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♡ The Other Side Of Holidays ♡ *you* are not alone ♡

Sunisshiningandsoareyou December 23rd, 2021

Hey hey lovelies, I hope y'all are doing well and staying safe. ❤

How's the holiday season treating everyone?

For me, this time is a mix of different emotions! I am so very grateful to be in 7 cups, being a part of this community is great in the sense that if not everyone always, even then, many of us are in the same boat often ~ to me, that's very comforting hehe!


Anyway, I am so excited and feeling all the jinglessss ( ya see what I did there :P ) of the holiday season with so many amazing events going in cups lately to celebrate holidays and of course to get set ready to welcome the new year.

But but amidst the celebrations and the fun, let's not forget how holidays or even the nicest time ever is not the same for everyone ~ and let me assure you, it is okay!

It is more than okay to not vibe with the festive time when you're not feeling it personally. It is okay to not feel excited, or happy, in the " I am sooooo looking forward to it " mindset ~ it is okay to feel hurt, it is okay to feel anxious, it is okay to feel alone, it is okay to feel slight jealousy towards people rejoicing when you cannot / are unable to, it is okay to experience grief, it is okay to be hurting, it is okay to feel disappointed, it is okay to feel angry, it is okay to feel *nothing* about holidays or this time in general, whatever you are feeling is personal to you, it is valid and it does not make you any less than others in any way. You Are Allowed To Not Feel "Merry" Always!

With all the fun-filled stuff flowing around cups lately (that I've been enjoying too much lol), I've also been coming across certain forum threads that are aimed towards ensuring a safe place for all, in this holiday season, a place to talk / share / discuss ~ feel less alone, knowing others are feeling similarly, some of these also include wonderful tips and coping resources and so I wanted to create a single thread where more people can access these easily.

Sharing them below -:









Missing loved ones during holiday season

Suggestions for coping with family stress during the holidays

A Happy(ier) Holiday Celebration this year

Dietary restrictions and Holiday Meals & Gatherings

Lonely During the Holiday Season?

Depression and the Holidays

Preparing for the Holiday season with Family (part 1)

(Similar threads in the Family & Caregivers and the Community Projects & Events sub-communities)

Some general resources -:

9 Therapeutic Benefits of Top Free Resources at 7 Cups

The extensive list of healthy distractions and self-love techniques

[ All text in blue is clickable ]

A huge shout out to the awesome community users who've curated all these forum threads and article(s), y'all are so thoughtful, kind and simply fabulous!

@Sher217 , @QuietMagic , @lucy2 @PoliteOcean , @halcyoncloud2036 , @Empatheticlavender2924 , @Katedoskocilova , @Marigold357 , @GreenChoice1 , @AffyAvo , @Melonmeloncholy , @LisaMeighanMBPsS , @EmmaE



Thanks for being here lovely human. If any of you reading this have come across any similar forum post or article and would like to add it to this thread, feel free to message me or share the link in this post itself and I'll add it soon!


This took me close to 4 hours to find the posts and compile them Haha, but, if it helps even one person, it is all that matters and I'd be super grateful! ❤


🌻 Always remember you're not alone and we all got this, *together*! Sending love and blessings to everyone coming across ! 🌻

(Last updated by Sunisshiningandsoareyou on 12/23/2021, 11/19/2022)



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theriverissinging December 23rd, 2021

@Sunisshiningandsoareyou wow 😮 thanks everyone for making and compiling these. I also found this [Depression and the Holidays] by @EmmaE in case it's not included in the post already.

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Sunisshiningandsoareyou OP December 23rd, 2021

@theriverissinging

Oooh that's a great one, thankyou for sharing , River ! Added ! ❤

Woohoo @EmmaE , love your contributions ,lovely! ❤

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EmmaE December 23rd, 2021

@Sunisshiningandsoareyou

thank you so much sun! ❤️

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EmmaE December 23rd, 2021

@theriverissinging

hi! thank you so much :)

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CheeryMango December 23rd, 2021

Great post Sun. It’s not a merry time for a lot of people but we’re here for you so it doesn’t have to be a lonely holidays.


The free hugs room will be open on December 24th, 25th and 31st for those who may be a bit more support and love during this holiday season. 💕

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Sunisshiningandsoareyou OP December 23rd, 2021

@CheeryMango

Aww yes MangoStar , thanks to you and everyone involved in the super fun events and activities that help everyone feel *together* ! ❤

Can't wait for the free hugs woohoo!

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DaisyFlower32 December 23rd, 2021

@Sunisshiningandsoareyou

Thank you so much for this, Sun!

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Sunisshiningandsoareyou OP December 26th, 2021

@DaisyFlower32

Aw most welcome, Daisy ! 🌼

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LavenderHere December 23rd, 2021

@Sunisshiningandsoareyou

Sun this is such a lovely post- the writeup is touching.
And I understand it took soooo much effort compiling them, but thank youuuu for doing that for us<3

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Sunisshiningandsoareyou OP December 30th, 2021

Aw thanks Lavvvv. Happy to make this post! ❤ @empatheticLavender2924

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ouiCherie December 23rd, 2021

@Sunisshiningandsoareyou

Always a thoughtful one, Sunnie! Love it! 💜

And for the creators, brilliant posts! 💫

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Sunisshiningandsoareyou OP December 26th, 2021

@ouiCherie

Ayee always a lovely one ! Hugssss cheriee! 💜🤗

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Sher217 December 23rd, 2021

@Sunisshiningandsoareyou

Hey Suni 💜💜💜

You are so thoughtful to bring together all of these posts into one resource! I'm thrilled to be included.

I hope that anyone, who may be struggling, can find hope by seeing that they aren't alone during this time of year.

~ Sher

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Sunisshiningandsoareyou OP December 30th, 2021

@Sher217

Heyy Sherrr 💜💜

We meet again hehe, I enjoy our forum meets lol!

Thanks so much, Sher, the pleasure is all mine forsure!

And ofcourse, I think your threads in the F&C sub community have a huge role in sowing the initial "seed" of compiling resources and making this thread, so a bigggg * thanks * to you for being super thoughtful and amazing yourself, my friend!

I truly hope the same! 🤗

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adventurousBranch3786 December 23rd, 2021

@Sunisshiningandsoareyou. Thank you for this list! I missed some of these and will check them out.

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Sunisshiningandsoareyou OP December 23rd, 2021

@adventurousBranch3786

Aw hehe no worries, there have been so much great stuff around, so easy to not be able to check out everything . I am really glad this post could help in someway , branch ! ❤ You're very welcome !

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lucy2 December 23rd, 2021

Thank you @Sunisshiningandsoareyou <3

This is great, many thanks.


Lucy2

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Sunisshiningandsoareyou OP December 26th, 2021

@lucy2

Thanks backatcha for your support and compassion for everyone , Lucy ! ❤

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GloriaD December 23rd, 2021

@Sunisshiningandsoareyou - This is such a great reminder for all of us - Thank you so much for posting this Sun 🌻

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Sunisshiningandsoareyou OP December 30th, 2021

Pleased to, Gloria! ❤🌻 @GloriaD

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SparkyGizmo December 23rd, 2021

@Sunisshiningandsoareyou

Hi Good Day Sunshine! 😊❤️ Thank you for this amazing forum post! wooo hooo and *high fives* 😊

I really do get where you are coming from! For me too, this can be a time of mixed emotions. I imagine it can be for most, maybe always at least a little something there that is worth exploring in the way of our feelings. It can be this way for many of us as human beings and for a variety of different reasons.

I love how you said "It is more than okay to not vibe with the festive time...." truly everything that you said that followed afterwards.

It's great that you are telling each and every one of us here on this platform that, yes, it's okay. The one thing in life that no one can ever argue with you about is your feelings as they are yours, and yours alone. Someone else isn't feeling them, but you are. You have a right to them, all of them. Good Day Sunshine, thank you for validating the feelings and emotions of all of your teammates, members and listeners alike.

I agree, a huge shout out to all of those that have created these amazing forum threads, curated articles and resources that you have compiled here today including you Good Day Sunshine!

Good Day Sunshine, I acknowledge and appreciate all of the time and effort this took for you to put this amazing forum post together! One great big gift in a huge box with an amazing and shiny, beautiful bow on top!

Loved also what you said closer to the very end. Reminds me of a quote "We might not have it all together, but together, we have it all"! ❤️

To any and all, big *hugs* ❤️ and *high fives* 😊 And also for those that choose to celebrate the holidays, well, as of this writing in my time zone, only "2 more sleeps" till Santa comes. Stay on the "nice list" and I know all of you will! Stay great my friends 😊 ❤️