining another community and having it shattered again. However, I believe in the sacraments, especially the Eucharist, and I would like to receive it at some point. I don't know if returning to the church in order to participate in the Eucharist would be worth it or even right. If anyone has related thoughts or personal experiences, I'd love to hear them ✨
Enmeshmet?
General Support / by rhodawoolf
Last post
 September 30th, 2023
...See more I'm pretty sure my family is enmeshed and I am in the grip of this situation. I am constantly anxious about my family's feelings and wondering how I can make them all happy or calm them down if they're upset. Even if I go out, I'm worrying about my parents and sisters being alone the whole time. I also can't disagree with them about anything without feeling horrible and needing to "fix" it. I know that's silly and that it's normal to have different opinions on some things, but I can't help feeling really distressed. I came across the term enmeshment and have been reading up on it because it seemed to fit my situation. But everything I can find is just a description, not a solution. And whenever someone proposes a way forward, it's always "set boundaries", but I really can't. Not only do I find it impossible to even bring up boundaries, but if I did do it, I might cause an argument amongst family members. And I still have to live with them at the moment, so having them all fight would be *** I know there is no solution to this, but it helps a bit to vent
PMSing?
Women's Issues / by rhodawoolf
Last post
 October 20th, 2023
...See more Tw: depressive moods I was wondering if anyone experiences intense mood swings before and during their period and if you'd have any tips to deal with it. In the days leading up to my period, as well as on the first two days, I often experience really dark thoughts and have a very hard time holding back tears in very random situations. I generally suffer from anxiety, but this is nothing like what I experience daily. Rather than being worried or fearful, I just feel hopeless and sometimes dissociate, feeling like I'm watching myself participate in meaningless interactions from outside my body. Is this common? Should I be worried?
Advice?
Relationship Stress / by rhodawoolf
Last post
 September 17th, 2023
...See more I'm kind of freaking out over a dating app. For context, I have anxiety and it's usually pretty bad in social situations. Lately I've been hung up on a guy I was seeing a few months ago. My friends convinced me that I should download a dating app and see what's there to get over him. It's been two days and I've responded to one person. But I kind of hated and I want to delete. But I feel like I should let this person know and I don't know how without being annoying? If anyone has experience on dating apps, pls give me your thoughts!!
Spirituality?
General Support / by rhodawoolf
Last post
 August 27th, 2023
...See more Hi! I was wondering if there is any community or forum specifically about spirituality and / or religious matters?
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