Does anyone ever feel like they get into trouble for all the wrong reasons?
I was raised in a family that taught me to follow the rules. For as long as I can remember I always tried my best to stay out of trouble But no matter how hard I try to be good and follow the rules, I still find myself in trouble. Mostly I'm referring to the internet, and some stuff at work.
I don't really want to talk about what happens at work. But for now, I feel like saying something about the internet. In 22 years I couldn't even begin to tell you how many different social networking sites I've been to. I can't tell you how many different chat rooms I've been too. I can't tell you how many forums I've been too. But one common thing that really troubles me is this. Not matter how hard I try to follow the rules and find a place to fit in. As soon as I find something to do on a site that I think is good, someone will put the squash on it. Many times I have had to leave a site due to someone in authority who just didn't like one thing I did. It could be adding too many people. Sending too many messages. It could be writing in a thread that for some reason they don't think I should be writing in. Even if I had done so for a couple of years! BTW that really did happen! They might not like my writing style. You don't split up your paragraphs enough. BTW that complaint happened. When it comes to email, I recently ran into a situation where I am not allowed to send file attachments cause it supposedly crashes their email. All I'm trying to say is, constantly little things here and there, that I stumble across. After a while I start to feel like I'm not allowed to do anything!
This one was funny. I was sitting in a dead chat room. Nobody was saying anything. I was so lonely I started writing in the third person. That woke up a moderator. "you are not allowed to write in the third person." I remember even being in some Chat rooms that would kick you out if you told them that you were feeling depressed. Sadly I was feeling depressed, and yes I got kicked out for letting them know that.
I don't understand how it is that I'm someone that seems to trip over something that gets himself into trouble. Sometimes I'll even read the long terms and conditions in hopes that I won't get into trouble. And yet something once again will come up and soon I find myself having an issue. It is like no matter what I do, I can't be good enough.
@tryingtosurvive2024I have seen some people going through such situations quite often, particularly during and after Covid-19 pandemic and lockdowns. I too work on laptop most of the time and my family is small now. It affected my health too. But I started walking outside for 1-2 hours everyday that helped a lot to remove all thoughts from my mind and think of bright future ahead. The walking helps to find own strengths and weaknesses and find solutions to weakness or issues.
This is one of the ways you may explore. Enjoy life as much as possible!
@TrueMind My job involves walking. My feet have problems due to too much walking. What else would you suggest?
Mine did too! On my feet 12 hours out of the day. 6 years ago on my feet probably 20 hours of the day for five years. Because I was homeless and refused to stay in filthy shelter conditions. I did I walked the streets endlessly and not on drugs. Don’t know how I survived!
@tryingtosurvive2024
i’m sorry you are depressed and the chat rooms are giving you a hard time
@GoodTrouble19 I haven't been to chat rooms in a long time. My experience in a chat room is just about always bad.
@tryingtosurvive2024
how are you feeling today?
@GoodTrouble19 Currently I'm feeling so sad and scared that I am having trouble getting to sleep.
@tryingtosurvive2024
I understand I wish we could talk one on one but 7 cups doesn’t allow us
@GoodTrouble19 I know.
People can be so short tempered and stubborn about punctuation everywhere online that it makes it so hard to just express yourself without being embarrassed by “grammar Nazis”. It can be annoying reading typos and whatnot, but at the end of the day we are all human and can easily decipher the mistakes that most people make. I wouldn’t take it personally. Just go somewhere that isn’t so judgmental or practice typing on your own with a learning program which could help.
@turquoiseLion6992 one person got upset at me because my paragraph just filled up their phone.
Keep writing paragraphs!😂 I don’t think they would even call mine a paragraph! Just run on sentences.
@tryingtosurvive2024 hi how are you doing , to be honest i can also relate with you and yes its really frustrating that even when we try to do basic things yet somehow things take wrong turn
But at the positive side you never lost hope and still continued on exploring which i think is a very good thing and here in 7 cups you are sharing about your experience which is not a small thing at all
Here you chat with anyone you like and we will try our best to understand you as you said that there were platforms where you revealed that you were depressed but you were treated wrongly but here you can get help from professionals
@Angelshah Thank you for you kind comment. If I wasn't reliant on my parents. I could use the professional help. I rely on them due to my disability. Mom watches my credit card, and mom and dad are kinda against all of this...
That happens to be allllllll the time. The title gets to people's head sometimes, breeding total entitlement. Then they lure others into joining forces and it quickly becomes some childish mob stoning one person for what seems like forever, until they eventually, leave their line of sight. Then the celebrating stays for another exaggeratingly long time, in case the person who left decides to find enough backbone to come back to those few friends they really made.
It gets tiring because some of us KNOW there are those that DEFINITIVELY do something about it. But, instead, they watch them sit there watching it all, while they mock them as they watch us going through it.
Maybe it won't be like that forever? That is hopeful thinking, though, and that's gotten to be just words a lot of folks got tired of holding onto.
Basically, I completely understand. Completely. The hopeful "shoulder tap of encouragement" can be rage-fueling, too. It's like saying "it's okay" to someone who's going through the most traumatic moments of their life, without doing anything to help them change it all.
Relief is coming. 🙂
@ColoringUnicorn 
Thank you for your comment. 💜
Same here
Sitting in a dead chat room 😶
@carefulPlace4854 chat rooms are kinda dead. Even when I came online 22 years go, the first chat rooms I went to was full of bots. But at least I could find a real person. After that seemed to get more and more dead, as social networking took over. I remember hearing stories of people who met in a chat room and went out on a date. But by the time I discovered chat rooms, I couldn't see how that could ever happen! Maybe I came online too late for that. I don't know. I did try some dating sites, but they weren't much help either.
