Not a good mom
I'm a single mother of 3. Sadly my one of my children left to live with his father. It sad for me but better for him to be happy. My other kids don't seem as happy with me either. I know I'm not a great mother. But I try so hard.
Everyday I wake them for school, push them to get ready and take them to school. Run home then straight to work. Straight from work to pick the youngest up from school. Head home and start to pick up the house and figure out diner. House chores are mostly mine, though the house never seems clean enough.
Both are my parents are dead. So grandma and grandpa time isn't so much an option. Not from my family anyway. I want to be a good mom and for them to look back and have had a happy childhood. It feels like I'm the worst thing for them and that all they have is this crappy,mean, grouchy,always too busy mother.
Sorry that this is all so negative. But writing seemed like an alternative to crying.
@turkeybby
Hello,
Being a single mom has to be incredibly difficult. I feel that as long as you are trying, that is all you can do. Even though you feel like you are lacking, it is all self-doubt. As you said, you are trying your hardest! Give your self some self-compassion. You are doing your best! 💛💫
@turkeybby
you are strong
Hey mama, I'm sorry you're going through this tough time.
I'm a single mother too with 1 child who's father is out of the picture now. My parents have (undiagnosed) NPD/BPD (and they don't believe in therapy), so it wouldn't really be a good idea for little one to be around them much(I'm very VERY low contact with them and plan on going no-contact)... Plus my brothers his uncles, aren't around. So the little one is alone too.
It sounds like you are a good mother, considering how you're worried for the little ones and put in effort everyday to make their lives easier. They may not see all the work you do, but on the future they'll thank you.
Also....
Parenting classes can help too, in terms of balancing working life with family life and self-care time (that's very important too!). I ended up taking parenting classes after I called the cops on my alcoholic ex... It was court ordered. Those classes definitely opened up my eyes on some things I didn't know about. My parents physically & verbally abused me growing up, and some of the things they did, made me think it was normal (ex. When I was maybe 4-5 y.o., I had to wash my blankets after peeing the bed... Or them being very rude/mean about it), but it's not normal.
Maybe check some parenting classes you can do online?
Parenting classes are for EVERYONE and every walk of life regardless of situation.
Anyways, I hope your relationship with your children improve!
Sometimes taking the day off and having family time or 1v1 days with each child may also help improve the relationship. Do what they want to do for the day, take the time to listen to them, etc.
I wish you luck, mama. You got this!
