(Long vent) Worried about a friend
I have a friend. She moved away about two years ago. Before she moved away, she used to be one of my closest friends in school and outside. She had some problems with her family. Her mother practically bullied her and her father wasn't often home because of his job. She moved because of her father's job so that he could be home more often. Her parents at that especially her mother were a big thema. She kften didn't want to go home. After she moved we sorta lost contact, but some time ago we started texting again and started being close over text again. I told her my problems and she told me hers. Things with her family weren't much better. Her father was drinking and her mother was still mean sometimes. Not all the time, there seemed to be good moments with her parents. One evening we were texting because I had an panic attack early the day and suddenly she texted that she had to tell me something. She texted that I shouldn't worry but if something would happen to her it was her father. Long story short her father was drinking once again and she was scared he could do something to her. I tried to calm her down but she was scared to go to sleep, worried he could hurt her in her sleep. She also told me that her father was getting mad because of everything and that he was always yelling at her. Luckily, nothing happend to her. Sometimes when I text her it takes a week for her to answer so I always tell her not to worry and not to stress about texting me. Now she hasn't answered me in 20 days. All my messages arrived but she hasn't read any of them. I know I told her not hurry writing me but I am worried. Her father probably wouldn't actually hurt her but I'm still worried. Her mental health might be in a bad. There's also another reason why I'm worried. When she still lived here and we went to the same school we used to be close with another friend. We were usually together ,the three of us. We once had a conversation that went somehow „negative". She talked about wishing she was dead and of course we talked her out of it. A person probably has to go through a lot to kill herself and even though someone talks about wanting to be dead it doesn't mean the person is actually gonna do it but I'm still worried since I haven't head from her in so long.
I apologize for my probably not correct English. It's not my first language.
@Lilachocolatecake I'm really sorry to hear about your friend's difficult situation. It sounds like she has been going through a lot with her family, and it's understandable that you're worried about her well-being, especially considering what she shared about her father's behaviour. It's good that you've been there for her and tried to support her during those tough moments, but it's understandable that you're concerned about her recent silence. Given the circumstances she shared with you about her father's behaviour, it's natural to worry about her well-being. It might be worth considering reaching out to a trusted adult, such as a family member, to share your concerns and seek guidance on how to support your friend. Remember, you're doing your best as a caring friend, and it's important to prioritize safety and mental well-being. I hope your friend is doing okay and that you're able to reconnect soon.
