Friends
Hi,
I was wondering if anyone has any advice on how to tell a friend that recently started a relationship that you feel left out? (we're spending less and less time together) I struggle with telling people how I feel, mainly because I ovtherthink a lot and creat horrible cenarios in my head.
Thank you!
@LucyGray1799 Hey Lucy. I understand the difficulties of bringing this topic up to your friend. Sometimes it's really easy for us to assume and imagine the worst scenarios. For me when I'm bringing up the courage to bring something up to my friend I like to imagine if my friend asked me the same question how I would react. Usually I wouldn't react negatively so it helps build up my confidence to actually ask them. Of course that is just something that works for me and it may or may not work for everyone.
Hi, I would be glad to help but right now I have no friends and never had much of a chance to socialize with others so I don't really know what to say. I relate to the overthinking tho. It makes my life much harder that it already is. I just hope it will get better for you.
Sending hugggs ❤️❤️❤️
Hey @LucyGray1799!
This is a very difficult conversation to have with someone you clearly care about. How have other difficult conversations with your friend gone in the past? Or in general with other people you care about. How do you usually approach them?
I'm here, anything you need!
@Aputik
I've never really had a conversation like this one before, so that why I'm so unsure. My friends and I just entered that fase of dating and crushes so it's all kind of new to me
@LucyGray1799
I see... It adds up an extra level of difficulty!! But it will be good practice if you ever have to do this again...
Maybe you can think of different ways you could approach it and pick the one you like the most. You could also imagine it the otherway arround, you're the one dating and your friend needs to talk to you about feeling left out. How would you like to hear it?
hey! So I feel ya there.
Something that helped me with the different crazy scenarios and getting to a point where I don’t overthink things as much, is that I started to hold the scenarios up to my mental microscope. Most of the time they wouldn’t ever happen and when I really thought about it they seemed crazy and paranoid. Hope this helps and I hope everything with your friends turns out ok.
Hi,
This is definitely a difficult situation to be in and I understand where you are coming from. I’m cases like this the first things I would do is write out all your feelings on a paper and once you are done throw it away without reading it. That way you have gotten all of your feelings out and when you go to talk to the person it doesn’t seem like you don’t like them - you want to address the problem not insult the person. Then take a step back and think about the best way to tell someone what you are feeling. You may have to rehearse this and talk to your family about it (or someone you trust) and hear their feedback that way when you deliver your message it is clear and hopefully your friends can hear what you are saying.
I hope it goes well for you!! Sending virtual hugs 🤗