Acceptance from others.
1. One reason is being belittled always or being compared to others as a kid.
@blissfulSky8162
And what's the first step towards bringing about a change, Ara? Realising the gaps? Acknowledging the need for it? Accepting that you deserve better and you'll have to work on it yourself to provide it to yourself? Yes?❤
I'm incredibly proud of you for acknowledging the realizations you've made, and certainly not easy to have realizations, for it hurts not knowing what more could you do to be more accepted?!
The friend that made you feel like you do not matter, is a hooman just like everyone else, no higher entity or anything saintly, and similarly every one else who majorly missed getting to know such a beautiful person as yourself.
You gave them the power to dictate your worth, you can take it back and you should. It's easier said than done but just because someone doesn't feel or think the same way, it doesn't mean we are any less worthy, than them or anyone else. ❤
We're all equally valid and worthy, and this includes *you* too, there couldn't have been another Ara in the world with the same beautiful mindset and kind intentions, there couldn't have been the same thoughtful, compassionate and caring individual as yourself who loves with the intensity you do, who cares how you do, who shows up like you do. There couldn't have been another hooman same as yourself who has battled through their own challenges yet persevered to hold strong and remind others to do too in the same way as you do, every single time you show up, you're being yourself, you're adding something unique to the world, which no one else can ever do because they aren't *you*, and won't ever be.
You are accepted and loved as you are, valid and worthy exactly as you feel, right in this very moment!
You are the Ara to the Universe we share, and it couldn't, shouldn't and will never be the same any other way! ❤
@Sunisshiningandsoareyou
I just don't know what to say Sun, I'm speechless. This is a beautiful message which echoes through my mind again and again. It's just everything. Thank you so much for helping me realize certain matters. You deserve everything ❤️
@Sunisshiningandsoareyou
but you can better yourself
If you are weak then you can go to the gym and get strong
Saying you are perfect as you are, is not true. It only encourages people to suffer from things they have the ability to change
Yes, you can say people should be this way or that way but that is completely futile. The world won't change to be the way you want it to be. It's up to you to make the most of the world as it is. Maybe you can change it in someway
@Themaninblackxxx
Thank you for your reply, I greatly agree with you but I feel somethings were missed here, so would like to reiterate them:
1. Never used the word "perfect" nor the idea of it here. Because I think like you too, and do not encourage the idea of perfectionism either.
2. Validating someone's *now* isn't saying there's no room for improvement for them, what's said above was~ "no random person who makes you question your self-worth is worthy enough to tell you whether you're worthy or not, because you are *you* and you matter and are worthy of being a part of the world without them/ their opinion of you".
3. I don't think the post was about someone's "room for improvement" though; still, I feel there's a difference in between constructive criticism~ wanting to see someone improve and become better at something they are doing/ in general, to become a better version of themself, usually all with good intentions And just being critical of how someone *is* with no good intentions, putting someone else down because of your own insecurities and unrealistic expectations. The latter being something totally unacceptable and intolerable, for me!
~ I like to accept people and make them feel worthy how/ who they are in the here and now, without comparing them to how they were in the past or putting them on a pedestal of what they could become in the future.
I feel, we can ofcourse want the best for someone and there's room for improvement for everyone, in different aspects of life, agreed, but it still does *not* give any one the right to tell them they aren't accepted *currently* or that they'll have to be a certain way or do a certain thing to become more worthy or be more of a significant part of the world.
