can we be friends lol???
2023 was a hard year for me. i had a couple losses that rocked me to my foundation. i’m finally feeling ready to socialize again…but it’s been a long time and im an awkward person.
my ex was my entire world and when that all ended i felt broken and lost. the realization that i lost everything and have to start from scratch again was a lot to deal with. having no friends has been a bummer. i constantly feel alone.
i just miss having someone to talk to and laugh with.
@raymond1203 I'm really sorry you've been through such a tough time. It sounds like you've faced a lot of heartache and the feeling of starting over can be incredibly overwhelming. But it's also really brave that you're starting to reach out again. If you ever feel like talking or just need someone to listen, feel free to message me. You're not alone in this, and sometimes just having someone to share a moment with can make a difference. Take your time, and know that healing is a process—you’ve got this.
i was just closing my eyes for bed when i saw your message. thank you very much. that means the world to me. you’re a really nice person.
@raymond1203 I understand what you’re going through. I recently moved and don’t have any new friends. It’s difficult making them as an adult.
yea it’s rly difficult. i do believe if we stay on our paths and stay positive and fun that once we get the ball rolling it’ll be no problem at all. kinda like riding a bike…a lil wobbly at first but once we get moving we’re good. i’m just rly struggling with this wobbly period lol i know ill get to a good place but rn it is rly difficult 😕
@raymond1203 That’s a great outlook to have. Unfortunately, I’m still in the “feeling sorry for myself” stage. If you ever want someone to talk to, I’m here ☺️.
i know what you’re going threw. i’m still stuck in that stage too. sometimes i feel better but i go back to that quiet often. i hope you’re having a good day. thanks for offering to talk i think that’s rly great 🙂
@raymond1203 My day is going okay. I’m currently looking for a new job which isn’t helping. Getting rejected a bunch isn’t boosting my self confidence lol. How’s your day going?
i’m at work rn. trying to get threw it. having quiet anxiety battles to myself lol i swear the only thing worse than working is not working haha but def keep your head up. don’t let this get you down. as long as you continue to try you will def succeed 💪🙂
@raymond1203 Thanks for your kind words. I did schedule 2 new interviews so I’m happy about that. I hope you were able to make it through work okay. I know being anxious while working isn’t fun. Do you practice breathing exercises or have a fidget toy? I know that helps me.
2 new interviews lined up is super great news. def be proud of yourself. i am! i know exactly how painful that process can be. just pushing yourself to apply can be tremendous work. i struggled with that a lot. i think you’re doing great
@raymond1203 Thank you for the kind words. I hope you’re having a great day!
i’m having a very nice very relaxing day. i don’t have work and it’s cold and rainy. so i’m doing around the house stuff today. kitten stuff.
how are you feeling today??? i’ll be around if you need help with any of the interview stuff just lmk…but i’m very certain that you absolutely got this no prob!! 💪👑
@raymond1203 I’m glad you had a good, relaxing day. It’s been snowing all day here. Pretty to look at, not great to drive in lol.
Aww what’s your kitten’s name?
I am holding in there. I’m trying not to feel sorry for myself. So I journaled and did some gratitude exercises. Thanks for the encouragement. The interview is tomorrow so I’ll let you know how it went.
How have you been doing mentally?
that’s awesome good luck and i look forward to hearing how the interview goes. i totally understand struggling with feeling sorry for yourself. i feel like ive been doing that my entire life. for whatever it’s worth, from my pov you seem really great and you have a lot of really strong qualities about yourself.
aw you got snow that’s awesome! i think if it was cold enough here we would have snow but instead it’s just cold rain. we usually get a couple nice snows a year so i know how annoying it can get lol it’s usually beautiful for about 3 days hahaha
my kittens are named Farley & Spade from my fav movies as a kid. they have been amazing. i was rly struggling with anger but once i saw them it rly softened my edge. i rem seeing them and immediately feeling “how can you be angry when you see something this crazy cute”. so now when i get frustrated i try reminding myself that.
Hey! How have you been? Are you doing anything special for Thanksgiving?
My interviews went well. Still waiting for responses from a few jobs. The others I unfortunately didn’t get. But still applying since I really want to leave my current job.
Finally got out of the “feeling sorry for myself” stage. Currently feeling motivated to get things done. I think it’s partly due to the new medication I’m taking. And partly due to trying to start new habits.
Have you gotten snow yet? We’re back to rain for the rest of the week. Snow is called for next week though.
Glad your anger has gotten under control. I know how difficult it is having a short temper. Several of my family members have those issues and aren’t trying to fix it. It’s not fun being around them honestly. So good job on working on that!
Your kittens sound really cute 🥰. Did you rescue them? I have two rescued Bichons named Sapphire and Scarlet.
sapphire and scarlet are great cat names. how old are they? my sister and my mom got me the kittens. a lady dropped them off to me lol i think her cat had a litter and she was desperately trying to unload them. so i guess not a rescue but partially maybe kinda sorta lolol
im super excited for thanksgiving. i’m using pto so no work for a week. i get to see the fam and play with my nieces. i got presents of course haha
tbh i still struggle with my anger but i try to be aware of it and stop it when i can. but you know how life can be sometimes lol
congrats on the interview going well. that is a genuine skill and not everyone can do it. i loooove the attitude shift and hitting the motivated to change stage. that is such a great feeling.
what are you doing for thanksgiving??
Hey! How are you doing today?
Sapphire is 4. Scarlett is 2. They’re both small and white dogs. I rescued them after my old dog, Puffy, passed away. He was 13 and also a rescue. His passing was really difficult since I had just moved into my new place and it was just the 2 of us. They’ve helped me a lot. And I’d like to think I’ve helped them. But sometimes I feel like an awful dog mom.
Well no matter how you got the kittens, I’m glad you did. Pets are really nice to have when you’re going through something.
A whole week off???? I’m jealous lol. How many nieces do you have? Are you close with your family?
Well I’m proud of you for being aware of your anger issues. Being aware of your problems and actively trying to change them is a big step ☺️.
Thank you. Feeling motivated yet still feeling down since I keep getting rejected from jobs. Job hunting is so not motivating, feels like I’m doing everything wrong. But the encouragement really helps ☺️.
The holidays are a sad time for me since a lot of my relatives, and Puffy, have passed away this time of year. So wasn’t really motivated to do anything. I still live with my ex-partner so we ate dinner with the neighbors. Then watched some MythBusters.
How was your Thanksgiving?
i totally understand how hard it is to lose pets. last year i lost lana and she was my only friend for 12 years. it took a lot of time and thinking before these two dudes came into my life. i talked to my sister about them yesterday and apparently they are rescues. the lady found a litter just left outside. heartbreaking stuff. idk how people do that. and i can absolutely be the worlds biggest jerk but still damn dude.
this job actually gives an insane amount of pto lol i got very lucky. i just kinda stumbled into it. i was sooooo down bc i just moved here and had to find a job. i totally believed nothing will be as good as my last job and i was sooooooooooo wrong. like holy s.hit levels of wrong hahaha so def plz DO NOT let it stress you like it did to me, just keep being YOU bc already are doing the best things…stay positive don’t give up and push threw the bad bc the good is def coming…cuz ya earned it 🙂
i’m sorry for your lost. It was extremely hard those first few months. I did get Puffy cremated and put in an urn, which is comforting for me. But I’m glad I took my time finding another dog. My girls are my world now and I’m happy I can give them a better life now. I’m glad she found the litter. I agree, I do not know how people treat animals badly.
Glad you get a ton of PTO. Companies are definitely stingy with it, which is really upsetting. May I ask what you do for work?
Thank you for the encouragement. Sometimes it’s really difficult to stay positive. I try to remember everything happens for a reason at its own pace. I just have to keep pushing forward.
How was your day?
thank you for understanding the struggle of losing a pet ur very close with. i felt so strange trying to explain it to the people in my life. it did take a lot to get past losing lana and i also think that bc of everything i can give my boys a better life 🙂 i also got my pets creamated. the urn is a nice touch. i just have a nice box but i also got their paw print in ceramic. i truly can’t understand how someone can leave kittens outside to die. when i finally had to make the decision to put lana to sleep (bc she wasn’t going to get any better and she was in bad shape) that was the hardest thing i ever did. it broke me for a while.
i am more than happy to be a source of encouragement 🙂 i struggle a lot with staying positive. lately i feel like my attitude comes out and my family is nervous around me. that rly upsets me bc i want everyone to be happy and have fun. but i’ll have this thing inside of me that feels so irritated and does not want to enjoy the moment. that’s just me being straight up dumb lolol 😂
U R RIGHT things happen for a reason and if u keep positive and make good decisions then in time you will get everything you’re looking for 🙂🙂
Just looking back at what I wrote, I apologize for the long message lol. Also, would you mind if I started a private thread?
omg i’m so sorry i missed ur message. i have no problem with a private thread. it would make it a lot easier
You’re good lol. I made a new thread under the “penpal” community!
@raymond1203 we're friends now, no question
yussss!! haha frfr i appreciate ya
Hi, Raymond.
I find myself in a pretty similar situation, and if you want to talk sometime that would be great.
thank you! that means a whole lot.
yeah last year and the beginning of this year were rly hard. i pushed threw and life today is good. so i dont wanna ignore my blessings. but it’s also very lonely sometimes. i appreciate ya reaching out.
i hope you’re feeling good today 🙂
Heyy, honestly i think we relate and I'd love to be friends :)
*** yea love that! where ya from new friend??
Heyyy! I'm from Asia wbu?
wow that is cool! i am from america. how are you feeling today